Imibuzo yenkolo ayilula nje njengoko sicinga. Kwanje, xa ubuzwe kunye nenkolo, njengeenkolelo zezopolitiko, ngokuzimeleyo, ubhaptizo lwabantwana, ukuba ngabazali beenkolelo ezahlukeneyo, lunokuba yingxaki enkulu.
Akunabo kuphela abafazi bomtshato ohlukileyo abanomdla kubhaptizo, kodwa nabazali babo. Kwaye kwimeko yentsapho ethembekileyo (okanye kunoko, izizukulwana ezininzi zeentsapho ezimbini), iintsapho zangempela ziyaxhathisa. IMontagues kunye neCapuleti yekhulu lama-21-yilokho ubhaptizo lwabantwana oluba ngabazali beenkolelo ezahlukeneyo.
Ehlabathini lanamhlanje lilonke, kukho uxolo olungakumbi kunye nobulungisa. Kuninzi kangangokuba amadoda anyanzelekile ukuba asebenze nzima ngeempelaveki okanye adlale imidlalo yekhompyutheni yokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Emva kwakho konke, akukho mfazwe, kunye nokuziphatha okufanelekileyo kwimeko yokuphikisana "i-punch ebusweni". Nangona kunjalo, njengendawo yokudlulela kwiinkulungwane ezidlulileyo, kwahlala imfundiso.
Ukholo alukho nje iinkolelo zomntu. Zizo ezo ncam, de ukuqhubeka kwethu, inzala yethu, ibonakala. Kwaye kulo mzuzu amaqela achasene nawo afakwe kwingxabano.
Malunga nabazali nezinye izalamane
Njengomthetho, abafazi ngokwabo banako ukusombulula le ngxaki enzima. Kodwa abadlali abakhulu baya kuba ngabazali kunye nezihlobo. Emva koko, umbuzo wenkolo kaninzi umcimbi wentsapho ethile, imvelaphi yentsapho kunye nentsapho. Ngoko ke, uluvo lwalo "ndlu" luya kuthathwa ingqalelo kuqala.
Iintetho ezintathu zokusombulula ingxaki:
- Ukuba ubuncinane omnye wabafazi unokuqinisekisa ukuba "indlu" yakhe yimiba ebaluleke kakhulu yokholo, ngoko, mhlawumbi, ukuhlangabezana nezifiso zesahlulo sesibini kunye nosapho lwakhe.
- Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba enye inxalenye yeentsapho ihlala kunye nentsha, kwaye yesibini - kwesinye isixeko, ngoko ukugcina "ingxabano yenkolo" kumgama kulula.
- Ngamanye amaxesha umgaqo othi "owathi wavuka kuqala, omnye kunye ne-sneaker" usebenza kakuhle. Wena. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukubhaptiza umntwana, kwaye uya kujongana nale ngxaki nzima phambi kwayo yonke into.
Ungakuphepha njani ingxabano?
Xa betshata, baninzi iphupha le-sakramente yomtshato, enokuthi ihambe kunye nomkhosi wembambano. Nangona kunjalo, ngobushushu bothando, ngenxa yeengxabano ezivuthayo, indlela yokubhiyozela, mhlawumbi, ngomtshato kwaye ukhohliweyo.
Akuqhelekanga ukuba abefundisi bavumelane nezibophelelo 'zomtshato ezulwini' kunye nabameli beenkolelo ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka kwiindawo ezininzi zamaKristu, kodwa zikhona ezinye, imitshato engabonakaliyo.
Ewe, ukuba omnye wabatshatileyo ngaphambi kokuba umtshato uphinde ube yinye inkolo. Emva koko akukho mbambano. Kodwa njengomthetho, emva kokushiya yedwa ekuvumeni kwabo, abafazi baqala umba wokubhaptiza umntwana ngaphandle. Ngoko, ingozi eyayilahlekelwa yimpumelelo, iya kubuya, kwaye ingxaki iya kubonakala kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo. Ubhaptizo lwabantwana, ukuba ngabazali beenkolelo ezahlukeneyo, luvavanyo kwiintsapho zonke.
Indlela yokulungiselela kwangaphambili?
Kodwa, njengommiselo, yonke into ayinzima kwaye imbi, ukuba abazali beenkolelo ezahlukeneyo banquma ukubhaptiza abantwana ngaphandle kokukhawuleza. Kule meko, ukuba akuyintsana, kodwa, yithi, intombazana, kuya kuba mnandi ukuba abuze ngesimo sakhe sengqondo kwinkolo, ehamba phambili nencoko yenkcazelo ebangela ukuba kubalulekile kubazali.
Ewe, xa ngokubanzi kukho ithuba lokuhlala phantsi kwaye uxoxe ngeemeko kwangaphambili. Emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo ubhaptizo lwabantwana, ukuba ngabazali beenkolelo ezahlukeneyo, kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza.
Phakathi komnye nomnye
Xoxa ngengxaki kunye nokhetho olukhethwa sisisombululo esiphezulu kwintsapho - okokuba, ngabazali ngokwabo bomntwana. Kwaye sele sele sele isilungiselelo esilungileyo kunye, "ubumbene phambili" ukwenza umzabalazo wenkolo ekhethiweyo.
Oko oku kunika:
- Okokuqala, intsapho ibonisa ukuzimela kwayo ekuxazululeni imiba. Kwanjalo ezinzima ezifana nokubhaptizwa komntwana.
- Okwesibini, isisombululo esisodwa sishukumisela ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu kwizizukulwana ezidala.
- Okwesithathu, kulula ukuba "uthathe" ukuphazamiseka kwimicimbi yangaphakathi yentsapho.
Intsapho ehlukeneyo iphela iyafa. Ukwandisa, igama elithi "intsapho" libhekisela kuphela kubatshati kunye nabantwana babo. Ngoko, ingxaki yokuvuma nokubhaptizwa iyancipha. Kodwa kufuneka kwakhona iqwalaselwe ngokunyameka nangokuchanekileyo. Emva koko, ngoku umbuzo wenkolo, ubhaptizo kunye nenkolo yinto yokuqala kunye nenkohlakalo yokugcina izithethe, iiholide zeentsapho kunye nenkcubeko. Yaye uyayigxotha, njengokungathi yinto engabalulekanga - ithetha, ukulimaza indlela yentsapho, ukutshabalalisa ngezandla zabo ezakhiwe zizizukulwana.