Ulwalamano olutshintsho emva kokulalana ngokwesini?
Option. Le nsizwa, oye wadibana nayo, iphumelele ngazo zonke iindlela ezikhoyo. Uyayinyamekela umntu wakho kunye neminqweno yakho, ukuqonda, ukuthabatha kuye. Ukuziphatha kwakhe okugqibeleleyo kwenza ukuba ucinge ukuba lo mntu kufuneka abe nawe. Kodwa, kulufanelekile ukuwuyeka emzimbeni wakho, ukulala naye, indlela inkosana yakho enokuthi yanyamalala ngayo. Uhlala uvakalelwa kukuba mhlawumbi yonke into oyiphuphayo, okanye unenkinga.
Ngaba wadibana namadoda anjalo? Bade banalo igama - i-pikapery. Ingongoma yobomi babo kukufezekisa indawo yowesifazane onomdla. Kwaye, ngokukhawuleza xa efumana into ayifunayo - ngesondo - akanalo nanye nawe eduze kwakho. Kwaye akukhona kuwe nonke. Unokuba ngowona mfazi obalaseleyo ukuba nawuphi na umntu uphupha ngaye, kodwa awuyi kuphinda ufundise ipopi.
Ungakuphepha njani ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane? Lo mbuzo kunzima ukuphendula, kuba umonde we-artists-pick up has no boundaries. Kwaye, mna, ndicinga, akuyiyo inenekazi yensimbi.
Option ezimbini. Emva kokwabelana ngesondo, indoda ayihambi ndawo, ngandlela-thile, ayidluli ebomini bakho. Kodwa, ulwalamano anika lona, awuthandanga neze. Udibana kuphela xa kulungile. Iintlanganiso zakho zincitshiswa ukuba zivakatyelele ukutyelela kwivenkile yokudlela, kwaye emva kokuya kwesondo. Akafuni ukukuvumela ebomini bakhe, ewe, noko kukuthethayo, unomdla okwenene. Ungowona umdlalo omhle, onokumnandi ukulala ngesondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akukho nto inokuthetha ngayo nayiphi na inothando.
Yintoni elindele lo lwalamano? Ukuba awuyena i-masochist, omnye umxholo kukuyeka ukulwa. Kodwa, ukuba iimbono zakho zihambelana - wena, kwakunye nokufuna nje iqabane lomntu wesini, ngoko ke olu khetho luya kuhambelana nobabini.
Ungayibona njani indoda efuna isondo kuphela, ngaphandle kobudlelwane obunzulu? Yiba nokunyamekela oko kwaye uthetha njani; indlela aziphatha ngayo. Indoda engakuphathanga njengeqabane lobomi ayiyi kuvumela ukuhlasela kwakho kwendawo yakhe.
Inketho yesithathu. Kukho umgaqo - "isondo sidibanisa." Emva kwesondo, ulwalamano lwakho luyavumelana kwaye lunandipha. Kunokwenzeka ukuba, ukuthandana, kuba unamandla ekuthandeni ubuhlobo obunzulu. Kule meko, ungaqala ukuvuya, kuba ukuba uhlala kunye kwaye ungenayo isondo, khawucinge nje ukuba ungakanani ukuphucula ubuhlobo bakho emva kobudlelwano obusondeleyo? Yethulwa?
Kwaye ke, kulungele ukugcina oko sele unayo. Qala uqale usebenze ulwalamano lwakho kwaye uphucule.
Mhlawumbi, ukuphendula umbuzo: "Ulwalamano olutshintsho emva kobulili bobuhlobo?" - akuyiyo yonke into enokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo. Kwaye kukufanelekile ukubuza umbuzo onjalo, ukungena kwisigaba esitsha sobudlelwane nomntu? Ukuba unomnqweno wokungathandana, ke le ndoda ifanelekile ukuba uthembele.
Phila ngomgaqo - "ungaze uzisole ngesenzo". Ubomi, ngamnye kuthi, linye. Musa ukuzicima, intanda yakho, ongenakulilibaleka kunye nolonwabileyo, nokuba ulala ngesinye ubusuku.
Kwaye ukuba emva kobudlelwane bezocansi ushintshile ngakumbi, musa ukuzigxeka ngenxa yokungalindelekanga kunye nobudenge. Thatha kwaye uzame kwixesha elizayo, mhlawumbi ungenzi iip punctures.
Ubomi bungeke bubonakale buhle kakhulu, ukuba, ubuncinci, ngezinye iinkhathi, asiyi kulila kwaye sibuhlungu.