Ukwabelana ngesondo akusiyo ngokupheleleyo intando, ngenxa yokuba ixesha lifikile. Ngokusoloko bebambisana namantombazana asetsheni. "Zonke iintombi zam sele zikhona ... Ndiya kuhlala ndikhulile, ukuba andizibandakanyi ngokukhawuleza nomntu onesondo. Ndisele sele ndilishumi elinesihlanu! "
Enyanisweni , ngexesha lethu elixhatshazelisayo, iimpawu zitshintshile ngokungapheliyo (nangona ...), kwaye inqaku elithi "ukulondoloza ubumsulwa ngaphambi kobusuku bomtshato" livakala njengamanje njengamagama athi "gig" kunye ne "barber". Kwaye asinakukucela ukuba ufumane ukuba isini, kuphela emva kokufumana ipasipoti esetampu okanye ukuthenga izicathulo ngaphandle kokuzilungiselela. Kodwa-ukuba balala ngesondo ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ngenjongo yodwa yokulahlekelwa ukungabikho kobuthixo babo, ubuncinci ngokubhekiselele kumlingani wabo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uneminyaka engama-20 ubudala engengomntwana osemtsha, kwaye okwangoku kusekhona, ngoko kufuneka uqikelele ngolu hlobo: ingaba ixesha liza kunene? Kodwa konke okufanayo kufanele kube yinye kuphela - kungekhona yokuqala - kwizizathu.
Ngaphantsi kwinqanaba, ungalala ngesondo ngokwakho. Ucwaningo lwezenhlalakahle luye lwabonisa into emangalisayo: ngamnye wesithathu umfazi emva kokusela utywala ubona ngesondo njengesigqibo esipheleleyo sokuthandana. Kwaye ngokusoloko evuka ekuseni, ezama ukukhumbula igama lommelwane ebhedeni. Ngendlela, isenzo esinengiso. Ngaphezu koko, amanye amantombazana akhumbule ngokubunzima ukuba babesemhlabeni wonke ubusuku, angakhankanyi izinto ezinje njengokhuseleko. Ngoko kwiwayini, mhlawumbi kukho ithuba lokufumana inyaniso, kodwa isondo kulungile ukukhangela intloko ekhuni.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokufuna ukwazi
Masithi unenkwenkwezi. Ehlabathini lonke, kwilizwe okanye kwingingqi - akunandaba. Ngokubanzi, akayithandi kakhulu, kodwa apha iinjongo zivusa. Ukuba idla isiqingatha sehlabathi (isiqingatha sesizwe, isiqingatha sesithili) - kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ngaba sinesizathu sokubulawa kangaka ... Ndifuna ukubuza: kutheni? Siyayilumkisa ngokukhawuleza: awukwazi ukunyusa into engeyiyo! Uya kufakwa ngokukhawuleza kwi "enye ye ...", kwaye umphumo uya kulwa ngqo. Ewe, ukuba ufuna nje ukuzalisa iqoqo lakho - qhubeka. Gcina nje ukhumbule ukuba uya kuba yinto yokuzaliswa komntu othile.
Unokwenza ubulili nje ngokuba akufanele ube yedwa. Uyavuma ukulala ngesondo, kungekhona konke uvutha ngentshiseko, kodwa kwithemba lokuba ibe "yedwa kunye" oya kuphila kuyo yonke impilo yakho, uze uhambe kweli hlabathi elinenkohlakalo ngelinye ilanga, izandla? Ewe, kukho ithuba. Elinye kwizigidi ezilishumi. Ngoko unokuthatha ithuba. Musa ukulibala ukuba unayo 9.999.999. amathuba okufumana izinto ezingalindelekanga. Ukongezelela, ukhetho xa umfazi evuma ukulala ngesondo ngenxa yethemba lokufumana into ezayo (kuba ngumtshato, isambatho somvu okanye imali nje) ngokuqhelekileyo kuthiwa yibizo elibi.
Ubundlobongela kunye "nabangaphambili"
Akukho sizathu sokuzama ukungena emlanjeni, oye waqhaqhazela ngaphesheya. Akuyimfuneko ukuzithokozisa ngethemba lokuba uza kubuya. Musa ukuhamba malunga naye: "Ndiyagula kakhulu, ndithandekayo, o, kubika, kodwa masiye kulo mkhumbi!". Kuyinto engafanelekanga ukukholiswa ekucingeni "cinga, kwaye yintoni ephosakeleyo?". Asikwazi ukulala ngesondo ngaphandle kwemizwa. Kwaye kunqabile kakhulu (kakhulu!), Asizukuxhomekeka kwimizalwane yethu. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ufuna ukubuyela kwakhona kuxhomekeke kwi "ex" yakho, akunjalo?
Ngendlela ... kuba ndifuna ngokwenene. Kwaye ngokubanzi, ukwenzela ukuba ungayidingi ubuchopho bakho, ukuhlalisa isicatshulwa sakho esithandayo ekufuneni izizathu ezingenangqiqo ezikhuthaza ukulala ngokwesondo, zixelele ngokunyanisekileyo: "Ndiya kulala naye, kuba ..." Naluphi na ukuqhubeka kweli binzana, ngaphandle kokuba "... Ndifuna ngokwenene ", kufuneka ibe yisizathu sokwenqaba.