Ukuthintelwa kwengqondo kwendlela enjalo phakathi kwabantu abatsha kuxhomekeka kwiimeko ezenza isifo sifumaneke. Kubonakaliswe ukuba ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana notywala lwabantu abaselula, ukubancedisa ukuba baphumelele kulo mdlalo, kufuneka siqwalasele inani lezinto ezivela kwimvelaphi yesi sifo, imbono yayo phakathi kwabantu abatsha. Ukususela kulutsha olutywala utywala aluyi kusindisa "umthetho owomileyo", unyango, ulawulo, ukungavunyelwa komthetho akusebenzi. Ngoko ke, ukuba sifuna ukuthintela ukusetyenziswa kotywala phakathi kwabaselula, kufuneka, okokuqala, sithembele kwingqondo yengqondo, into ethile. Ukuze senze oku, kufuneka sisebenze ngokomoya, ukuqonda kwangaphakathi kotywala ngabantu abatsha, okuyiyona nto inzima. Ukwenza oku, qwalasela izizathu zokusela utywala phakathi kwabantwana.
Isizathu sokuqala, esibangela ukuba utywala lwabantwana, luyimpembelelo kubo kwintlalo yoluntu, okubizwa ngokuba yi-microsocium. Abaselula bathonywa ngabazali babo, abahlobo, abeendaba, inkcubeko, isimo sengqondo kotywala ezweni. Impembelelo yabazali ekudakwa kotywala komntwana kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye ilinganiswa yimiba emininzi. Kufana nezofuzo (i-biological), nto leyo ebonisa ukuxhomekeka kwiselo yotywala, kunye neengqondo zengqondo kunye nezifundo. Abantwana bayagxeka malunga nendlela abazali abaphatha ngayo utywala, nokuba bayayisebenzisa ngokwabo, kwaye banokwenzelwa ntoni abazali ngokuphathelele izinto ezinxilisayo. Apha, ukukhulisa kudlala indima ebalulekileyo. Ukuthintela ukuziphatha kotywala kubantu abancinci, abazali kufuneka baxelele umntwana ukuba enze ingozi kumntu, emzimbeni, ukuba aguqule yonke into enxilisayo, ukuze amkholise, ukuba "avule amehlo" kwisifo. I-pedagogical prophylaxis ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi zinika impembelelo ebalulekileyo.
Kodwa inkampani yabo, abahlobo nabo banempembelelo kubaselula. Kwiimeko ezininzi, intsha ikhetha ukuthetha nakwiinkampani ezingaphezulu zabantu abadala, zicingela ngokwale meko zikhulile kwaye zihambile. Naliphi na abahlobo kunye nenkampani inzuzo kumntwana njengomntu, ngaphandle kokuba iphikisana nexabiso kunye neenkolelo zomntwana, zimxoshe ukuba enze izenzo ezimbi. Ewe, ukuba umntwana osemncinci wayenethamsanqa kwaye wangena kwinkampani apho kutywala khona utywala, kwimeko apho kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana osemtsha, ukuze ahlangabezane nezilindele kubazali bakhe nabahlobo bakhe abadala, uya kulandela umzekelo wabo. Kodwa kwelinye imeko kwinkwenkwe yabahlobo bakhe abayizicabangeli zokudlula iglasi okanye ezimbini, okanye bafumane ubunzima bokusela utywala. Emva koko intlalo yentlalo yenkxalabo kumntwana, uyesaba ukuma, ahluke, ubonakala "uyisiphukuphuku" ukuhlala kwaye angaphuzi, njengabanye. "Abahlobo" kwiimeko ezininzi bangela umntwana ukuba atywala, bathi, "njengokuba kunjalo, awuyikusihlonela," okanye "masihambe kancinci, akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo, ke, musani ukoyika, musa kuba yimvu emnyama." Umntwana osemtsha unokuba ngumnxila ngokwakhe. Ngaphezu koko, ngoku utywala phakathi kwabantwana abaselula baninzi ngokubanzi, kwaye ngokoqobo ngamnye wazama utywala kaninzi. Ukuthengiswa kotywala, iziphakamiso zengqondo ngokweengxelo, iimagazini kunye neencwadi, konke oku kutyhila ingqalelo nje kuphela yabantwana abaselula, kodwa kubangela ukuba abantu basebenzise ngoluvo lokuba utywala buqhelekile kwaye bade bupholile, ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo kuyo, ngokuchasene noko luncedo kakhulu, ngoko kufuneka usebenzise nje! Ungakulibali kwakhona ukuba umlinganiselo wokusetyenziswa ngokulinganayo uhlukile kuwo wonke umntu. Ngaphezu koko, iyahluka kumgangatho wezokwelapha. Emva koko, naluphi na, ukusetyenziswa okungelona lukhulu kotywala kanye ngenyanga sele kuse mthwalo kwinkqubo yenzwa, apho akuyi kuba nexesha lokubuyisela ...
Enye into ekudakisweni kolwaphulo lwabantwana abaselula banokubaluleka kwimiba yabo, ubunzima abajamelana nabo kunye nokulungiswa ngokungalunganga ngoncedo lotywala. Nangona into yokuba impembelelo yengqondo kubantu ngabanye ihluke ngokwaneleyo utywala, phantse yonke intsha esazi kakuhle isenzo sayo, iqinisekisa umphumo wokuphumla, ukuzonwabisa, njl njl. Kwiimeko ezininzi, oku kusiphakamiso sengqondo ngokwakho. Utywala luyakunceda ukuphumula, ukwenza izinto ezinamandla-esinye esinye isizathu sokusebenzisa. Iintsholongwane zifunda indlela yokuzilawula ngokwazo, zixubushe kwiimeko ezinzulu, zilawule kwaye zilawulwe imizwa yazo ngaphandle kokutshatyalaliswa. Imiphumo efana nayo ibonakala ilukhuni, eyabangela ukuxhomekeka kwengqondo xa utywala ngokwayo iphilayo.
Ukuthintelwa kwengqondo kwindlela yokuziphatha kakubi kotywala phakathi kwabantu abatsha kuthetha ukuchazwa kwintsholongwane yempembelelo yobutywala, ukuchasana kweengcamango nokuphuhliswa kokuziphatha kwabo, ukuchazwa kwemiba yokuziphatha yale ngxaki. Indima ephambili idlalwe ngabazali, ukunika abantu abasemgangathweni imfundo kunye nokulawula ukuziphatha kwabo, nangona isigqibo esisisiseko sincike kumntu ngokwakhe.