Kungekudala, ukuhamba ngaphantsi kwesitrato okanye ukuhamba kwindawo ethile kwiipaki, ndaqala ukuqaphela ukuba ukutshaya phakathi kwabasetyhini kwaba ngumsebenzi othandwayo, kwaye amadoda aphikisana nawo aqala ukuzihlukanisa nale miphunga. Ukuhlala ebhentshini, ukuhamba nabantwana, okanye nje kwindawo ekhawulezileyo, abaninzi abafazi benza konke oko ngogwayi kumazinyo abo. Yintoni na? Kutheni abafazi beshiya? Emva koko, ngaphambi, khumbula, umfazi wayengumlinganiso, bamphatha ngendlela ekhethekileyo ngenhlonipho. Kwaye ngoku kunokwenzeka ukuphatha umfazi otshaya ngendlela ekhethekileyo? Andinqweneli ukuba silahlekelwe yintlonelo kunye nothando lwabantu, okubangela ukuba sihlazeke.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kutheni yonke into eyenziwa ngumntu ithathwa njengento eqhelekileyo kunye nokulandelelana kwezinto, kwaye ukuba enye iya kwenziwa yintokazi, wonke umntu uqala ukugweba, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi abafazi abafanayo bayabagweba. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba neendoda ezininzi phakathi kwamadoda zivuyisa kwaye zihloniphekile, kwaye ukuba umfazi unabathandi abaninzi, ngoko sele becinga ngaye njengowesifazane ongenasiphelo, ukubeka ngokuthobeka.
Ngoko, kutheni umfazi eqala ukutshaya? Ukuba utshaya, khawukhumbule, wathini na kutheni? Ku khunjulwa? Kwaye ngoku uzibuze, ngaba ufanelekile? Khumbula ukuba kaninzi kangakanani ukuyeka ukutshaya? 5, 10, 20, kwaye uqhubeka uphonsa yonke iMvulo ekuseni, uphinde ubhuse njalo ngoLwesibili ngokuhlwa. Okanye uzitsho emva kokuba ugwayi utshaya ulahle.
Ngaba uke wafumana iingcinga ezifanelekileyo malunga neengozi zokutshaya ? Iicigaret zenye iyezabisi, njengokuthenga, amadoda, iingubo ezibiza. Kodwa amadoda awonakalisayo kwimpilo, ngokungafani namagarethi. Kodwa amadoda acinga ukuba umfazi otshaya ufikeleleke lula, kwaye abayithandi into yokuba siyabhema. Ukusuka kwiigareyi, i-skin spoils, ijika ephuzi, i-flakes away, amazinyo aphendubile, kukho ukuphefumula okufutshane, ukuvumba okubi kumlomo. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni emzimbeni wakho ngaphakathi?
Ukubhema kubangela izifo ezinobungozi, njengomdlavuza wamaphaphu, umdlavuza womlomo, umdlavuza we-larynx, umdlavuza we-trochia, umhlaza wesifo somhlaza. Amaphaphu amaninzi afa kumdlavuza wamaphaphu kunabangabhemi. Iingcali zenzululwazi zenze ukuba i-90% yeziganeko zomhlaza ezibangelwa ukutshaya. Ukubhema kubangelwa imfessema yemiphunga - oku kuguqulwa kwamathambo emiphunga, kwandisa amathuba okuhlukumeza. Ukubhema kubangela ukufa kwangaphambili. Kwakhona, ukutshaya kungabangela ukungabikho komzimba, ukukhulelwa kwesisu, ukulibazisa ukuphuhliswa komntwana.
Cinga ubuncinci malunga nezingane zakho ezizayo, okanye sele sele zikhoyo. Nguwuphi umzekelo ozihambisa kuwo? Ingumfazi okhangelekayo ojongene nomntwana otshaya. Ngokukhawuleza kubonakala ukuba umfazi ungumama ophantsi. Kungekudala enkundleni ndabona inkampani yabaselula abaneminyaka eyi-10-15 ubudala, kwaye bonke bavutha kunye kunye kunye namantombazana namakhwenkwe. Kucacile ukuba abazali bala bantwana bayabhema, kuba umntwana ongenabucimi kunye nabakhuthaza ubomi balo mntwana ngaphandle kobheyi, akayi kubhema. Cinga ngoonyana bakho ukuba awuyi kubuhlungu umzimba wakho.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kwihlabathi kwaye ke kuyingozi ukuhlala, imvula ye-acid, apho iwele ezinwele khona, umoya-mhlawumbi ungaphefumla, kunokuphefumla le moya. Ukungcoliseka kwemoya ngamafemu amaninzi afaka iitoni zentsholongwane ngosuku olugqithileyo kwiimimiselo ze-MAC, ingakhankanyi ukukhankanywa kwemoto, konke oku kunciphisa imihla yethu yokuphila kweli hlabathi elikhukhumezayo. Ngaloo nto kulungele ukufaka ugwayi kuwo wonke oku?
Apha iimbono zahlula, abanye abantu bacinga ukuba akufanelekanga, kwaye bahlamba ipakethe yonke endlwini yangasese, kwaye umntu ucinga ukuba akuyi kuba nzima, kwaye kulunge kwakhona, kwaye kwakhona uphinde wenze enye inzulu. Kutheni utshaya? Kungenxa yokuba awunayo amandla okwaneleyo okuthi "cha" kwaye ulahle i-cigarettes. Iingcamango ezinjengokuthi "Ndiza kunika, kodwa intsingiselo?" Okanye "Ndiyakwazi, kodwa andifuni" ayiyi kusebenza apha, nangona andixoxe nam. Yivume, kwaye uya kuqina.
Kodwa kholwani mna, nangona ungayekanga ngoku, uya kushiya kamva, kuba kukho umntu ehlabathini ofuna ukumyeka. Hayi, akayi kutyhola ngeepokotshi zakho, okanye kwisikhwama sakho, cha. Utsho nje ukuba akayithandi xa ekuwanga emlonyeni, uvakalelwa ingcamango yecuba, kungekhona ingcamango yomlomo wakho. Kwaye uthanda ukumanga wakho umhlobo ngaphezu kokutshaya? Emva koko, i-cigarette ayiyi kukunika iintyatyambo, kwaye ayiyi kuthenga iibhotile ezitsha, kwaye ayiyi kuvuma xa uziva ungalunganga, kwaye ungayi kuthetha amazwi anomnene, kwaye akayi kuthetha amazwi athandekileyo "Ndiyakuthanda". I-cigarette unokunika umdlavuza wemiphunga kuphela, ukukhwehlela owomileyo kunye nesigxina, ilizwi elihleliweyo. Cinga ngako, kwaye uya kuyeka. Ufuna nje ukuyeka kuye ngenxa yokuba iminyaka emininzi ukhululekile okanye ukhululile.
Bala inani ochithayo ekuthengeni i-cigarettes ngeveki, ngenyanga, nangonyaka? Ngokomzekelo, isiqwenga seKENT sibiza iiruble ezingama-60, ipakethi enye ithatha usuku, oko kukuthi, ii-ruble ezingama-420 ngeveki zokuthenga i-cigarettes kunye nama-ruble angama-1680 ngenyanga kunye nama-ruble angama-20 ngonyaka. Inani elimangalisayo, akunjalo? Yaye ukuba uchitha le mali wena ngenzuzo, ungabi nengozi. Umzekelo, yiya kuphumla, okanye uthenge ijeketi entsha, okanye iibhothi kunye neengqayi, okanye uthenge into yendlu.
Cinga ngempilo yakho kunye nempilo yentsapho yakho. Ukutshaya ukutshaya kakubi impilo, kunye nokusebenza. Nika ukutshaya xa ungafuni ukuyeka ubomi!