Kodwa xa kuthi ngexesha lethu ungena kwenye indlu, ukhumbule i-old story. Kunzima ukucima i-grin phambi kwendawo eninzi yamatyu, izitya ezingahlambulukanga kunye nezinto ezihlakazekile. Mhlawumbi, le ntsapho yenziwe yiminye imimiselo yokumisa umdlalo. Kwesinye indlu kukho umda onqamle ukuhlambuluka, ukuba ukwesaba nje, into ehambayo okanye into yokuthintela. Kulukhuni ukuba ungayivuyo ngenxa yentlalo elawulayo endlwini kwaye ungayi kukuncoma umsikazi. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, kukho umoya wokunganeliseki nokuxhatshazwa endlwini. Kwaye kwindlu yokuhlala yabantu abaxhamlileyo banelisekile omnye nomnye baze baphile, umphefumlo emphefumlweni. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Isazi seengqondo saseMerika uWilliam James ukholelwa ukuba ngaphandle kwemilutha, iinkolelo kunye nezinto ezithandekayo kwisimo sobuntu buntu, kubalulekile ukuba kufaka oko umntu akholelwa ukuba yinto yakhe: izinto ezintle entliziyweni, iimpahla zemihla ngemihla ezikopisha izilwanyana zomzimba, iincwadi ezithandayo kwi-shelf yasekhaya, nangaphezulu. Ukuhlobisa indlu kuyinto yenyama, kwaye umntu unokuthetha ngokubanzi ngabemi bayo ngokujonga ngenyameko indawo yokuhlala. Into yokuqala ebamba iso lakho ngumsila okanye umyalelo. Yintoni, ukususela kwinqanaba leembono zengqondo, lithetha ukuphazamiseka, oku kuwuphawu lokungahambi ngokubanzi, ukungacaciswanga nokungahambi kakuhle. Kodwa umyalelo ofanelekileyo ubonisa imigaqo eqinile kunye nokuvisisana ngokomoya. Kodwa inkcazelo enjalo ilula kakhulu ukuba yinyani. Ekubeni kuzo zonke iintshukumo zobomi zisitshela ezinye izigqibo ezingenangqiqo.
Abazali phantse bonke abantwana bakhononda ngokungacacanga kwabo ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba baphoxe ukuba bagcine umyalelo kwigumbi. Kwaye inqaku liphela kukuba iminqweno yesizukulwana esincinci ibanzi, iqondiswe kwihlabathi langaphandle kwaye ayinamathele kwiinkcukacha zobomi bemihla ngemihla. Kuphela xa umfana evakalelwa kuyo yonke into ephazamisayo yokuba idideythi iqulethe, iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo.
Xa iinombolo zefowuni, ezifunekayo zibhalwa kwezinye iifragi zephepha, xa ungazi apho ungayifaka khona into efunekayo, xa indawo ejoliswe ukudibana nabahlobo okanye iiklasi zizele ezinye izinto, ngoko uqala ukunyamekela umyalelo. Kodwa ukuba ngumntu oqolileyo, umntu ufumana ukuchaneka kwangempela.
Ngaba ithetha ukuba ukukhubazeka kwindlu kubonisa ukuba umncedisi okanye inkosikazi akakwazanga ukukhula ngokufanelekileyo? Mhlawumbi kuya kuba yindoda yokuphila nokusebenza kuyo yonke into, njengomntwana omncinci. Kodwa ingxaki apha ingabinzulu. Sonke, ekugqibeleni, siyaqonda ukuba kubi ukuphosa izinto kude.
Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukuzisa umyalelo endlwini yakhe, oko kubonisa kuphela ukungqubuzana kwangaphakathi. Imfucumfucu eqokelekileyo, iingubo eziqhekezayo njalo njalo, bathethe inkosi yabo, ukuba akakwazi ukubeka izinto kwindawo zabo.
Isitya esipheleleyo seitya ezingahlambulukanga, iiveki zokuhlamba ezihlambulukileyo eziqokelelweyo, udoti oluninzi luyakuthi, anditsho ukuba andiyazi indlela yokulungisa kunye neendlela zokusombulula iingxaki, andazi indlela yokusasaza imikhosi yam. Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukulungelelanisa ubomi bakhe, ke imisebenzi emininzi ayinamandla.
Ibhizinisi lakho aliphikisi, into engenzekiyo njengoko ungathanda, awucingi ukuba izimo zobomi ezibucayi nje ziphuma phantsi kolawulo lwakho? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndingathanda ukunqoba lo mvakalelo ongathandekiyo. Qala encinci, jonga ekhaya lakho kwaye uzibuze apho ufuna ukuhlambulula khona.
Xa ubeka izinto zakho ezazisasazekayo kwiishelulo, ngoko wenza okungakumbi, ufunda, ulungiselele iingxaki zakho, oko kukuthi, uzibeke kwiithalafu. Faka "ukucaca kwakho" ukucaca kwaye iziphumo aziyi kukulinda.
Kukho enye ingqongqo. Indlela yokugcina ingqalelo kwiingcali zengqondo, ukuzibophelela ngamandla kwi-oda kunye nobumsulwa, uphawu lokuzithemba, uphawu lobuthathaka ngaphakathi.
Ngokuhlela umhlaba wakhe wenyama ekhaya, indoda, njengokuba kunjalo, ifuna ukuzikhusela kwiingxabano zehlabathi elikhulu, eliyingozi kwaye lincomekayo kuye. Ngaloo ndlela isangqa esichukumisayo soxinzelelo luvela: into eyenziwe ngumntu osuka kwindlu ayikho kwindawo yayo, izisa intlungu kunye nokukhathazeka. Ukusebenza kwindlu kuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla, akushiyi indawo yezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo. Kwaye ke kule ngqungquthela ekhethiweyo inesivakalelo.
Umgibe onjalo unokutshintshwa kwisicatshulwa esazifundiweyo kwintsapho yomzali, xa umyalelo waba ngumgomo wobomi obalulekileyo kunye nayiphi na indleko. Umntu onjalo unokuba nosizi kuphela, owona msebenzi owona mkhulu ugqwesileyo kunye neelayile ezimhlophe. Emva koko, ukulungiswa kwindlu yimeko eyimfuneko, kwaye kungekhona injongo, ukujongana nale ngxaki ebalulekileyo yobomi. Ukuba siyiqonda le nyaniso elula, ngoko siza kufumana igolide ebonisa ukuthintela ukuvumelanisa okwenyaniso-okomoya kunye nezinto eziphathekayo.
Igumbi ngalinye endlwini linentsingiselo engumqondiso, kwaye inempembelelo yalo kwisigxina sakho. Udoti kunye nokuhlambalaza kuzo zonke igumbi kubangela ukunyuka nokungahambi kwezinye iinkalo zobomi.
Ingxaki ekhitshini
Akumangalisi ikhitshi kuthiwa "intliziyo yendlu." Apha uyadla, ugcina amandla, nangona udla isidlo kunye nomtya ogqityiweyo ogqityiweyo ovini. Ukutya okungcolileyo kunye nokungcolileyo kubangela ubunzima ekunikezeni kunye nokutya, kwinqanaba lokomoya nangokwenyama. Njengoko unomdla ngekhitshi, unokuxelela ukuba uhambelana njani nemithombo yobuninzi, ukunikezelwa kwamandla, ukutya kwakho. Ikhishi elicocekileyo nelicocekileyo livula indawo yokuthuthuzela kunye nokukhuselwa okufunekayo kakhulu.
Ingxaki kwisigumbi sokudlela kunye neendawo zokuhlala
Lawa ngamagumbi apho uhamba nabahlobo, kunye nosapho, nabantu banokuvala ngokulingene. Apha udibanisa nehlabathi langaphandle xa uhlala ekhaya, uxubana nabahlobo malunga nezopolitiko kwitheyibhile lesidlo, funda iphephandaba, ubukele iTV. Ukudideka kuya kutshintsha le ndawo ibe yideni, kwaye mhlawumbi ungcolile kangangokuthi awumemezeli abahlobo iminyaka. Mhlawumbi ufihla kwabanye emgqonyeni werhafu?
I-Clutter egumbini lokulala
Amagumbi okulala abantu abadala bayindawo yokuthandana kunye nokulala, kufuneka bafezekise umsebenzi wokuhlaziya ubudlelwane nabantu. Ingxaki elala kwigumbi lokulala ayiyi kuzisa amandla, kodwa ubuthathaka. Ukuba kwisithuba esona sithandane kakhulu uziva udele, vele ubeke izinto ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye oku kuya kukunceda ukuba usuke kude noxinzelelo kwaye uphumule. Kwaye ngoko ke unokuba nexesha elihle kunye neqabane lakho kwaye ube nobuthongo obuhle.
Ukudideka kwi-corridor
I-corridor yintsimbi yendlu yakho. Kwaye umonakalo kwikorriyali yakho, njenge "jam jam" endleleni. Kukuthintela ukuba ungabandakanyeli kunye neendawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bakho kunye nekhaya lakho. Khangela i-corridor: ngaba kunzima ukukhubeka kuyo, ngaba kulula ukuhamba ngayo, kukhanya kakuhle? Ukuba unenkathazo ekusebenzisaneni nabantu kunye nawe, phakathi kwentsapho nomsebenzi, mhlawumbi, lixesha lokuba ubeke izinto ngokufanelekileyo kwikorridi.
I-Clutter kwindawo yokuhlambela
Ukunyamekela umzimba kunye nokungcola kwimihla ngemihla. Ubomi bemihla ngemihla, le ndawo uyenzisayo, ukuze ukwazi ukulungiselela ukunxibelelana nehlabathi. Ingxaki ekuhlambela kuyo ibonisa ukungabi nantoni, kwaye kungekhona kuphela kwinqanaba lomzimba, libonisa ukuzithoba. Indlu yokuhlambela ehlambulukileyo neyohlambulukileyo ingaba yindawo yokuvuselela kunye nokuzinakekela, indawo enokuthula kunye nenokuthula. Ukuhlobisa indlu yakho yokuhlambela, uhlambulule ibe yindawo apho ungafihla kuwo wonke umntu kwaye uhlale kunye nawe, apho uya kuziva ukhuselekile ngexesha lokuhlwa kunye nemikhosi yokuhlamba.
I-Clutter kwindlu yangasese
Xa ugcwalisa indlu yangasese kunye negqabi, ukhuphazela ingqiqo yakho kunye ne-intuition. Indlu yangasese engcolileyo ibonisa iingxaki eziphazamisa ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane kunye nomsebenzi, zonakalisa ukuphuhliswa kwakho ebomini, iingxaki ongaziqondi kakuhle. Xa umnyango wendlu yangasese uvalwe ngokuqinile, oku akuthethi ukuba ushiye iingxaki.
Ingxaki kwigalaji
Imoto yakho isimboli sokuzimela nokuhamba. Ukuba unesitya sokulahlwa kwelahla kwigalaji yakho, imoto yakho ayikwazi ukufaneka khona, ngoko kufuneka uqaphele, kwaye kunzima ukuba uhambe ubomi.
Ngoku siyazi ukuba umonakalo egumbini uvela kwinqanaba leengqondo. Musa ukucinga ngokucoca, njengento eyoyikisayo. Iphepha ngalinye olinika kumnini omtsha, nganye incwadi enokuyifumana kwilayibrari. Kwaye kunye nawo onke iphepha elithile lamaphephancwadi kunye neli phephancwadi oyifake kwi-junk, liya kudala kwindawo yakho yobomi kwiziganeko, uvuyo kunye namandla omtsha.