Unxibelelwano olungaphezulu?
Ngamnye wethu uqhelana nomnqweno wokuthetha nabantu abanovelwano nathi kunye nathi esibaxolela ngayo. Yile ndlela imfuno yazo zonke izibilini, esizixubusha ngazo, ukudala ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, obubizwa ngokuba "ukudibanisa" (ukuxhuma), kubonakalisa. Sidinga abo baqonda iimpawu zethu, ulwazi kunye nezakhono, impumelelo kunye nokufaneleka. Ngoko kusemvelo ukuba ubuhlobo buvela apho sisebenza khona. Kodwa ngaba kulungile ukujonga ubungqina obunjalo? Ingaba kukho ukuthandana, ukufudumala, ukunyaniseka, ukuthandana ngokomoya - yonke into ehambelana nobuhlobo phakathi kwethu?
Ngamanye amaxesha sonke siya kusemini kunye neli sebe lonke, simema umntu ngomhlwa, kodwa andizange ndibize umntu osebenza naye kumhlobo wam osondeleyo. Sibelana ngezinto ezininzi komnye nomnye, kodwa sinokuthula ngokuphathelele izinto ezininzi. Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba ulwalamano lwethu lwabantu oluvela kwintetho yonxibelelwano yansuku zonke luhlala lukhulu kakhulu, kuba luphethwe ngumnqweno womsebenzi ngamnye, ukhuphiswano okanye imithetho yokunxibelelana kwinkampani? Hayi, oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kukhona umda ocacileyo phakathi komhlobo "nomhlobo": sivakalelwa xa sisondela kakhulu kubomi bomntu womnye umntu. Abanye bethu bakuthola kulula ukusondela kubantu ngenxa yokuziphatha kwethu nokukhuliswa. Xa umntwana ephathwa ngenyameko, iminqweno yakhe, indawo yakhe, iimvakalelo ziyahlonishwa, ngoko, xa ekhula, uya kuhamba ngaphandle koyiko ebubudlelwaneni obusondeleyo kubuhlobo obunzulu, obonakalisa ukunganyaniseki kuphela kunye nokuncedana, kodwa ukuxhamla kwangaphakathi, ukunyaniseka, ukuthembela. Akayi kuyika ukukhuseleka.
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Umsebenzi, eqinisweni, akuyiyo iqela lezinto ezinomdla, kwaye ubudlelwane obuthembayo bahlala bexabana nemithetho yokuziphatha. Kule meko, sinyanzeliswa ukuba sigcine ukulinganisela phakathi kobuqu kunye nobugcisa, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka sihlawulele into ethile. Kwimimandla yam, umgaqo oyintloko kukuba, mhlawumbi, "ukungabi neentshaba," uyavuma uValery, oneminyaka engama-36, umrhwebi kwiibhanki zorhwebo. Xa umntu evelana nam, ndiyazibuza: kutheni ukwenza oku? Kubalulekile ukuba ndingabi nobuhlobo obusondeleyo, kodwa ukuba ndiqhubele phambili emsebenzini. Ubudlelwane phakathi koogxa baqeshwe ngumbutho wobuntu kunye nomxholo. Ukuqhubela phambili komsebenzi, kufumaneka kumzabalazo wokukhuphisana, kunye nobuhlobo emsebenzini akuhambelani. Emva kwakho konke, zonke izenzo kunye nezenzo zabo umntu ophantsi kweyona njongo ephambili. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo abo bajolise kumsebenzi, bafikelela phezulu, bafumanisa ukuba bangaphi bodwa. Emva kwabo akukho mntu unokuba naye. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, ukuba oogxa baneenjongo ezifanayo, ubuhlobo bobuqu bomntu buvela ngokuqinisekileyo, ezininzi zazo zikhula zibe ngabahlobo. Ukuncintisana komntu ngamnye kukuthintela ubuhlobo, kunye nokufezekiswa kwemisebenzi efana, njengokunqoba ubunzima obuqhelekileyo, ngokuchaseneyo, ukufaka isandla kulo. Ngomhlobo wam esifubeni ngoku siye sadibana nenkampani yangasese, apho abaphathi beendlela ezahlukeneyo banqamle nayiphi na inxibelelwano, ngaphandle kwezoshishino. Ubuhlobo bethu abuvukanga ngenxa yokuba, kodwa nangona kunjalo. Kwaye kwaba yomelele, "utsho uAnton, 33, uMphathi wezeNtengiso. Umgangatho wokubambisana kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo bunamandla kakhulu kwaye bunzima ngokwentlangano yoluntu. Ubuhlobo kwiimeko ezinjalo buba yindlela yokusinda. Oku kusebenza kwinkampani encinci, kunye nelizwe lonke. Ngoko, kwiSoviet Union, apho urhulumente waxinzelela abantu kwaye wahlala ephazamise ubudlelwane, wawulawula, abaninzi babenomhlobo obusondeleyo. Ukuba utshintshe isimo sakho okanye umsebenzi, abanye bethu baphazamisa ubudlelwane, okwakungathandabuzeki izolo. Njengomthetho, oku kubangelwa kukuba sithatha ubuhlobo njengobuhlobo, okungaxhomekeke kwisimo sethu, isikhundla sezimali okanye nayiphi na into embi okanye embi. Akunakuchaphazeleka ngumgama kunye neminyaka, ubukhulu beentlanganiso kwaye (kungekhona) ukungalingani kwezicwangciso. Kodwa ngaba unokuzikhusela ekudakaleni? Mhlawumbi, ewe. Ukuba siqonde imida yobungani emsebenzini, kuya kusinceda siyiqonde xa ikhula, kwaye ungadani kakhulu ukuba, ngokwenene, ayinamandla.