Izinto ziqokelelwe, imiyalelo yokugqibela isandiweyo, kwaye uvuyo aluniki ukuphumla. Umntwana uya kwikampu okokuqala. Omnye. Indlela yokwenza lolu luhambo angabangela ukuba umntwana wakho abe neemvakalelo ezimbi kunye neinyembezi? Emva koko, uhambo lokuqala lokuya kwikampu yabantwana luyinto yesikolo yobomi bokwenene ...
Kuphela iintsuku ezimbalwa zidlulile kwinkampu, kwaye umntwana uyakhala: "Mama, ndifuna ukuya ekhaya!" Intliziyo yomzali mhlawumbi iya kunyikima kwaye iphumelele ekukhutshelweni kweentlungu ezibuhlungu. Nangona kunjalo, izazi zengqondo azicebisi ngokukhawuleza ukuba ziqoke iisuthi. Inokwenzeka ukuba, ukuphendula okunjalo yinto yesikhashana ehambelana nokulungelelaniswa. Kungekudala uza kuzincama, ufundeke kwiimeko ezintsha kwaye, kungabandakanywa, ekupheleni kokutshintshwa akuyi kufuna ukuhamba ekhaya.
Imithetho.
Umntwana wakho wayengesabi ukushiya ekhaya okokuqala ngqa, umfundise ukuba ahlambulule umbhede wedwa, ubukele ukuhlambuluka kwezambatho, uhlambulule izinto zakhe, ugcine imigaqo yococeko. Akukho ndawo ukuba ufunde kwangaphambili malunga nomyalelo kunye nemithetho yobomi kwinkampu kwaye utshele umntwana malunga nabo ngokubanzi ukuze akwazi ukucinga ukuba uya kuphi. Unokumkisa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba kwiintsuku zakuqala akuyi kuba lula kuye kwaye ukuba kungekudala uyazi kakuhle oontanga bakhe, ngcono. Qinisekisa inzala enoba yiyiphi na imeko ayiyi kushiywa, ukukhuselwa kunye nenkxaso ngabafundisi kunye nabacebisi kuye abanokufaka isicelo kuye nayiphi na imibuzo.
Yedwa yedwa?
Qinisekisa ukuba usombulule umba woqhagamshelwano. Ukuba ngesizathu esithile ukwesaba ukunika umntwana wakho ifowuni, khupha ikhadi lefowuni okanye imali ukuyithengela ukuze ikwazi ukubiza ikhaya naliphi na ixesha. Mcele ukuba angakhathazeki ngenxa yezizathu ezincinane. Umntwana, ophindaphinda kangangeentsuku ngosuku akwenzayo, odlala naye, xa edla, unokuthiwa "unyana ka-mama."
Kwaye kukho iimeko xa umntu omncinci enganyanzelwanga ngenyameko liqela. Njengomthetho, oku kwenzeka kwiimeko ezilandelayo:
■ Umntwana akayiqondi ukulungelelaniswa kweendima zentlalo kwiqela, akabonanga isizathu sokulandela imiyalelo ye "nkokeli", akwazi ukuba yintoni esongelayo. Yaye xa ihlambalaza okanye uhlaselo, azukudibanisa phakathi kwezenzo zakhe kunye nokuphendula kwabantwana abakujikelezile;
■ unamahloni kwaye unamahloni. Ukuba umntwana wakho kunzima ukujoyina inxaxheba entsha, mthumele ekampini kunye nomhlobo. Oku kuya kukhawuleza inkqubo yokulungelelanisa;
■ ukungathandeki kwangaphandle: i-slovenly, ibenxibe kakuhle, ikhulile okanye ifumaneke
iimpembelelo - ezinkulu iinambuko zokuzalwa, izilonda, i-strabismus, ubuso obusobala okanye izandla, ukuxhamla, njl njl
Andiyiki!
Ukulungiswa kwindlela yendalo kwindlela yokuqala yokuya kwikampu yabantwana, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akufanele ubeke ingqalelo kwiimfuno zokulila ukuza ekhaya. Qiniseka ukuba ubuze umntwana ngezinto ongazithandayo, cebisa isisombululo kwiingxaki, ucebise ukuba uqhagamshelane nenkokeli. Kwaye uthi kwakhona uphoswa, kodwa ukholelwa ukuba umfana "ohlala kwiholide" uya kufumana ngokukhawuleza abahlobo. Musa ukuthembisa ukuthatha unyana wakho okanye intombi kwenkampu ukuba awulungele ukwenza njalo.
Kodwa ukuba umntwana ube yinto yokugculelwa kunye nokubetha, kufuneka kuthathelwe ekhaya - ukuze kungabi nobunzima obuphantsi kunye nokwesaba inkampu. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, qhagamshelana nengcali yeengqondo - uya kukunceda ukufumana ubuthathaka ekukhuliseni. Mphelisa-kwaye emva kwehlobo elandelayo kwenkampu bobabili uya kuba mnandi kakhulu.
Uzolile xa ...
• Indodana okanye intombi ihlalisana, khawuleza ufumane ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye noontanga, ulungele inkampani.
KUBALULEKILE! Lumkisa umntwana: akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane abahlobo nawo wonke umntu. Abaneleyo abahlobo babini, kwaye abayi kuba bodwa;
• ezizimeleyo, ezikwazi ukuhlamba ngokukhawuleza nokugqoka, gcina izinto zakho ngokufanelekileyo, uhlambulule izitya.
KUBALULEKILE! Cinga kunye ne-wardrobe yabantwana: izinto akufanele ziqhutywe kwaye zingcolile;
• Ulungelelanise, okwazi ukulandela ishedyuli esicacileyo, ngokukhawuleza wenze imisebenzi eyabelwe.
KUBALULEKILE! Ekhaya, usebenzise ishedyuli, udlale "kwikampu."