Qhawula. Akukhona ukudideka okudidekile, kodwa ngokumalunga nomgama obanzi obandayo: le ndlela iluncedo kulawo matyala xa ingxabano evulekile ingavumelekanga. U-Hamya, ummangalelwa ufuna ukufumana impendulo - uvakalelo, uhlazo okanye uvakalelo: ungazivumeli ukuba usetyenziswe njengomthombo wamandla "uhlawulela".
Kodwa indlela yokuzinqabisa xa ulahla kwisikhokelo sakho? Sebenzisa izenzo ezilula: bhala ngaphezulu, zibalekele ezilishumi, ucinge ngodonga lweglasi olungenakuthulu phakathi kwakho kunye nomenzi wesono ... okanye ingqondo uyidonsa kuye: ihlazo liya kukunceda uphile.
Gcina ibhalansi. Kakade, kunzima ukuba ungagxothwa kukungalunganga ekuphenduleni ukuhlambalaza, ukuklolodela okanye ukunyaniseka. Kodwa ukuzola kuya kukunceda ukulawula imeko kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukunqoba ukuxabana. Umnxibelelwano obonakala ngathi ungeyingozi ukuxhatshaza: ukuhlaselwa kwakhe kukujolise ekujoliswe kuyo, ukudideka kukunyuka, kwaye ukuziphatha kuqala ukubonakala kungenangqiqo kunye nobudenge. Thetha ngokucokisekileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo, ungesabi ukujonga umoni-ntetho emehlweni - inkulumo-gazi-gazi kunye nokujonga ngokuthe ngqo kungadibanisa ngisho nesibhobho esinyukayo.
Vula kwaye ujabulele amalungelo akho. Musa ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba ukuphula i-status quo - u-aggressor usufumene oko ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Unganqikazi ukuchaza intsingiselo yengxaki ("awuyikhohlisi", "uwela imida", "ugqithise amandla") kwaye ubandakanye abantu abanolwazi kwisigqibo sakhe. Ifowuni kwi-hotline, isitatimenti esiya kulawulo oluphezulu, isikhalazo kuMbutho woLungelo lokuThengwa kwamalungelo angabathengi sinokusebenza kakuhle. Khumbula: ukuthula kuyinto engcono kakhulu yokuhlambalaza.