Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi. Iyokuqala isisemkhatsini ebonakalisa umnqweno "wokugubungela" njengabesifazane abaninzi ngokusemandleni. Umbutho uyabaxolela ngenxa yesenzo esifanelekileyo ngokwesini, kodwa akuzange kube ngumfazi. Ngoku kuyimfashini yokukhokela indlela yokuphila njenge-lady-vamp, ephathekayo kwaye ekhangayo, kodwa ngokuchanekileyo, xa umntu eqala ukuthatha inyathelo, kunye nesimo senkosikazi ukuba sivume okanye cha. Ngoko, amadoda adinga ukulala ngesondo ukuze asebenzise izilwanyana zendalo.
Isizathu sesibini sisoloko sisisigxina esingaphezu kwamandla angasetyenziswanga ekhaya ngelixa sibheka abantwana, njl. Baqala ukutya okuninzi, basele, badlala imidlalo, enceda ukuzalisa umzimba wakho ngamandla. Esi sizathu sokuba amadoda adinga ukulala ngesondo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngaphandle kokufuna ukuxhatshazwa kwemvakalelo, into ephambili apha ukuphumla. Ukongezelela, amadoda kufuneka agcine imisipha yawo ngetoni, ngakumbi abo bachaphazeleka ngokuthe ngqo ngexesha lesini. Ukuba akukwenziwanga, baya kufutshane kwaye bayeke ukusebenza. Kubonakala ukuba amadoda adinga ukulala ngesibini ubuncinane ngenyanga, kungenjalo kungabangela ukungabi nantoni, okwesabayo.
Kukho nesizathu sesithathu, kodwa sikhethekile kubemi besilisa. Bacinga ukuba aba bafazi babenza baxhalabele. Kwaye kuzo zonke iindwendwe zabo, nokuba "ngakwesobunxele" bayamangalela abasetyhini, bathi, basiphosa kwii-paws zabanye abafazi. Ngaba abantu badinga isondo kakhulu kangangokuthi abasayi kubona izinto eziphambili kwaye bafuna ityala apho bengekho? Amadoda ayizidalwa ezingalindelekanga, kodwa sonke sisebenzisa ukuxazulula imicimbi yethu ngenye indlela.
Ngenxa yezi zizathu, amadoda aphulaphule ngakumbi ukulala ngokwesondo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunabesifazana abakhulu ngokwesini kunye nabameli abangabonini besondo esomeleleyo, okuphambukayo kwimilinganiselo eyamkelweyo. Lo mva wanikela umsebenzi womtshato ngokuzama okukhulu. Kuyaziwa ukuba ukuxinwa ngobuninzi kubangela ukuba kuncipha kwindoda. Kutheni? Isizathu esona sizathu samandla. Ubunxila luyimveliso efuna izixhobo ezinkulu zamandla okuhlula. Kwiindawo ezincinci zotywala, umzimba ufumana izibonelelo ngokulula, kodwa kubanzi kunzima kakhulu. Ubuza njani? Ukuthabatha utywala othile kwandisa umsebenzi, kunye nesondo. Kwaye, oku, kubakholisa, kuba abantu badinga isondo njengomoya.
Ukuze ujabulele ubomi kwaye ulale ngesondo, kuyimfuneko ukuba uhlale unesimo esihle kakhulu somzimba kwaye udibanise umfazi wakho kule ngqungquthela. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukufumana ukuphumla.
Kule meko, abafazi kufuneka bathembeke ngokunyanisekileyo kwintsebenziswano yesondo yabantu, echazwe ngumzimba wabo kwaye zibekwe ngexesha lokuzalwa ngamaziko. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuqina kunamandla kunokhetho olukhethiweyo. Oku akufanele kulandelwe. Oku akuyi kubakho kwisiphumo esihle. Hlonipha omnye nomnye, kwaye ke ngoko bobabini abasetyhini kunye namadoda badinga ukulala ngokwesini kuya kuba kaninzi nangaphezulu. Imvume yobudlelwane bobabini abalingani iya kubakhokelela kwixesha lokulala. Kwaye oku, njengoko besithi, yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kulwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngezesondo, kufuneka uthembele lakho iqabane kwaye umhlonele, ukuba bafuna ukugcina ubudlelwane babo buqhubeka.