Ukujonga kwimivuzo.
Ngokwezibalo, uninzi lwabantu ababutyebi kunabo bonke emhlabeni jikelele. Kodwa kutheni? Emva koko, isizathu asikho ukuba idatha yengqondo yamadoda iphezulu kunabesifazane. Ewe, namalungelo amabhinqa namhlanje akwazi ukuphulwa.
Kodwa ke yintoni isizathu? Ukususela ebuntwaneni, amakhwenkwe afundiswa ama-simpleton athi umntu kufuneka aphile ubomi, akukho mntu unokunyulwa, yonke into ixhomekeke kuye kuphela. Ngelo xesha, njengentombazana ebuntwaneni, abantu abadala bafundiswa ukuba into eyona nto yayikufumanisa umyeni omhle onokuxhasa intsapho. Ngaloo ndlela, ukuba udibene nekamva elifana naloo mntu okanye kungekhona, lo mfazi ungaphakathi ngaphakathi, ukuba ngelixa unako ukwaneliswa noko. Kodwa xa ebonakala, yonke into iya kuba yinto emangalisayo, kuba ukufumana ishishini akusiyo ibhinqa.
Abameleli besini esomeleleyo abanandaba nangoluvo oluqhelekileyo olwamkelekileyo lwabantu abajikelezayo. Emva kokukhulelwa ukuba avule ishishini lakhe, loo ndoda iya kulandela umzekelo wabantu abaphumelele ngempumelelo kule ndawo. Kodwa lona wesifazane, ngokuchaseneyo, kwiinjongo zokuqinisekisa, uya kukhokelwa ngamatyala angaphumeleli. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba kukho umngcipheko, kungenakugqitywa nje ukuzama ukuzama. Ngaloo ndlela, sinokugqiba ukuba amadoda ayenento yokufunda.
Emva kwakho konke, umngcipheko uyithuba lokuzama amathuba akho. Iingcinga zesifazana ezivela kwindoda ziyaziwa ngokuba zijwayele ukuba zilandele ngokungathandabuzekiyo imithetho ngaphandle kokuziyeka. Amadoda awanakulinganiswa, atyhila amathuba amatsha kunye nemibono.
Abacwangcisi ubomi babo, ukudweba imihla ngemihla, ngokungafani nabasetyhini. Ukuba umntu uyasuswa emsebenzini wakhe, akayi kukwazi ukuthabatha indlela, akayi kuba sisiseko sokudandatheka. Uya kuphumla kancane, aze aqale ukuwunqoba umhlaba wezoshishino okanye nayiphi na indawo. Ngoko ke, sinento yokufunda.
Ukujonga iindleko.
Isimo sengqondo esithile sokusebenzisa imali sidlala indima ebalulekileyo. Masiqaphele into yokuba nayiphi na intengiso, kummandla omkhulu, yenzelwe ukuqonda komfazi. Emva koko, abafazi bahlala bechukumisa ukuchitha imali yabo, ngokomzekelo, kwakukho isimo sengqondo esibi, okanye umzekelo, kukho ukuthengiswa, izaphulelo, njl. Ngokumalunga namadoda, abayi kuze baphuhliswe ngesaziso esifanayo, okanye ngesimo esibi.
Indoda ilandela ukuthengwa ethile xa ifuneka ngokwenene. Lo umehluko. Kwakhona, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba lo mfazi, ukuba akukho mali echaphazelekayo, thanda ukubeka ikusasa. Indoda echasene nayo, zama ukukhishwa kule mali inzuzo. Nokuba bazama ukutshala imali kwishishini elithile, okanye ukubambezela ukuthenga into ethile, kunye nomdla.
Ubuhlobo bomntu.
Unokufunda okuninzi kumadoda apha. Ngokomzekelo, amava amancinane, amava angaphumelelanga ubomi bobuqu. Kwaye ukuqonda ukukhetha kwakhe kuya kuba lula. Ngokomzekelo, indoda yadibana nentombazana yammema kwintlanganiso, emva koko yaqonda ukuba oku akusiyo "yena". Izenzo zakhe ezongezelelweyo ziya kudibana nelokuba akayi kuqhubeka nobudlelwane, kodwa uya kuqhubeka nokukhangela enye "inokwenza" intliziyo yakhe. Intombazana, ekugqibeleni, iya kucinga, ukucinga ukuba ayikho, mhlawumbi ayithethi into ethile, okanye mhlawumbi ufuna ukumbonisa okuthile ngolu hlobo, kwaye kufuneka aqonde ukuba yintoni. Ngokubanzi, ingcamango yabasetyhini kunzima ukuyiqonda. Kwaye kunjalo ngokwenene.
Kodwa ubomi kufuneka baphathwe lula, kulula ukujonga izinto kunye nokuziphatha kwabantu abakujikelezile. Andizange ndibuyele, ngoko ndandingafuni. Kwaye akukho nto yokucinga kunye nokucinga ngayo. Yonke into ilula kwaye icacile. Ingqalelo yethu kunye nenyaniso yokuba le ndoda, isebenzisa le mzuzu, iyakonwabela umdlalo ngeli xesha nje. Ibhinqa emva kobusuku bokuqala echithwe, liqala ukuceba phantse umtshato. Kwaye, indoda leyo, ayikwazi nokuba kutheni. Emva koko, akacwangcisi ikusasa lakhe, ujabulele umzuzu.
Amadoda kufuneka afunde ukuqonda ihlabathi lula. Yenza oko unomdla kuyo, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba kuyimfuneko, kodwa kuba kuyimfuneko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, sinaloo mpawu eya kufuneka ifundwe kunye namadoda. Kodwa ukujonga ihlabathi ngamehlo abo kulungele ukuzama.