Ngoko, ukuxhomekeka kwithengiso kubonakaliswe njani, inzondelelo yokuthenga iindawo ezinxulumene neenkomfa zethu?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde izizathu zesi sifo. Ngoko, ukususa ingxaki ngonaphakade, makhe sijonge kwiingcambu zayo. Masiqonde kanye kunye nokuba yonke into iqala ngayo kwaye yintoni kanye le nxantathu exhunyiwe.
Ekuqaleni, iimpawu zokuthenga ngokweqile azibonakali. Kanye nje umfazi, emva kwexesha, uthengela iimpahla ezahlukeneyo kunye nezicathulo zokuzonwabisa kwakhe. Uthanda onke amaxesha ukuba azithokozise nge-blouse entsha okanye amacici amahle. Kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, le ntokazi iyaqaphela ukuba into eqala ukuhamba kakubi, kwaye ukuthanda kwakhe ukuthenga kuyanda. Ufuna ukulahla umkhwa wokuthenga, kwaye akukho nto eyenzekayo. Uqala ukwesaba ngenxa yokuba akakwazi ukulahla ukunyaniseka kwakhe. Ibhinqa liyaqaphela ukuba kufuneka iithengele ukutya kwasekhaya okanye izinto ezisisiseko, kodwa, endaweni yoko, zifumana izicathulo okanye ingubo. Oku kuba ngumxhomekeke. Njalo, le nkosikazi izithembisa ukuba ayiyi kuphinda ibekho, kwaye iya kuqala ngokuthengwa ngonaphakade. Kodwa akukho nto eyenzekayo. Intombazana iyaqonda ukuba ukuthenga izinto akukho nto, kuba akanalo ixesha lokugqoka yonke into. Kodwa akakwazi ukuyeka. Nanku kuza ukuqonda ukuba yonke into ibe ngumlutha, omele ugqitywe kanye kunye.
Ngoko, kutheni abantu bebonisa ukuthanda kangaka izinto? Kutheni zihlala ziphazamiseka ngumnqweno wokuthenga? Enyanisweni, esi sizathu sengxaki sibonakalisiwe, kwaye sihleli kwisicatshulwa sethu. Okokuqala, intokazi enjalo ayiyazi indlela yokulahla abathengisi. Mhlawumbi unamahloni okanye unomusa kakhulu. Isiphumo salokhu ukungakwazi kwakhe ukuthi "hayi", ukususa iingubo zakhe kwaye ushiye ivenkile. Amantombazana alolu hlobo ayakhathazeka kakhulu kwaye awanqweneli ukugatya abathengisi, kuba bakholelwa ukuba ngale ndlela bangacasula. Kubantu abanjalo ukuba iindlela zokuqala zengqondo ezisetyenziswe ngabaphathi kunye nabathengisi ukukhuthaza iimpahla zabo ngokufanelekileyo. Ukongezelela, enye imbangela ye-shopaholism ibonakalisiwe. Idibene nenyaniso yokuba ibhinqa ayinakufumana into ebuntwaneni nasebusheni. Abaninzi bethu basinda kuloo nkathazo, ubunqongophala, iminyaka elambileyo ye-perestroika. Ngoko ke, sinomnqweno wokufumana yonke into eyayizange ibe nayo. Yingakho abafazi be-shopaholics, bahlala bethenga izinto ukuze baveze kumthengisi: mna kunye nemali eyaneleyo kwaye ndiyakwazi ukuthenga nto endiyifunayo.
I-Shopaholics, ukuthenga into elandelayo, ukwanelisekanga, kodwa iimfuno zomzwelo. Bathanda inkqubo yokukhetha nokufaneleka, ukunxibelelana nomthengisi. Ukuba isitolo sinomoya ococekileyo, umculo omnandi kunye nabathengisi abahle, ngokuqinisekileyo umfazi onjalo uya kuphuma kunye neqela lezinto ezingadingekile. Abathengisi banamhlanje baye bafunda ukuba bafumaneke ngokufanelekileyo kwaye, ngexesha elifanayo, banokuchaphazeleka. Ngoko ke, abaninzi abathengi bababona njengabahlobo. Kule meko, kufuneka ubeke enkulu kunye nokuthengiswa kweRashiya yanamhlanje. Kodwa, okwenene, oku akunakunceda ama-shopaholics. Ingxaki yabo ixhomekeke ekuphatheni kwabasebenzi bezitolo.
Yintoni enokuyenza ukuze ulahlekise esi sifo kunye nesifiso sokuthenga. Okokuqala, loo mantombazana anenkxalabo ejulile kwaye engaqinisekanga ngokwabo ahlala ehlulwa yi-shopaholism. Ukususela ebuntwaneni abathandwayo kwaye bazama ukukholisa wonke umntu. Kakade, abahlali bafumana njalo. Kwaye umthengisi onomothekayo ubonakala kwibala lezemidlalo, othokozayo, ophulaphula aze asekele incoko. Ngokwemvelo, intombazana ephantsi kwinqanaba elincinci liqala ukumbona njengomhlobo. Kwaye asibakhubekisi abahlobo kwaye andibaphili uncedo. Ngoko ke, xa umthengisi eqala ukudumisa into kwaye azinikezele kwintombazana, uyika ukwenqaba, ukuze angakhubeki kwaye anganciphisi ukuzithemba. Kule meko, intombazana icinga ukuba umthengisi uyamphatha ngendlela ekhethekileyo, kwaye akanalo ilungelo lokumthuka aze amcaphukise. Ngoko ke, babuyela ekuthengeni amatsha kunye nokutsha. Kule meko, kufuneka ufunde ukungazikhohlisi. Umthengisi uphulaphule kwaye uthetha kuwe kuba ufuna ukuthengisa into. Ngokwemvelo, unokuba ngumntu olungileyo, kodwa wena akukho mnye kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe - kungengaphezulu kwendlela onokuthengisa ngayo le nto okanye loo nto. Ngako oko, ukuba uyazi ukuba ufumana inhlonipho eninzi kubathengisi, khumbula into enye: awuyikhohlisi kwaye ungabi namanyala - oko kuthetha intsingiselo. Kodwa, ngelo xesha, unelungelo lokukhetha kwaye akudingeki uthenge nantoni na, ukukholisa umntu. Ungaze ucinge ukuba umthengisi uya kucinga kakubi ngawe okanye athethe into ethile. Ukuba ungumntu oqhelekileyo, uya kuhlala eqonda ukuba ukhetho lwakho aluxhomekeke kwimpawu zakhe. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, lo mntu uphelelwe ngumsindo, oku akufanele kukukhathalele. Akakho mntu kwaye akukho mntu uya kuba kuwe. Awukwazi ukuya kule venkile kwaye ungaze udibane naye kwisitalato. Ngaphezu koko, umthengisi, mhlawumbi, uya kukulibala malunga nawe, ngokukhawuleza xa umthengi omtsha engena emnyango. Ngoko ke kufuneka ukhathazeke kwaye ukhathazeke ngaye.
Kwakhona, ungakhathazeki malunga nomthengisi ocinga, njengokungathi awukwazi ukuthenga into ethile. Akakho kuwe kwaye ubonakalise kuye into ongenayo. Zama ukulwa nezicwangciso zakho, ezibekwe ebuntwaneni. Awunayo ukuphumelela uthando lwabantu abangaziwa kwaye uqinisekise into kubo. Khumbuza ukuba ungumntu onelaneleyo unesihlobo kunye nezihlobo ezithandayo kwaye ziyamxabisa. Abathengisi kwizitolo ngokucacileyo abaziveki kuwe. Ngoko nawe, akufanele ubabathande kwaye uncede.
Ukuba wena ngokwakho awuphumelelanga ukuba uzikholise ukuba unomtsalane kwaye unomdla, kwaye akudingeki ufune uthando kubantu abangaziwayo, ngoko kuyafuneka ukuba ufune ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo. Enyanisweni, akukho nto ingaqhelekanga, inkulu kwaye ihlazo kulo. Loo mntu uya kunceda ukunqoba iingxaki ezikhokelela iingxaki zengqondo kunye nezihlobo ezibonakalayo ngenxa yenkunkuma yakho engcolileyo.