Kwakhona, i-slobber ye-koryabed, kwakhona kwixesha elidala

Umntwana kwakhona ngumsila we-croaker, kwakhona uthatha umdala kwaye uqala ukukhalaza? Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana ekwazisa rhoqo, funda kwinqaku. Ukuphosa ukuhlula phakathi kohlwaywa kunye nokubonakaliswa kwesimo sokuphila esisebenzayo somntwana kunzima kakhulu, kuba usemncinci ukuba aqonde indlela "isikhalazo esiqhelekileyo" sichaphazela ngayo inkcazo echanekileyo yemeko yokulwa.

Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuchazela ngayo iindlalifa ezi zinzima, abazali kufuneka baqale baqikelele iinjongo ezenza umntwana aqale kwakhona ingoma yakhe: "Kwaye uPetros uphosa isanti ..."

Ukuba kukho ikhowudi yobugebengu be-kindergarten akukho mqondo "wokungabikho kobuthixo", oku akuthethi ukuba abantu abadala banokuyihoxisa. Akunakulungele ukubiza umntwana ukuba ngumhenyu ukuba uphuhliswe ngumnqophiso ococekileyo, nokuba uqondwa nguye kuphela. Okokuqala, kufuneka sifumanise isizathu sokuba lo mfana "abeke" iWolf Wolva okanye iLenochka. Kunzima ukuba umntwana onokufundela ukubala iziganeko zakhe amanyathelo ambalwa ngaphambili kwaye aqikelele imiphumo yabo, ngoko ke, xa "uqhubekile", uhlale ugxininisa ukuba ngubani na ukuba ngeli xesha ixesha lakhe elingathandabuzekiyo lenzakalise kwaye yintoni na imeko eziza kwenzeka xa umntwana wa cwaka. Ndikholelwe, bambalwa kakhulu be-sycophants banandipha ukugxekwa (nangona kunjalo, iimvavanyo ezinjalo ziyamangalisa!).

Lo mntwana "onelungelo" kwaye uthembekileyo usetyenzise ukuthembela ngokupheleleyo kuMama noTata. Xa bengabikho babazali, amandla abo ahamba ngokuthe ngqo kumfundisi: akanalo kuphela ilungelo lokutya i-karapuza ne-semolina porridge, kodwa nelungelo lokuba ngowokuqala ukufunda ngezinto ezenzeke kuye. I-parrot ekhwaza ngokuthi ama-tigers abaxeli inyama kwi-zoo i-chick ephuzi elibomvu iqhathaniswa nomntwana ozama ukufumanisa zonke iimpazamo kunye nokugqithisela kwindlela yokuphila enokulinganisa. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukufihla inyaniso yokubamba isonka ngezandla ezingahlambulukanga? Ungayi kuqaphela njani imithwalo ejikelezayo egumbini lokulala? Umntwana ofunde kakuhle imigaqo ethile yokuziphatha (etafileni okanye ngexesha "eliseleyo") uzama ngokunyanisekileyo ukuwalandela - kwaye ufuna enye into. Ingane ayifuni ukunyanzeliswa kubantwana ekhononda, nje nje amaphupha okuthula kunye nokuhleleka kuyo yonke iqela - ngendlela efanayo uPavlik Morozov wayefuna unomdla kubo bonke abemi baseSoviet. Ukuba abantu abadala bayayigxotha ingxelo elandelayo, baqonda oku njengokungahoywa kwaye baqale ukuzalisekisa imisebenzi "yombonisi" onamandla aphindaphindiweyo.

Indlela yokumkholisa ukuba 'aphume kwindlala'? "Cacisa umntwana ukuba umehluko phakathi kwezenzo zokuziphendulela kunye neengozi: ukuba uVasya aphule indebe, ngokumbetha ngengozi, awudingi ukumgweba phambi kweqela lonke. Kodwa uvelane nomfana onzima kwaye umncede ukuba aqoke amaqhekeza, ngokuqinisekileyo, ufanelekile. "Susa indlalifa kumthwalo wemfanelo kwizenzo zabanye abantwana. Ingxaki yomntwana omncinci kukuba ukuba omnye umntu wenza kakubi, umntwana usenetyala - utyhila inyaniso yeso siganeko ukwenzela ukuba ulahlekise oku kuhlaziywa. Phakamisa ukhetho lwolu khetho: alusebenzi kubantu abadala, kwaye abaninzi bazama ukunceda "ulwaphulo-mthetho" ukulungisa imeko - ukuqokelela le mibhobho ndawonye, ​​ubeke isandla sichithwe idonsa okanye usule i-puddle phantsi. »Nceda umntwana aphumle. Umlenze wokulwa ngexesha "neyure elithulekileyo" kufuneka ngokwenene lubangele uvuyo kunye nokuhleka, kwaye kungekhona ukuxhalabisa ukulinda okanye ukujeziswa ngenxa yokulahla. "Fundisa umntwana ukuba axhathise uxinzelelo lwabantu abadala. Unokudlala indima yeso simo - "utitshala ufuna ukuba utshele igama lomntwana ongcolisayo." Ingane kufuneka iqiniseke ukuba umama noyise abayi kummangalela xa engavumi "ukuvuma." Emva kwakho konke, utsho nje ukuba akulungile ukudukisa.

Lo mntwana akasathembi bakhe ontanga kakhulu kwaye ukhetha ukuhlala kufuphi nabantu abadala. Nokuba u-Froken Bock, utata-u-Froken Bock, umntwana usalindele ukukhuselwa kunye nenkxaso yakhe kwimeko yokungquzulana neontanga. Ngenxa yokuxhalaba kwakhe, i-Panicer iyancipha ukuba ingozi ibe yinto engenzeka: umntu uye wafunga kuye okanye wayichukumisa ngengozi-kwaye i-crumb ivele ikhwelile ukuba ibetha. Kwintetho yabantwana abanjalo, utitshala uphezulu, oko kukuthi, umntu odibanisa imisebenzi yecolisa, umloli womlilo, umhlanguli, ugqirha oxakeka kwimeko kunye nomsebenzisi wezoncedo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akusiyo yonke into ethi "Maryvanna" enqwenela ukuyenza rhoqo, ngoko emva komnye "ukholo lobuxoki" utitshala uqala ukutshukela ebusaneni aze ayeke ukuphendula ngamazwi akhe: "Yazi wena!" Kwaye yintoni edlalwa ngumntu ogxekayo? Ngokuchanekileyo, ubhenela kwezinye iziganeko - ngamanye amazwi, ukubetha kusihlwa, iipende ezichazela umama kunye noyise impilo yazo ebuthatywayo, zikhalaza kwabanye abazali kwindawo yokudlala kwaye zikwazi ukuxela iimbandezelo zakhe kunye nomlindi kwivenkile elisondeleyo.

Ungamnciphisa njani?

Musa uvila emathanjeni ukuba udibanise imeko yomntwana. Ukuba umdlalo uyasuswa kuye, fu manisa ukuba yintoni ebengaphambi kwesi siganeko esikhulu. Abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emi-5 ubudala kunzima ukwabelana ngeziganeko zengcinga kunye neyoqobo. Umzekelo weklasi: i-helicopter apho umntwana wayefuna ukudlala, owokuqala wabanjwa ngumhlobo wakhe kwi-sandbox. Qaphela! Umele uxelele abazali bakho ngokukhawuleza! Kule meko, umama onengqiqo akafanelekanga umntwana, aze amchazele ngokucacileyo isizathu sokuba "ngifuna kuqala" ayisebenzi. Ukuba i-Paniker yakho ithi umqeqeshi uyamemeza, musa ukugijimela ukuya kumyezo ukuze aneliseke: mhlawumbi utitshala ubhekiselele iqela lonke ngesidingo sokuba agqoke ngokukhawuleza, kodwa u-egocentrism wathintela umntwana ukuba aqonde ngokwaneleyo amazwi akhe. Ukuphulaphula izikhalazo zowutsha, ukwahlula ingozi kunye neengcango - kwaye umfundise ukwenza okufanayo. Ukuba uPetya usongela ukuphonsa uMishin inqabileyo ngeNyanga, uMisha akadingeki ukuba acele uncedo oluvela kumfundisi-olungcono kunomtsalane othumisayo ukuxelela umoni ukuba i-pantyhose yakhe iya ku-Mars. "Ungenakunyaniseka ukuba ungamxhasa kwaye uyamkhusela imbuzi, kodwa kufuneka ucele uncedo kwiimeko ezinzima. Kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zemihla ngemihla, kufuneka azame ukuzijonga ngokwakhe.

IStategist

Abantwana abanjalo bavumelana kakuhle nobomi bentanga, nangona bengabantwana bodwa. Amagqabantshintshiseko ayawaxabisa izinto ezilula: ii-cookie zentsimbi yokusalela, ejikeleza enkundleni, idiski kunye neengoma ezivela kwikhathuni kunye nombala kunye no-Spiderman. Kwaye abayi kuyeka imisebenzi yabo eyintandokazi kunye namathoyizi ngenxa yeendlela zobuqhetseba beTodorov. Ukwesaba ukuhlwaywa okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumntu "umntwana othobelayo" kwenza umntwana ahlale ephuma kwiontanga, ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza xa umongikazi ebonakala kwintsimi yombono weStategist, uya kuye aze abonise ukuba ngubani na onetyala ngokwemiqathango. Kwenzeka ukuba isisiseko esiyinhloko salo mkhuba sinothando ngutitshala. Khawucinge nje: uMaryvanna onxungukisayo ubhekisisa ngobunzima obusasazwa ngumntu ongaziwayo-kwaye apha ehamba ngomkhombe omhlophe ohamba ngehashe ibonakala umgcini-mkhuseli, unqabileyo ngokukhatyathwa yintlanzi yomgca wengubo kwaye utyhila inyaniso kuye. Akunjalo, ngaba ubuhle? Ngendlela, Isicwangciso-amantombazana angakujonga ngokufanelekileyo utitshala njengomhlobo wabo omhle. Yaye yintoni na? Ngokuchasene nobudala obufana nomntwana, uMaryvanna ubonakala enesidima kakhulu, unento enokuthetha ngayo kwaye, ngokubalulekayo, uhlala ekhona into enomnandi. Ewe, iintombi ze-intombi kufuneka zihlanganyele nomnye into ehlabathini, kubandakanywa ulwazi malunga noko kwenzekayo kwiqela. Indlela yokumkholisa ukuba aphephe umzila othobayo? "Chaza kumntwana ukuba awukwazi ukudlala ukubambisana kunye notitshala kwaye ungakhwele kwinduli - kuchanekile kwaye kuyonwabile ukwenza kunye noontanga. Ukuba umntwana kubalulekile ukuba abe nolwalamano oluthile notitshala, cinga ngeyiphi indima angayenza ngokushiya indima yomgcini-ngcaciso (izinto ezifanelekileyo - zihlanganiswe kwitheyibhile okanye zibeke izinto zokufunda kwiklasi). "Zama ukukholisa ukuba i-boycott evakaliswa ngabaontanga inobungozi kakhulu kunezohlwayiso okanye ezisongela umntu omdala. Nceda umnindlalifa asondele ngakumbi kubafundi ofunda nabo: mema omnye wabantwana ukuba ahambe okanye ahambe kunye emva komyezo. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba iStategist iqala ukuziva iimvakalelo zontanga yakhe, uya kuqonda: umbulelo womhlobo ngo "nedonositelstvo" ubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba imvume yothisha!

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Hayi, ehlabathini kukho izinto ezingenasiphelo, apho ukuchithwa kweyona ndlela yintloko yokuthintela oontanga. Umlawuli wecala wayefuna ukudlala i-hockey "ngaphandle komgca"? Akukho nkathazo - kufuneka uhambe kumntu omdala, udibanise kwaye ukhononda ngokunyanisekileyo: "Amakhwenkwe asele adlala ixesha elide, kodwa awamniki!" Ewe, ndingamnceda njani umntu ohluphekileyo? Kwaye ngoku sele esithemba ngezandla zakhe ngokuzithemba aze athumele ipake ibe ngumnqophiso, kwaye akakhathaleli ngokukrakra okusemthethweni kwabantwana abaye baphoqeleka ukuba bayeke umdlalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, i-Manipulator ayifuni ukukhononda. Kwanele nje ukukhumbuza umchasi malunga nokuphambaniswa kwangaphambilini kwangaphambili, ukusongela: "Ndiza kukuxelela yonke into, njengale xesha!" Yenzelwe! Ngoku unokuvula ngokukhululekile ipokhethi ngokubanzi kwaye uqokelele umvuzo: iifomese, ukuhlafuna izigulane, izitifiketi okanye ezinye izinto ezinqabileyo ukusuka kumyili. Kwaye i-Manipulator ayenzi nje kuphela ngenxa yengeniso, kubalulekile kuye ukuba acaphukise lowo lowo ukhononda kuyo. Yabed ngezinye iinkqubo ngokunyanisekileyo ukunyanisekisa ityala lomnye umntwana okanye ukuphazamisa intsingiselo yento eyenzekayo - izizathu zolu hlobo luba nomona, umona okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwexesha elide. Phakathi kwala maCapepulators kaninzi kukho abantwana abasetyenziselwa ukuqhubeka bezama ukunyamekela abazali babo. Ukuncenga umntakwabo okanye udadewabo omncinci, umncinci uzama ukuvula amehlo kunina (utata, ugogo): khangela ke, ngubani ofudumeleyo esifubeni sakho! Kulungile, kodwa mna, ngokuchaseneyo, kumnandi! Emva koqeqesho oluninzi kwiintsapho zabo, inkunzi ithatha amava kunye nolwalamano lwabahlobo.

Ungambuyisela njani kumkhondo wenyaniso? "Ukuba kukho ababini okanye ngaphezulu abantwana kwintsapho, musa ukukhuthaza uxhaso phakathi kwabo - akukho mfuneko yokwazisa" ngokukhawuleza "," othobelayo "okanye" ochanekileyo. " Ngokuchanekileyo ngokuchanekileyo - ukubeka ndawonye "iqela lomlambo wombane wombane." "Ukuba abazalwana noodade bakhonkxela ngomnye nomnye, baphulaphule ngokukhawuleza iingxabano ngamnye kwaye bacebise ukuba uyayiqonda imeko ephikisanayo kunye. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakubone njengomlambeli, kungekhona isandla sokugweba. Iintsana zabazali abaxakeke ngokugqithiseleyo bayaziqonda ngokucacileyo: kubalulekile ukuba bagule okanye badibane kanzima, njengokuba umama noba baphosa zonke izinto ezibalulekileyo baze bajonge ukunceda. Ngoko gcina umntwana kwisidingo sokubonisa ukuhlushwa kwesihogo ngenxa yokukhwela emadolweni, ukuze ufumane umzuzu owongezelelweyo wexesha lakho! Hug and kiss it like that, iyakubonga i-plasticine koloboks kunye nendumiso yeetayibini ezibanjisiweyo - ayiyi kulahlekelwa nguwe, kodwa i-crumb iya kufumana isabelo sayo ingqalelo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa iziqhinga ezingadingekile. "Ukuba unakekele indlalifa kumhlobo obalaseleyo, ungadumisi umviwa kubafundi abafihlakeleyo - ufanele ukuba ngumqili, onetalente, nohloniphekileyo, kunye nendlela yokunceda unina! Kungcono ukunika umntwana ithuba lokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo ukuba umhlobo omtsha unjani.

Umbono wokuziphatha kwabanye ukhula kunye nokukwazi ukuhlalutya nokuvelisa, ngoko kufuna umntwana omncinci ukuba agcine ulwimi lwakhe ngaphandle kwezinto eziphathekayo. Umnqweno wokuba wabelane ngemibono yakho, iingcamango, izikhalazo okanye ukunyaniseka okuqhelekileyo, umbuzo wendlela 'yokuhlakulela' le mfuneko yokutshisa ukuziphatha kwabanye abantu. Kwixesha ngalinye - iresiphi yakho! Umntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka engama-4 ubudala, engasemva komda wendlu kabawo, uziphatha njengomkhombandlela we-Odessa: uyagubha, ahlabe, aphawule ngomnwe wakhe aze afune ukuba uyaqonda ukuba "umalume wayiphala njani emhlabathini" kwaye "umama wam waphonsa i-candy wrapper kwaye engazange afake ibhokisi" . Ukuba ngokukhawuleza awuzange uvelele lo myalezo obalulekileyo, umntwana uya kuwuphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo - ukuze unina osele ushiye urn malunga neekhilomitha ezilikhulu uya kujika kwaye abuyele ukuze aphakamise iphepha elibi elibiweyo kwaye alithumele kwindawo eya kuyo. Kule minyaka ubudala isiseko sengqondo kwihlabathi sisetyenziswe, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba abazali bangabi buvila baze bachaze ngokucacileyo iinjongo zabanye abantu. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukunikela ngeenguqu ezahlukeneyo zezinto ezenzeke: "Mhlawumbi, umakhulukazi akazange aqaphele indlela i-wrapper yavuthela ngayo umoya. Okanye umva wakhe ubuhlungu kwaye kunzima ukuba aguqe. " Vumela i-karapuza ibe nombono ontle ngabanye - ungagxeki abantu kwizinto ezincinci, ungazibhali kwaye uzame ukuphepha amagama "okulungileyo" kunye "okubi." Umntwana kule minyaka kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba abadala bavavanya njani izenzo zabanye. Ingane izama ukuthelekisa imigaqo yokuziphatha eyamkelwa kwintsapho kunye neminye imibono yabantu malunga nobomi. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba uTanya avunyelwe ukuthatha iifomese phambi kokutya, ukuba uthembisa ukuba uya kuyidla yonke isobho! Kwaye ngoku umntanakho uqinisekile nje - kufuneka ukhawuleze ulahlekelwe ngamaconksi uze umnike isikhwama se-caramel. Yintoni? Omnye akayi kutshisa ngomnqweno wokulindela i-borsch kunye nama-sugar candies? Awunakuzaza - Unogogo kaTanya uya kuxelwa ukuba "unina ungibuhlungu". Ngaphansi kwesi sandi esibuhlungu, usenokwenza indlu yokukhwela - kwaye uTanina ugogo wenkululeko ukhulule ukwenza umntwana onwabileyo. Kwaye ukuba ungenayo ngokwaneleyo, ngoko, fumana umfazi omdala onomdla, fumana: "Ubawo uthi yonke intsapho yakho inamanqatha, kuba udla iipesele ezininzi!" Umntwana uzibonakalise kwihlabathi njengenxalenye yentsapho yakhe - ukuba ibhizinisi lomntu libonakala lihamba kangcono, kwaye alifihleli uvuyo xa abazali bakhe bephumelele okanye bahle kakhulu kunabanye amama noodade. Kubalulekile ukuchazela indlalifa ukuba kwiintsapho zazo izithethe, ukuthetha malunga nendlela ezo zithethe zikhula ngayo kwaye kutheni abantu ngokukhawuleza bakhetha ukuziphatha ngale ndlela, nangaphandle koko. Ingane kufuneka ifunde ukuba kwimeko efanayo unokwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo - ngoko kuya kubakho isizathu esingaphantsi kwezikhalazo.

Izicwangciso zeminyaka emihlanu ziqala ukuhlakulela ukuzithemba. Nangona esenako ukungaqiniseki, kulula ukuba umntwana akhulise ixabiso lakhe ngokunciphisa iimpawu zabanye abantu - "ukutshutshiswa" ngamnye koontanga okanye abadala abadala baqinisekisa nje isimo sabo esiphakeme. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba kule minyaka yobudala abantwana basabela ngokukhawuleza kwizikhalazo kwidilesi zabo: nangona baziva benetyala ngenxa yezenzo ezimbi, abanako ukuxolela lowo uthatha indawo yommangaleli. Ukugcina intsingiselo evela e-megalomania, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba ingaba yinto embi okanye ilungile ngokwayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenziwe ntoni ngabanye abantwana. Wonke umntu unokuphosoka, kodwa umntu oqinileyo uya kuzama ukulungisa iphutha lakhe, kwaye akaqale ukukhangela ezinye iintsilelo zabantu. Ukuba umntu wasemini ephuka isonka, musa ukukhononda ku titshala-kulungile ukuba ubone ukuba zikhona na iimvumba kwiplate yakho.

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i-sofa ecaleni komkhulu-makhulu, intombi yam, ukukopisha igama lomama, ukumbamba idoli, njl njl. Ingqungquthela iqalisa ukwabelana ngokubaluleka kwemilinganiselo yentsapho kwaye, ekuhlangabezaneni nokuphulwa kwemigangatho eyenziwa ekhaya, ifuna ukuphucula imeko. Indlalifa sele isazi kakuhle iingcamango zokuthi "ukunyeliswa", "ukwesaba" kunye "nokukhohlisa", ngoko ke, ngoncedo lwakho, sele sele ukwazi ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kobuhlwempu kunye nokufumana uncedo. Ngaba ndifuna ukuxelela abantu abadala ukuba abafana bazimisele ukubeka umlilo kumfutho wepoplar eduze kwebhokisi le-transformer? Ngaba kukufanelekile ukubiza umncedisi ukuba iqela elipheleleyo lidlala idada ngentsimbi yentombazana eyingozi? Le mibuzo ebunzima kakhulu ukusuka kwinqanaba leminyaka yesithandathu licela ukuba abazali babe nobulumko obungavamile. Kufuneka ucacise ngokucacileyo umntwana ukuba, xa wenza isigqibo, akufanele agxininise kwiminqweno yabanye, kodwa kwiingcamango zakhe malunga nemiphumo yezenzo ezithile. Ukunikezela ngolu hlobo lwesilumkiso sezenzo: "cela ama-pranksters ayeke ukuzonwabisa okuyingozi; "Nika abahlobo ngenye indlela (umzekelo, ukunika isicaka sakhe isicaka, kodwa ungayithathi umdlalo); "Ukuba isiphakamiso sinqatshelwe, lumkisa malunga nenjongo yokukhalaza kumntu omdala; "Isilumkiso asizange sisebenze? Unokucela ngokukhuselekileyo uncedo kumfundisi okanye kumzali! Kwinqaku lethu elithi "Umntwana uphinde ube ngumsila we-koryabed, kwakhona kumdala" ufunde indlela yokuziphatha nomntu ombi ohlala ekhononda.