Uphulo lwengqondo.
Cinga ngokukodwa amahlaya akuthathele. Mhlawumbi, usabela ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokuba ezi ntlanzi ziwela kwingongoma ebuhlungu kakhulu. Qinisekisa - unenkinga efihlakeleyo eyiyo yonk 'ixesha xa uyicinezela ngengozi. Ngokomzekelo, uyathandabuzeka ngokubonakala kwakho. Ngaba uya kuthatha ihlaya elingenacala malunga nobuso bakho, ngokuqinisekileyo ufana nehlazo okanye uza kubona ukuhlambalaza ngoku? Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bamomotheka bathi: "Ungumzekelo womama!", Kwaye uva: "Amehlo amancinci, amahlama adibeneyo, imibimbi ecaleni kwamehlo." Amava anjalo aqhelekileyo kubaselula, kodwa ukuba uneminyaka engama-20 ubudala, kubalulekile ukuba ucinge ukuba ukuphendula kwakho kuqhelekileyo.
Zama ukusombulula ingxaki kwikalini kumntu othayibhile. Makukutshintshe ngokupheleleyo - ukusuka kwiinwele kunye nokwenza i-wardrobe kunye nendlela yokuhamba. Uninzi kunokwenzeka, entsha uthanda kakhulu. Ungesabi ukwakha ubuso obuhle kubahlobo, uhlekise amahlaya kunye nabo kwaye ungacaphuki kwi-bullshit.
Ukuba konke oku akunakunceda, khawuleza ujike kwi-psychologist, ngaphandle koko unobungozi ukuhlala kunye nobunzima bakho kude kube yiminyaka yobudala, kwaye eqinisweni xa useneminyaka yobudala asifumani. Imisipha engenakupheka kunye nezinye iinguqu kwixesha elizayo zingonakalisa ubomi obuhle, ukuba ingabonakali ingxaki kwingcambu.
Imida yeempembelelo.
Siphila, sithetha, sizitholela isiqulatho esithile sothandana, abahlobo, oogxa. Laba ngabantu esiziziva sikhululekile, ezinokuthi zenzeke izenzo. Ngokuzithemba, singathetha ukuba baninzi babo basesigxina esifanayo kunye nokuqonda ngokupheleleyo, nangona kungqubana neengxabano ezincinane.
Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba umntu kulo mzuzwana, isangqa senzeke ngokungafani nakwe. Uhlobo lweendlovu kwivenkile yase-china. Ingaba ngumhlobo ongaqhelekanga womntu owaziyo, umntu ongaqhelekanga kwisitalato, umqhubi kwi-minibus, umthunywa eofisi. Uyazivumela ngokwakhe amahlaya angathandabuzekiyo, apho kwisangqa sakho kuthathwa njengento engcolileyo.
Indlela yodwa ephuma kule meko ayinakunceda. Usemzini ongafani nawe. Akunakubi nakwakho konke, kodwa nje ephethe kakubi, esisichukuphuku esincinci, okanye ngento ecekisekayo. Abantu abanjalo baya kubonakala ngandlela-thile ebomini bakho, kodwa aba bantu bangabonakaliyo abafanele babe nefuthe elininzi kwihlabathi lakho langaphakathi.
Ukuze ungabonakali njengesikhala esimhlophe phakathi kokuhleka kwaye uhlala uvumela amahlaya ukuba ube ngabahlobo, qeqesha umva wakho. Funda ama-anecdotes akwenza ube mnculi, jonga indlela abanye abantu abaphatha ngayo amahlaya ekukholeni kwabo. Uza kubona ukuba bonke abacaphukisiweyo kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukuva ihlaya kwidilesi yabo - akubi kakhulu? Ukuba uqaphela ukuba bahleka ngawe ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo, musa ukukhawuleza ukuphelelwa lithemba. Tsitshintsha nje isangqa soqhagamshelwano, jonga indlela abantu abahlukileyo ngayo abasabela ngayo kuwe. Ukuba ke, oko asebenza nabo bahleka, abahlobo abaqapheli, kuthetha ukuba ingxaki ayinako.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bakhetha into yokuhlekwa usulu, ukusuka kumahlaya akushiywa kakhulu, ukukhwela kwangempela kuqala. Ungabi lixhoba. Isisombululo esihle kukuba ushiye inkampani enjalo. Ukuba ngenxa yesizathu esithile akunakwenzeka, banike ukulungiswa okufanelekileyo. Yiba nehlazo kwidilesi yabo, kodwa ungayi kuhlambalaza. Ingqiqo yakho yokukhanya iya kuphumelela nayiphi na imizamo yokukubeka kwindawo engafanelekiyo.
Uthotho luhle kakhulu phakathi kokuhleka kunye neinyembezi. Enye kunye nehlazo elifanayo kunokubangela ukuba abantu abahlukeneyo bakhale ngokuhleka okanye kwintlungu. Zama ukufunda ukuba ungathathi iintloni entliziyweni, funda ukuzihlambalaza. Ukuba ihlaya emlonyeni womntu izandile njengomzamo wokukhubekisa, umane nje uyigatya loo mntu okanye uphendule ngokubalulekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuhleka kwezilwanyana ubomi bethu bubumnandi ngakumbi kwaye buhle ngakumbi kunokuba ngaphandle kwayo.