Into ephambili - nangayiphi na imeko, musa ukudibanisa amaphupha kunye nokunyaniseka kwaye ungahlaseli kunye nokumangalelwa kumthandi wakho. Kungenzeka ukuba unengxaki kwibudlelwane, kwaye ukuchazwa okuchanekileyo kwiphupha elinjalo kuya kunceda ngexesha lokuzixazulula nokugcina intsapho.
Kutheni amaqhinga okugwenxa ngamaphupha ahlukeneyo
Miller
Xa uphupha ukuba uthe wangcatsha intanda yakho, ithetha ukuba ukuthanda kwakho kwangaphambili bekuphelile. Okokuqala, kuvela kuwe. Kungenzeka ukuba indoda okanye inkwenkwe idibanise. Kodwa awukwazi ukubizwa ngokuba ngumlingane ofanelekileyo wobomi. Mhlawumbi wayeka ukuzijonga kwaye waba mnandi emehlweni akhokhethiweyo.
Vanga
Kwakhona ukholelwa ukuba ukuba ukuphikisana kukuphupha, oko akukuzi kakuhle. Ukuba oku kwenziwa yinkwenkwekazi, ngoko usengozini yokuhlazeka kunye nokuthotywa, ngakumbi ukuba ubonile ukuba utshintshile nomhlobo wakho othandekayo. Kule meko, indoda ingagcina ipholile kuwe. Iphupha lokunyanzela likwazi nokuba ngumlenze womtshato, ukuba ucinga ukuba uzama ukunyenga umfana omncinane kunako.
Freud
Ukholelwa ukuba intombazana encinane eyatshintshile umthandi wayo ephupheni, nangona kunjalo ingakatshatanga, ingalindela ngokukhawuleza inomxholo oqaqambileyo onomdla. Noko ke, umfazi otshatileyo uphuphaphupha, kodwa ke, akahlali kakuhle. Akakwazi ukwenza ukhetho phakathi komsebenzi wakhe kunye neminqweno yomphefumlo, yingako kukho iingxaki ezininzi ezivela ebomini, kubandakanywa ubudlelwane.
Ezinye iinguqulelo zokugwenxa ngokulala
- Intombazana encinci ishintshile umfana - ngoko uya kulala ngoncedo lomthandi wakhe. Kodwa zama ukungawenzi, kuba ukukhohlisa kuya kutyhila kwaye intanda iyakujika.
- Sitshintsha umntu okhoyo wangaphambili, ubonisa ukuba awunelisekanga ngobomi besondo ngobudlelwane obukhoyo.
- Ukuba ngexesha lokulala kuyacaca ukuba utshintshile umyeni wakho ngenxa yokuziphindezela, ngoko kuya kwenzeka ukuba awuhambisani nomlingane wakho ngaphambili, kodwa ngoku ulwalamano luya kubuyiselwa, kwaye ukukhwabanisa kuya kutshatyalaliswa ngamandla.
- Ukuba umntu obathandayo utshintshile ephupheni, okokuqala, okokuqala, kuthetha ukuba awukwazi ukuza kumbono oqhelekileyo malunga nayo yonke imiba yobomi.
- Intandokazi ngokuqinisekileyo yavuma kuwe ngokunyanzela? Esi sisilumkiso sokuba akanakho ukufudumala kunye novelwano ngokwenene. Ukulindela kuwe kungekuphela isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye ugxininise kumaqhosha, kodwa nenkxaso yengqondo.
- Ndiphuphile ukuba umyeni wam ukukhohlisa kuwe nentombi yakho? Khangela impendulo ngobudlelwane obungenaye kunye naye, kodwa kunye naye. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba kukhangeleka, kulungile kwaye kuyaphumelela kwaye ukwesaba ukuba owakhethiweyo uya kukutshintshela umhlobo. Kufuneka wenze isigqibo - okanye ulingane nayo, okanye umane uyeke ulwalamano ukuba unxinzelelwe luluntu.
Nangona kunjalo, kwezinye iincwadi zephupha kuthethwa ukuba ukuba iphupha lokungcatsha, ubuhlobo bokwenene buya kuba bufudumele kwaye bube buqotho.
UFrud uhambelana nomnye umbono. Ukholelwa ukuba ukuba ukuphikisana kuye kuye kwaphupha, ngoko ke inyaniso inemfuneko yokuba kwenzeke. Indlela yodwa yokukhusela ukuba uthethe intliziyo ngentliziyo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye uzame ukufumana oko akanayo kwimigqaliselo yesondo. Emva koko, njengokuba kukho ukubonisa, intetho yokuqala kwiintsapho zenzeke ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokunganeliswa ngokwesini.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukungcola kwakho awuzange uyiphuphe - oku kubonakaliso olucacileyo ukuba kufuneka uhlolisise ubuhlobo. Mhlawumbi i-routine ikukhohlisile kakhulu kangangokuthi uyeka ukunikela ingqalelo ngokufanelekileyo kwintanda. Ngoko ke ungamangaleli umntu omnye kuphela. Kukwaphulwa kobudlelwane, ezimbini ziza kubeka ityala, kwaye imizamo yokudibanisa kuphela inokunceda ukuseka uthando oluphukile.