Ukufa ngokukhawuleza kunokubetha i-louse. Ngokukhawuleza, umntu omdala kunye nomfana oselula, obonakala enempilo, unokufa. Ngalindelekanga, ngokukrakra. Ukufa akukhethi.
Ukususela kwizifo kufela ixesha elide. Kwaye abo babekunyamezela ukufa ngokukhawuleza komntu omthandayo, bavame ukukhwelela abo babekwazi ukuthetha iindlobano zabo.
Kwimeko enjalo akukho ndlela engcono, akukho mzuzu ofanelekileyo kwaye ukufa akuze kubambe ixesha. Kodwa unako ukuthetha ngawo, ngamanye amaxesha uyayidinga. Siphakamise esi sihloko ukuze sincede abo balahlekelwe bathandekayo kwiimeko ezahlukahlukeneyo ukuhlangabezana nazo.
Ukufa ngokukhawuleza komntu ongowomthonyama ngenxa yengozi, ingozi, ngexesha lokuqhutywa kwemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, ukufa okuqinileyo, kuqhutywe kukukhangela kwamacala enecala, ukubethelwa komthetho, ukungaboni kakuhle kwimeko, ukungaqondakali kwesi siganeko, akunakwenzeka ukukholelwa kwinto eyenzekayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka ubone indlela umntu elala ngayo kwimizuzwana kwaye, engena egumbini lakhe, unokubona ukuba zonke izinto zilele phantsi kwaye kubonakala ngathi inkosi yazo ifuna ukuvula umnyango ize iphile kwaye iphilile.
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... kodwa ummangaliso akenzeki. Kuya kuthatha ixesha elithile ukutshilola ukuvuma oko kwenzekayo. Impendulo iyakwazi ukuhluka: iinyembezi, iingqungquthela, ukuthula kunye nokuzihlukanisa ... Ungabi namahloni, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba amalungiselelo omngcwabo ahlelekile kwaye mhlawumbi uya kumangaliswa, kodwa kukuxubusha kwexesha elibonakalayo eliyingozi, ukuthenga kunye nezinye izinto ezikuvumela ukuba uphumule ixesha kwaye ungacingi ngento eyenzekayo.
Ukuba umfi wahlala engaqinisekanga, enomsindo okanye engekho ulwalamano oluhle, zama ukuxolela nokuyeka umphefumlo wakhe. Unokufuna uncedo lweengqondo zengqondo, ngamanye amaxesha ukwanele ukuya ecaweni ukuvuma okanye ukubeka ikhandlela uxolo lomphefumlo.
Izikhalazo ezide zingaphumi ngexesha elifutshane, kodwa uya kuba lula xa oko kwenzeka.
Khangela inkxaso phakathi komnye. Unokuziva ukuba ubukho bomntu oshonile ixesha elide, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba wonke umntu aqaphele ukuba akakwazi ukubuyela kumntu, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kugcina inkumbulo yakhe, eqaqambileyo kwaye ecocekileyo.
Nceda umntu osiliweyo xa ewela kwisicupho. Kukho imeko apho umntu ephuma kwintlungu ngokukhawuleza elahlekelwa amandla okuphendula kwisitatimende sangaphandle. Mbambe ngesandla, unxephezele, ubonise ukuba akayedwa, ukuba uyaphila, ukuba kufuneka aqhubeke ehamba, ephefumula. Cetyisa ukuzalisekisa enye into, uphuze itiye, uthethe ngento ethile. Xa umntu eshiya eli lizwe, kunokwenzeka ukuba uhlaziyo luya kuqala kwaye uncedo lwakho luyafuneka kwakhona.
I-Stupor kunye nayiphi na impendulo yeengqondo kwixinzelelo olunzima inokuvela kubini abangazange balindele ukufa, kunye nakumntu onyamekela umntu ogulayo ixesha elide kwaye wayesazi ukuba yayiyi-youkresluchitsya.
Ukuyeka ixesha elide: njani ukufunda ukuhlala nolwazi lokungavumeleki kwesiphumo?
Xa izalamane zinezifo ezingenakuphilisa, umhlaza ngomzekelo, ngoko ukukhula kukuthatha inyanga, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha neminyaka. Kuya kuxhomekeka kwiliphi izinga kwisifo esifunyenweyo, ziphi na amanyathelo athatyathwayo, ukuba umzimba wesigulane uyanyamekela njani. Kodwa kukho iimeko xa oogqirha banika iintsuku ezimbalwa, xa kubonakala ngathi akunakubi, kwaye ixesha lihlala ixesha elide kakhulu.
Kwaye ukuzifumanisa ukuziqhelanisa kukuqala ngokwayo. Amahlwempu aqala ukufisa ukufelwa kwabathandekayo babo. Kwaye bafuna le nto iinjongo ezilungileyo, beqonda ukuba umntu utyhafile kwaye ukufa kuya kunciphisa ukubandezeleka kwakhe, xa ibalo lihamba ngehora kunye nokuphuculwa kancinci kunikezela nje iintsuku ezimbalwa ezinzima, uloyiko lweengcinga zakhe. Ihlazeka kakhulu. Ungesabi ukwabelana ngeengcinga zakho nomntu othembela kuye. Ndikholelwe, ukulinda ukufa komntu othandekayo mhlawumbi luvavanyo olunzima kakhulu ebomini. Kwaye kulungile ukuba ufuna into engcono. Akukho mntu ubeka isohlwayo ngenxa yokuba ngamanye amaxesha ukufa kukubaluleke kakhulu.
Ngokufa ngokukhawuleza, abantu banethuba lokugqiba ishishini labo, bathethele nabani na abayathanda, kodwa kuphela umntu oza kuba nzima ngaphezu kokubona. Abafayo babamba ithuba lokuphefumula, ngoko babuza iNkosi ukuba ibuyise ngokukhawuleza.
Kubalulekile ukwamkela ukungaqiniseki kokufa, lungele ukuba le nto ayinakwenzeka ngokukhawuleza njengoko uqikelelo lucacisa. Kwaye kungekhona ngokukhawuleza njengoko ubonakala ngathi yimpawu zangaphandle. Omnye uThixo uyazi ukuba kuya kwenzeka nini.
Thandazela izihlobo zakho, ungesabi iingcamango zakho. Yilungele ngokukhawuleza kumngcwabo. Umntu woluntu uza kukuxelela ukuba ulungele ukuxoxa nabo. Khetha iimpahla kunye, cinga ngeenkcukacha, abaye babizwa ngokuba bahlukana.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, le ngcebiso iya kubonakala ingaqhelekanga, kodwa ukuhlaziywa kweentlanzi kusindisa kwiimeko ezifanayo. Ukuba ukhala iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, akuyi kuba ngcono kumntu. Akukona ngokuhleka kwamnyama, kodwa kuphela ukuphumla okungenani ngomzuzwana, kungenjalo ungaphambuka.
Njengoko sele uqondayo, akukho ndlela engcono yokufa.
Kodwa izenzo ziphantse zifana. Musa ukuzibhokoxa, zenze wena okanye izalamane zakho ukuba zijongane nelahleko ngoncedo lwamachiza.
Phuza amaconsi okanye ama-capsules. Nangona kubonakala kuwe ukuba ufumene ilahleko namhlanje, ayikwazanga indlela inkqubo yeentlanzi eza kuziphatha ngayo kwiintsuku ezilandelayo. Kukho i-cramp okanye ukunganakwa ngokupheleleyo. Ngelixa unako ukubona umzimba wakhe. Kakade, musa ukugijimela nabani emva kwebhokisi uze uzigcine ezandleni zakho, kodwa ungagqithisi.
Usadinga ukuhamba ngeentsuku ezili-9 no-40 zokufa kunye neendidi eziliqela zokulila. Uya kufuneka ufunde ukukhokela intlungu. Fumana iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokumthulisa, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uze unikeze ilungelo lokunika.
Kuya kuba nexesha lomsindo kumfi. Kodwa ukuba washiya ngokukhawuleza. Intukuthelo kuwe, ngenxa yokungancedi, ayizange ibone ixesha. Konke oku kuqhelekileyo. Into ephambili kukuba kunye nalabo babethusa kakhulu ngenxa yokufa kwezihlobo zabo. Ungavumi ukuxinezeleka kuwe. Landela ukutya. Ukuba ukulahlekelwa ngumntu osondeleyo kuwe, qiniseka ukuba unike ukutya, mnandi, ukuphepha ukulahlekelwa kwesisindo. Kufuneka uhlangane kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ubomi buyaqhubeka. Ukulahleka akuyi kulibala, kodwa kuya kuba lula, ngexesha, enokude phambi kwayo. Kwaye umntu othe wathandeka kakhulu kuwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba wafa ngokukhawuleza, okanye wabukela ukuhamba kwakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo andithandi ukukubukela esezulwini uze ndibone ingcinga engapheliyo.
Nangona imbandezelo inexesha elithile. Xa kudlula, ungacinga ngokufihla kalula. Intlungu iya kuphelisa, kwaye indawo yayo iya kuthathwa ngenye imvakalelo, emihle, eya kubonakala ngexesha elidlulileyo. Phantse ngonyaka kunye nesiqingatha kamva, ukuqaphela isiganeko kuza kufika ekugqibeleni, kwaye kwiminyaka emibini okanye emibini nesigxina kuya kubakho imemori ekhanyayo, iimbulunga ezimnandi. Thetha ngomntu akuyi kubangela intlungu kunye neinyembezi rhoqo. Qiniseka ukuba uthetha ngomntu wakho. Abahlobo bakho, abantwana, izalamane kufuneka zikwazi ukuba kukho omnye obenentsingiselo enkulu kuwe. Kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuba phakathi kwabaphilayo akusekho, uya kuhlala ukhumbula kwaye uyazi ukuba uye waya kwihlabathi elingcono, apho engenzi buhlungu khona.