Abafazi bacinga ntoni?
Ngokwemvelo, kuphela lona wesifazane okwazi ukusebenzisa umkhonto wakhe kumphathi, ongayithwalwanga ngokupheleleyo ikhaya kunye nosapho. Kumele abe nomnqweno wokudlala ngothando kunye nokubonisa ubulili bakhe.
Kakade ke, akukho manani aseburhulumenteni kwinani lobudlelwane phakathi komphathi kunye nabangaphantsi. Kodwa ngenxa yeziphumo zophando ezingaphezu kwe-70% yabasetyhini bazimisele ukuqala ubudlelwane emsebenzini. I-12% kuphela echasene ngokubanzi kunye nomphathi kwaye ngaphantsi kweemeko ziya kuvuma kwi-etho. Iinkundla ezivela kumphathi zibona kakubi kakhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zikhetha ukuhamba, ukwenzela ukuba zingabangeli iingxaki. Kodwa baninzi abaphathi abachaphazelekayo. Ngamanye amaxesha afunyanwa, alahlekelwa ngumdla kwaye aguqule kwenye into. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokucacileyo akukho. Amadoda ayengaqondi ngokungaqondani kunye namacebiso. Ibhinqa limele lisilandele ngokukhawuleza, lingabhubhisi okanye likhuthaze umphathi. Zonke iintetho kufuneka zithinte umsebenzi.
Kodwa njengoko kubonakala kubalo-manani, inani elikhulu labasetyhini liphupha ngokuthandana nomphathi, kodwa banokumiswa ngoloyiko lokuba umyeni okanye umngane uya kufumanisa. Kwakhona, abanye abafazi bayaqonda ukuba xa kwenzeka ukuphuka kulwalamano, banokuxoshwa.
Ibhinqa esele ixoxwa kuqala kunye nomphathi ikhetha yena ngokwakhe, uyayithanda le ndoda kwaye ilungele ukuba ne-lyon kunye naye ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ukuqhubela phambili kule ndawo, ukukhulumisana kwabo kwexesha elide kwakhiwa.
Ukuba nolwalamano lomntu kunye nomphathi, banesiphene esikhulu. Umfazi uya kuhlala eziva ephantsi. Nangaphandle komsebenzi, umnini-mqhubi uya kuhlala esesikhundleni esiphambili. Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kuphazamisa ukuphumla kunye nokuba mhlawumbi ingxoxo ngokuqhubekayo ngemiba esebenzayo yomzuzu. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba nokuba umbhede awukwazi ukulondoloza umfazi ekuxothweni kunye nomvuzo ophantsi. Ngoko ke, ungakhohlwa ukuba kulula kakhulu ukufumana u-bossmozhno ngokukhawuleza kwaye unako ukutshisa ukuze aphinde akhumbule.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubudlelwane obunjalo buyenze kwaye kuthetha izinto umphathi oyithandayo. Nayiphi na ubudlelwane kunye nabaphathi bengozi ekufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo.
Iqela elisebenza emsebenzini liya kubona ukuba utshintsho lwalamano lomphathi kunye nabangaphantsi. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba nomona, umsindo kunye nokunganeliseki kwintsebenziswano yabasebenzi. Kwinqanaba kuya kuba nehlebo kunye kwaye kulungele ukulungelelaniswa ukuhamba okukhulu kokungabi nantoni.
Ibhinqa, idibana nomphathi, iqalisa ukuqhathanisa nesiqingatha sayo sesibini. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kubangela ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba engathandekiyo. Inkosi ekhuselekile iyakhangeka ngaphezu komntu oqhelekileyo kunye nomthonyama. Ngokuqhelekileyo uphumelele kakhulu, ichaneka kwaye inomdla. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina intloko yakho emahlombe akho kunye nesinyathelo ngasinye kufuneka ucingwe ngqalelo kwangaphambili. Ngamanye amaxesha indoda kumanqanaba okuqala inomusa kwaye inomusa, ngoko uqala ukubala nganye indebe. Kwixesha elizayo, unako ukuhamba kwaye ube ngumthandayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo iqhophololo ibhinqa, kwisigaba sokuqala ukuvavanya iimeko ezininzi, ngokukhawuleza ukwenqaba ukujongana nomphathi, ekuqaphele ukuba oku kuya kubakho nto.
Kunzima kubafazi ukudibanisa uthando kunye nomsebenzi. Nakuphi na ukugxekwa okanye izimvo azibona kunzima.
Kodwa inveli kunye nomphathi, ngaphezu kwezinto ezininzi zokunciphisa, zineenkohlakalo zayo ezingenakuphikiswa. Abasetyhini banemvakalelo, kwaye ukuxhamla ubomi bentsapho kunokumkhathaza. Bayeka ukulandelela ngokwabo, iimfuno zabo ziqala ukukhawulelana emsebenzini, ekhitshini nakwintsapho. Abasetyhini bayeke ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuzonwabisa ubomi. Ulwalamano olutsha kunye nokuvezwa kunika imali enamandla yamandla, i-vivacity nokuzithemba. Umsebenzi ukhula ngovuyo, kuvuyisa. Ibhinqa licinga ngokucwangcisa ikhabethe layo kunye nokwenza yonke imihla. Uhlala eqala ukuzinyamekela, ukuzinyamekela kunye nokutyelela i-salons. Kuphawulwe ukuba abafazi baba nhle kwaye banomdla.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, iireveli zothando zomsebenzi azivakalisi. Oku kunika ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo. Ukuthinta ngokungaqhelekanga kunye nokumanga kuthanda.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umphathi wabo ozithandayo uphakamisa ngokukhawuleza enkonzweni, ekuncedeni ukwenza umsebenzi. Intloko kunye nomfazi uya kuba neengxoxo eziqhelekileyo kwingxoxo. Ukuba umntu ongaphantsi uhlakaniphile ngokwaneleyo kwaye ubale, unokufumana uninzi lwalamano.
I-Vseromany kunye nomphathi unokwahlukana ngamaqela amathathu aqhelekileyo kunye namaxesha amaninzi ahlanganisane nawo:
- Ibhinqa liphupha kwaye linethemba lokutshata nomntu ophakamileyo. Ngokwezibalo, oku kwenzeka kakhulu kunqabile kwaye uyisichukuphuku kakhulu ukuthemba.
- Ubudlelwane buqala ukufumana ukunyuswa nokuphakamisa umvuzo. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba amadoda amaninzi i-kshovinistam. Bakholelwa ukuba ibhinqa elidalwe ukuzincama alinakukwazi kwaye akufanele lihlakaniphe. Kwakhona, indawo ephakamileyo efunyenwe ngoncedo lwabaqeshi ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuqondwa ngabalingane njengobulungisa obukhulu. Kubalulekile ukuba balungiselele ukuba baya kuzama zonke iindlela zokulimaza kwaye bafake indawo. Kodwa abaninzi baphumelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba baqhube phambili kwinkonzo, bephethe ulawulo lomphathi.
- Ukususela ekungabikho kwemvakalelo yowesifazane, ingqwalasela yecala lomntu. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokwenzeka kwaye kuthandane, kwaye emva kwexesha unako ukuhamba ngothando. Nguwo olu lwalamano oluza kwenza unolonwabo olukhulu kwaye lwenze abantu banwabe kwaye banamandla. Kule meko, loo mfazi akaphindi iinjongo kuzo zonke kwaye ngoko akalindelanga kakhulu kumphathi. Ngona mfutshane, uthando oluthile lunokushiya imemori emihle, ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokubonakaliswa kumsebenzi.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo zifuna ukuba kunye nomphathi, kodwa akayizi. Zininzi iindlela ezilula zokufumana ingqalelo. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale nawaphi na amanyathelo, kufuneka kakhulu kunokwenzeka ukuba ufunde umphathi wakho. Ngenxa yoko, kukho amathuba amaninzi emsebenzini. Kubalulekile ukufunda izinto ezincinci malunga nenkcazo kunye nezinto ezithandwa yizopolitiko.
Ziqaphele ngokusebenzisa amandla akho okusebenza. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, kubalulekile ukwenza amanqaku okumele ahambelane ngokupheleleyo neembono zentloko. Kufuneka ube yinto encinci ye-sycophant. Kubalulekile ukuba kubonakale, kubonakala kancinci ngesini. Kubalulekile ukuseka ubudlelwane kunye neqela. Akuyimfuneko ukulibala ukuba ubuninzi bexesha elipheleleyo lokusebenza lichithelwa kunye neqela. Ubuhlobo obuhle buya kuphepha ukungabi nantoni kunye nokulwa. Indawo efanelekileyo yokuthatha amanyathelo amaninzi ngamaqumrhu, aqhelekileyo kumaxesha amuva nje.