Indlela yokuthanda ukucinga kwakho
Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, kukho ubuhle bobuhle obuhle: yonke imihla ibheka amantombazana "afanelekileyo" kwiintengiso zeposi, siphupha ukuba sifane nabo. Ukulibala ngexesha elifanayo kunye neendlela zekhompyutha ezithuthukisa ukubonakala kweemodeli, kunye nezityalo ezifakwe kwiifom zomzimba kunye noshintsho lwamaxesha. Kubonakala kubalulekile ukuba ufezeke, kwaye ubomi buya kutshintsha: ngokukhawuleza umntu oza kuvela, uphumelele umsebenzi ... wonke umntu uya kukuthanda! Le meko iqhutywe yimiqathango ephakamileyo yeli xesha, i-viz. Izicelo ezongezelelweyo ekubonakaleni kwowesifazane: akwanele ukuba abe mncinci - umzimba kufuneka u-elastic, upompozwe, ngaphandle kwe-cellulite.
Ikhokelo yeefom ezifanelekileyo zebhinqa elifanelekileyo kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje: elidumileyo 90-60-90, lilungele ukudala ubugcisa bokuthungatha kwaye kaninzi alufumaneki kumfazi oqhelekileyo. Ukugqithwa kweplastiki: kutheni kubandezeleka, ukuba yonke into ingakhiwa lula okanye iqiniswe? Ukuchuma kwishishini lezobucayi: ukuthelekiswa nobuhle be-silicone akusoloko kusithandayo.
Kodwa i-demolitionist ebaluleke kakhulu kukugqibelela (ubuchule bokusebenza komntu): umfazi wamanje, oqhelekileyo ekufuneni iindawo zokuphakama, uyaqiniseka ukuba konke okusemandleni akhe! Ndingathini ngamanye imibimbi? Ukuziqhayisa ukuba sinokufezekisa nantoni na ngokusebenza nzima, sihlala siziqhubela kwikhonkco, kodwa ingayinjongo enzima ukufikelela kwimigudu ye-titanic?
Umhle wobuhle awuyinto elula njengoko kubonakala ngathi. Injongo yalo enzulu ukuhlukana nomntu ngokusemandleni akhe, ngokugxininisa indlela aqondwa ngayo ngabanye abantu. Yiba njengokuba kufanelekile - kwixesha elithile lembali kunye nendawo ethile yentlalo ... kwaye kutheni? Isazi sengqondo sengqondo saseRussia uMarta Baksakova uqinisekile ukuba oku "kunenzuzo" kuluntu: "Ukuze uluntu lungalokothi lulahlekelwe isakhiwo salo, kubalulekile ukuba onke amalungu alo afane ngokufanayo - amanyeneyo. Ukuba wonke umntu uyingqayizivele, ngaba baya kuthinteka njani? Imilinganiselo yobuhle nayo enye yeendlela zokudibanisa. "
Iibhodi zebhodi zokuzihlola
Ekuqaleni, siyazibona nge-prism yeembono zabanye, kwaye uqikelelo lokuqala lufumaneka ebuntwaneni. "Isibuko" sethu sokuqala ngamehlo kubazali, ngokuqinisekileyo abathanda okanye bawaxabayo. Hayi, imbono ebalulekileyo yomntwana ibonakala ngokwaneleyo kwenkcubeko yethu: njengomthetho, sihlala sihlawula ingqalelo ngokukodwa ngokuthe ngqo oko kusweleyo, enqwenela ukulungisa ukungaphumeleli okanye ukwesaba ukuyonakalisa. Enyanisweni, ukugxeka kwabazali, kunoko, kujoliswe kwiimpawu zomntu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufinyelela ngaphandle: "Intombazana enomdla iyingozi! Kwaye kufuneka udle ngaphantsi, okanye uya kukhula kwaye ukhululekile. " Iinjongo zilungileyo, kodwa yintoni umphumo? Ukuzithemba okulungileyo kudla ngokuqhwala - kuhambelana ngqo nesimo sengqondo somntu kumzimba wakhe. Kwixesha elizayo, ukunganeliseki rhoqo kunokuchaphazela ngokubonakalayo kunye nomoya wengqondo yomntu, ukuphazamisa ezininzi iinkalo zobomi bakhe (ubugcisa, ngokwesondo, kwentlalo).
Eyona nto ikhuselekileyo kule nkalo yilezo zesini, esinezizathu ezininzi. Imemori yomlando: xa umfazi wayexhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumntu, kwaye ukubonakala kwakubutyebi bakhe obuphambili.
Izinto eziphambili kwizinto eziphathekayo kumfazi ofanelekileyo kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje: umnqweno wokukholisa abafazi unxulumene namava okubaluleka komntu (ngokungafani namadoda, apho iimpawu zentlalo zibaluleke kakhulu: isimo, umsebenzi, umvuzo). Umbono kawonkewonke, uphononwe ngongoma: "Wonke umfazi unokuba ngumhle. Akunabileyo abafazi, kukho abantu abavila. " Ngaphantsi koxinzelelo lwemigangatho yoluntu, "kuya kwenzeka" ngokuthe ngcembe kuguqulwe ibe "kufanelekile", kunye nombono wokuthi umzimba ungatshintshwa uba ngumgaqo-kubalulekile. Yaye ukuba awuyi kwenzayo - uvila, yinto yakho eyiphutha.
Ukungaqiniseki ngokukhanga kwabo, sivame ukuwela emgibeni wezinto ezifanelekileyo - ukufuna ukukholisa abanye, ngokulungileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukubeka umsebenzi obalulekileyo wokudibanisa uluvo lwabanye, siyahlukana nemvakalelo yomzimba wethu, sizibuze umbuzo othi: "Ndingubani kwabanye?" Kodwa umbuzo othi "Ndingubani kum?" Akubalulekanga. Ngenxa yokuba, ukuzithokozisa ngokwakho kuphela, unokufumana ukuvumelana phakathi kolwalamano nabanye.
Eyingqayizivele kwaye engabonakaliyo
Wonke umntu unokuziva isithsaba semvelo - umzimba wethu uphelele, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubukeka njani. Vumela kwisigqi esheshayo samaxesha anamhlanje sikhohlwe ukuphulaphula iimpawu zakhe (malunga nesidingo sokutya okanye ukulala), singazithembi ngakumbi iimvakalelo zethu, kodwa uluvo lweengcali eziyazi kakuhle into emzimbeni wethu. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko 'kungalinywa', kungakhathaliseki ukuba kusetyenziswe njani imigangatho, umzimba uhlala wendalo kunye nomntu ngamnye! Yaye ke amandla akhe. Ivumela ukuba sizive luvuyo lwenkuthalo, lenza ngokumangalisayo ngemisebenzi yalo: liyakhupha, ukuba litshisa, lugcina ukushisa, ukuba kubanda, kubonisa intlungu ngeengxaki emzimbeni. Kwaye uzala umntwana: ngummangaliso nje! Ukunqoba kwendalo - kwimo yayo ecocekileyo, ngaphandle kokulawula kwesizathu kunye neengcinga zethu. Kwaye ukudala indalo engaphelelangayo ayifanelanga uthando kunye nentlonipho?
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokwazi okuzimeleyo komzi womzimba: ngumsebenzi wokwenyama owanelisayo ngokuzimela, kunye neenkqubo zokuzicoca (ikakhulukazi ukuhlambalaza) ezizalisa zonke iiseli ngokuvuya. Ukuva umzimba, senza isinyathelo sokuqala endleleni yokumthanda.
Kukho into eyixabisayo!
Ukuba olu luthando luhlangene, kuyimfuneko ukuzama:
Ukuyiqonda into enjengetempile, njengomthombo wezinto ezininzi ezinonophelo ezifumaneka kuwo wonke umntu. Zikhuthaze ngezenzo ezintle ezenzelwe umzimba: ukuyeka i-hamburger, ukuya echibini.
Buyisela umlinganiselo wokuzithemba: ngenkathi ukhangela kwisibuko, gxininisa ingqalelo kwiindawo zomzimba ozithandayo. Bathumelele, bazukise - endaweni yokuzihlaziya ukungafezeki kwakho. Musa ukukhononda kwabanye ngomzimba wakho ("Yintoni endikuthobileyo") - ukugxeka kakhulu, njengomthetho, kuvela kuthi. Funda umzimba wakho bhetele: ulwalamano olusondeleyo lubangela ukwaneliseka. Ngokutsho kweengqungquthela zeengqondo zengqondo, inxalenye yomzimba apho abafazi bathembekileyo khona bubuso. Kuyabonakala ukuba imfihlelo kukuba thina nje ... siyifumene nayo (sisoloko siyibona kwisibuko kwaye sinyamezela). Yaye ukuba uthatha umgaqo wokuziphatha ngokubanzi ngokukhula ngokugcwele? Yisebenzise ngendlela entsha: kwimidlalo, ukudansa ... umdaniso wokutsala, ekugqibeleni! Yenza oko uye wafuna ukuzama, kodwa wahlaziswa yimpembelelo yembonakalo yakho.
Ukuziva umzimba ngomnye umntu: kaninzi sithandabuza ukuvumela "abafokazi" emzimbeni. Yaye ukuba uvumelekile? Ngokomzekelo, ukugqiba kwikhosi ye-massage yobungcali. Xa omnye umntu esichukumisa umzimba ngokunyamekela kunye nengqwalasela, ukuziva kwethu kuhamba kancane kancane.
Ukuva uluvo oluvela kwicala: cela abathandekayo bakho ukuba bathethe ngazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo emzimbeni wakho: into abathanda, into abayayixabayo. Ndiyabonga kwaye ukhumbule, gxi ninisa oku ngoncedo lweempahla. Ukunconywa kwaba ngakumbi? Ixesha lokufunda indlela yokusabela ngayo ngesithunzi - ngaphandle kokugweba okanye ukulinganisa isidima sakho. Ukubonwa kwithuba elidlulileyo: jonga kwiifoto ezithathiwe kwiminyaka embalwa eyadlulayo-eyinyaniso, ubonakala ubonakale kubo? Kwaye uyaqonda ukuba nangona kunjalo unento yokukhononda malunga! Oku kufumanisa kukunceda ukuzamkela umzimba wakho namhlanje. Zinike i-shoot photo entsha-ukujonga kwakhona okwenene akuyi kubuhlungu.
Ukuzifundisa
Ngokombono weengcali zeengqondo zesiFrentshi, sinamathuba amabini okuba sibe khona emzimbeni wethu: okanye ukulibala ngoku (ukuzibonakalisa thina: Ndiyimzimbeni wam) okanye ukucinga ngento efihliweyo (ukucinga njengento exabisekileyo: ndinomzimba). Umehluko lukhulu! Ukuziqonda thina kunye nomzimba wonke, asikwazi "ukuphinda kabini" ukuze siqale ukuwuphatha njengento yentlonipho, uthando, ukunakekelwa. Kwaye kwimeko yolwazi malunga nelifa lomzimba, "isifundo somntu" esithile esinegunya lokunweba (ukunciphisa) ubomi bethu, simphatha ngayo yonke intlonipho efanelekileyo.