Ubudlelwane bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili bobuhlobo bobulili bobulili obufanayo Kuze kube kutshanje, izibini ezinjalo zazingenakuze ziphuphe intsapho epheleleyo, abantwana, malunga nenkululeko yokuba nguwe.
Uluntu luye lwafunda ukunyamezela abantu abangaqhelekanga ngokuqhelekileyo okanye ngokunyamezelayo, baqala ukuzithemba phakathi kwabantu abaninzi. Inkqubela phambili, kuya kubonakala. Kodwa akazange ahambe ukuya kuba baninzi.
Nangona amazwe amaninzi athembekileyo kumtshato wesini omnye kwaye ubuhlobo obunjalo abude bukrakra, kunzima kunzima ukudala intsapho epheleleyo isithandana sobungqingili.
Indlela yokwenza isipho? Iliphi ilizwe lokutshata? Ngaba kuvunyelwe ukwenza isivumelwano somtshato? Ngaba iya kuba namandla? Inkonzo ithatha njani imitshato enjalo kwaye ingenzeka ukuba ibe nomtshato? Yintoni eya kutshintsha kunye naluphi na ulwalathiso?
Le yodwa uluhlu oluncinci lwemibuzo enokuyithintela bonke abathandi be-gay okanye abangqingili. Yonke into ilukhuni apha: ukusuka kumthetho ukuya kukhetho lokusayinwa kumakhadi omemo. Mhlawumbi, zonke ezi zinto ziyinkimbinkimbi ezivimba abaninzi abantu abangaqhelekanga kwizinto eziqhelekileyo ukuba bangathathi isigqibo malunga nokudala intsapho. Kodwa unokuyicombulula phantse nayiphi na ingxaki, nokuba yinkimbinkimbi enjengale. Ukukholisa ngokukhethekileyo kukuba kukho ukhetho olukhethekileyo.
Uthando nomthetho.
Ukuba uzicingela njengomntu othanda ngokwenene umntu wesini esifanayo njengoko yena, xa efuna ukuqina, kwaye ebaluleke kakhulu, ulwalamano oluqingqiweyo, uloyika ngenxa yokuba yonke into ibonakala ingenakunqandwa.
Masithi isibonelelo senziwe, kwaye ngokuphendula, u-"Ewe" othandekayo uzwakala. Yintoni elandelayo? Uphi na ukuba ngubani na onokuhamba nomnqweno wokuba ngumtshato womtshato?
Okokuqala, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba kude neli lizwe umthetho uza kuba kwicala labathandi.
Nangona iHorland eyaziwayo iyaziwa ngabalingani bobulili obufanayo ilungelo lomtshato ngokomthetho kuphela ngo-2001, kodwa, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, iyaqaphela! IYurophu yowokuqala ukushiya imibono endala kwiziko lemtshato, ngoko umtshato waseHolland, iDenmark, eSweden, eNorway, eSpain, eCanada kunye naseMzantsi Afrika sele sele isiko lendoda yabangqingili kunye nama-lesbians emhlabeni jikelele. Kula mazwe apho nasiphi na isibini sithatyathwa ngokusemthethweni njengendoda nomfazi, indoda kunye nomfazi, okanye umfazi nomfazi, kwaye endaweni yengqungquthela ye-oblique baya kunikezelwa ngenqweno enyanisekileyo yolonwabo. Ukwenza oku, ukwanele nje ukufaka isicelo somtshato kwi-rhu lumente wengingqi, ukuhlawula imfuneko yelizwe kunye neerhafu, kwaye ngoko unako ukuthumela izimemo ngokuphepha.
Uninzi kunje, iingqungquthela zobuzenzisi zawela kwiCzech Republic, eJamani, eFransi, eBelgium.
Kubunzima kubahlali base-US - kweli lizwe ukujonga ukuba abantu abathandana nabangqingili bayatshata, nangona inkululeko yomntu, iyalinywa. I-US lizwe lezinto ezichaseneyo, kwaye oku akusoloko kulungile. Kuphela apha ungatshata phantse kwi-vase yakho eyintandokazi, kodwa ukuhlangabezana nemingcipheko endleleni yokuhlangana kunye nentanda yakho.
Kwaye akulula kubahlali basempuma, ngokukodwa amazwe aseMuslim, apho uthando lokwabelana ngesondo olufanayo luye lwahlulwa kwaye litshutshiswa.
Kwamazwe amaninzi athuthukileyo kunomnye umtshato osemthethweni kubantu abaluphi na ukuqhelaniswa. Ngokomzekelo, iBrithani ayinakunqothula ngokupheleleyo ukuzithiba kwabantu kwizinga lelizwe, ngoko ke abantu abanokuqhelaniswa nokungaqhelekanga baya kufumana isiqinisekiso somtshato apha. Kodwa kwintsimi yonke yeli lizwe liyaqaphela ngokusemthethweni umanyano wobundlobongela obambisene nomntu, onamalungelo, ahluke kumalungelo eentsapho zendabuko. Nokuba uqhawulo lomtshato wesini esithandana nabo baseBrithani kuya kwenziwa enkundleni kunye neqhekeza eliqhelekileyo lepropati kunye nezinye iinkqubo ezidlulayo kwizigidi zabantu.
UkuKhenketho kwinkonzo yeCapeid.
Njengoko uyazi, imfuno ihlala idala isiphakamiso somtshato wesini omnye-kungekhona.
Iphupha elixabisekileyo lokuba ngabafazi abasemthethweni lingahlala liphupha ngenxa yamadoda amaninzi kunye nabasetyhini, ukuba ngaba bengabasebenzi abanobuchule nabanomsebenzi. Inani elikhulu labantu abathandana nabo besini nababini abanalo ithuba lokuba ngabafazi, nangona amazwe amaninzi alungele ukubhalisa umtshato wabo. Yingakho ii-arhente ezininzi zokuhamba zinikela ngemibandela ebizwa ngokuthi "inye" yemitshato. Makungabi namandla emthethweni, kodwa mhlawumbi ahluke kwimigaqo yomtshato yendabuko.
Ekukhethweni kwabathandekayo kukho iziqithi zase-paradesi kunye neentlobo zawo, kunye neYurophu kunye neenqaba zayo, ezizityebi kwimbali kunye neengxaki zokumkani. Ekugqibeleni, ezininzi ezibalulekileyo akusiyo isitampu esaziwayo kwipasipoti, kwaye usuku lomlingo kunye no-"Ewe" olulinde ixesha elide ekuphenduleni: "Uyavuma?".
Ukongezelela, ukhetho ekuthandeni umthendeleko lugqityileyo lithetha inkululeko yokukhetha nayiphi na indawo yehlabathi kunye nokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba kuxhomekeke kwiingcingo eziqhelekileyo.
Kwinqanaba lokungcola.
Kwaye umcimbi onobuqili kwimicimbi yothando kwaye uhlala icawa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba izibini zengqingili ziphupha umtshato kunye nentsikelelo, icawa ihlala ixhomekeke. Naluphi na unqulo lwehlabathi lugxotha uthando lokwabelana ngesondo olufanayo kunye nalo mgca ongaphantsi apho umonde wabafundisi behlabathi uphela.
Kodwa ukuba uyayithanda, umphumo unokufunyanwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko kwaye akufuneki ukuba uqeshwe umdlali onxibe ingubo egqoke isambatho sakhe asiyi kuba namandla.
Imibhangqwana yobungqingili inokutshata ngokusemthethweni kwiCawa yaseSweden ye-Episcopal. Enyanisweni, kuyadingeka ukuba lwamkele olu kholo, kodwa ukuba lufunwa, le ngxaki iyasombulula.
Ngenxa yintoni?
Kutheni ngokuqhelekileyo konke ukunyanzelisa nokunciphisa izithintelo ezininzi ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile ngokubambisana, ngaphandle kokubeka ulawulo loluntu?
Umbuzo omhle abo bonke abantu babuzwa ngaphandle kokungabikho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba baqhelani. Kukho impendulo enzulu kulo mbuzo, ogqithiseleyo nawuphi na ukungathandabuzeki. Yaye le mpendulo ngabantwana. Akufanele sikhohlwe malunga nomnqweno wokuba ngabazali , okubonakala kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyithandayo kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungubani.
Imibhangqwana engqingiliyo ayinakufumana abantwana abaqhelekileyo ngezizathu eziqondakalayo. Ukuba iimanyano zabasetyhini zinethuba lokusebenzisa iimpumelelo zonyango, umzekelo, ukuchithwa kwempahla, ngoko iintsapho ezibandakanya amadoda zikhawulelwe ekukhethweni kwazo. Ukwamukelwa kuyisisombululo esihle kulo mbandela, kodwa le nkqubo yinkimbinkimbi kunokuba yonke i-peripeteias yomtshato. Imibhangqwana yongqingili inelungelo lokuba ngabazali, kodwa, njengokuba kunjalo kwiintsapho zemveli, ukhetho lunikezelwa abo batshatileyo, kwaye umanyano wabo uvivinywe amandla.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, ithuba lokunwaba yinto yonke, kwaye kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufezekisa, kufuneka nje ukwazi ukuwasebenzisa ngexesha elifanelekileyo.