Kwaye oogqirha bayazi oku bhetele kunabanye abantu. Wonke umntu uyazi indima enkulu yelizwi kwiintsebenziswano phakathi kwabantu, kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu oqonda indlela kwaye nini na umntu angasebenzisa ngayo amandla entetho yakhe. Makhe sijonge imizekelo, xa igama linentsingiselo ebalulekileyo ebomini bethu.
Iingongoma zokungapheliyo kumbambano: intetho yokucoca
Zonke iintsapho zixabana, njengoko iingcali zengqondo zithi. Iintsapho ezonwabileyo zixabana ngokukhawuleza, kwaye zivuyisayo - zonakalise. Uhlobo oluphambili phakathi kwemfazwe esityhila kwaye ixazulula ingxaki, kunye nengquzulwano eyanciphisa ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwane, inokukwazi ukufikelela kwiingongoma zokungaphambuki.
Iingongoma zokungavumiyo kwimpikiswano - ezi ziibinzana okanye amagama anakho ukubeka ingongoma yeoli ebudlelwaneni. Enye yezona zihlandlo ezimangalisayo ngumyalezo wobugwenxa. Ukuba abantu abatshatileyo okanye abathandanayo baxabana, kunye nomfesane, omnye wabo uthi utshintshile, inokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane obunzima.
Ingongoma yokungafihliyo ayidingiyo yodwa, ngamanye amaxesha ingaba yi-ellipsis. Ngokomzekelo, kukholwa ukuba ngenxa yeengxabano zentsapho, ingongoma yokungafikiyo nayiphi na ibinzana elichaza imbeko yabazali bomlingane. Kodwa ngokungafani neendaba zokungcatsha, kufuneka ubize abazali bakho abazali ngamaxesha amaninzi ngamazwi angcolileyo okanye ubagwebe into ebalulekileyo ngaphambi kokuba kwenziwe isigqibo malunga nekhefu.
Iingongoma zokungaphambuki kwiintsapho ezahlukeneyo ziyahlukahluka. Enye indaba malunga nokunyaniseka ayinakuxolisa, ezinye ziqhelekile. Abanye abaxoleli ukuxhatshaza nabazali babo, abanye bayakwazi ukuhlala kwimpikiswano emininzi iminyaka. Ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo kuthatha ixesha ukuqonda ukuba yiyiphi ingongoma yokungavumi komlingane wakho.
Ungalokothi uthi "ungaze"
Enye imfihlo yeengxabano eziphumelelayo, ukuvuselela ubudlelwane, ubuchule bokungabonakali. Amagama ale fom: "konke", "rhoqo", "ngonaphakade", "akakho", "akukho nto" kufuneka ikhutshwe kwisigama sakho ukuba ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane. Ngokubhekiselele kubantwana, la magama anecala. Ukuxelela umntwana into enjengokuthi: "Uhlala ufikeleleka" okanye "Awunakufunda ukuthetha isiNgesi ngokuqhelekileyo" - uyayilungisa ngokuhluleka. Umntwana akanakho ukuzithemba kwaye akakwazi ukuvavanya ngokwaneleyo. Akazi ukuba unina unxinzekile kwaye unomsindo, okanye ngokuqinisekileyo akafundile kwaye unobuncwane, ukuze yonke into ibonwe ngokubaluleka komntu. Indima yelizwi ekukhuliseni komntwana likhulu, kwaye omnye akufanele asebenzise kakubi igunya lakhe lomzali kulo mbandela.
Musa ukuthelekisa umntu nomntu ngaphandle kwakhe
Indlela eyakhayo yokubonakalisa ukunganeliseki kukugwema ukuveliswa kunye nokuthelekiswa. Isebenza ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kwimeko apho: ekhaya, emsebenzini, kunye nabahlobo, kunye nabantwana kunye nabathandekayo.
Ukuba umntu omnye unikeza iintyatyambo, omnye ubonisa uthando ngokukhathazeka ngempilo yowesifazane okanye ngemisebenzi yasendlini, musa ukuzifanisa. Oku akubi kwaye kungekuhle ngokwalo, umbala ongalunganga okanye umbala weendlela esizenzayo. Ungathanda ukunikezwa ngeentyatyambo? Ukuthwala umntu wezoqoqosho usebenzisa uluhlu lokuthenga, oluya kuqulethe into ethi "iintyatyambo zomfazi othandekayo." Okanye uthelekise wena kunye nawe: "Xa undinika iintyatyambo, uya kuba yindoda enothando kakhulu emhlabeni." Musa ukumfundisa ubomi kwaye uxelele amabali kwisitayela esithi "Kodwa iMan'kin Vasya akalokothi ayibalekele ukunika umfazi wakhe iintyatyambo."
Indlela yokubonisa ukunganeliseki nokuba ungakhubeki
I-Masters kwintsimi yeencwadi ngexesha lethu ngabaxolisi be-NLP. Iprogram ye-Neuro-yolwimi ikuvumela ukuba ufunde ngokubanzi inkalo yelizwi kwiintsebenziswano phakathi kwabantu. Kutheni abantu abagqibile izifundo ze-NLP baphumelela ngokuthengisa? Ngenxa yokuba baqeqeshwe ngokwazi ukugqithisa indawo zengxaki ekunxibelelaneni, qalisa uqhagamshelwano, khawuleza ufumene amanqaku afanayo oqhagamshelwano nomnxibelelwano.
Ngoko, kwi-NLP kukho iindlela ezininzi ezithakazelisayo zokuzifezekisa ngobumnene. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukunyusa umntu ukuba atshintshe, kodwa akafuni ukuba ngumcebisi kunye nomntu ofundisa abantu engqondweni, udinga inkulumo echaziweyo.
Inkulumo echaziweyo, ngokuchasene namazwi athetha "ebunzini," ikhuthaza umntu ukuba aqonde ingxaki ngokwakhe kwaye afune izisombululo. Ngamanye amaxesha ifom elula, kulula ukufumana umyalezo wakho ngaphesheya ngqo. Ukuba esikhundleni sokuba imfuneko yesikhokelo ingahambi, uza kuchitha incoko nomqeshwa ngentetho echaziweyo, uya kufezekisa ngakumbi. Intetho ehlanjululwayo iqulethe ezininzi iifowns, ukuthelekisa nezinye iindlela. Umzekelo walo kubasebenzi bexesha elide uya kuba: "Uyakwazi ukuphatha ukulibaziseka ngokukodwa, enye ibonakala njengesibonakaliso sokubambisana, abanye baya kubona ukulibaziseka njengesibonakaliso sobuqili nokungahambi kakuhle. Ndiya kuvuya xa wena, uLarisa Mikhailovna, ufumene ithuba lokuzimela ngasese okanye esidlangalaleni, uxoxe ngokufutshane okanye uxoxe ngokuthe ngxaki ngezinye iingxaki ezivela kulo hlobo. "
Inkohliso yenkulumo echaziweyo ingaba awuyi kunika umntu odibanisa naye ukukhetha-ukuxoxa okanye ukungaxubusha ngesihloko esingathandekiyo. Uyamnika ukhetho lweefom kunye neendlela zokuxubusha, ukukhuthaza intetho, kwaye ungamgxina ukuba akwenze.
Ukusetyenziswa kweencwadi ezinxibelelwano ngokungapheliyo
Kukho imisebenzi emincinci kakhulu kulwalamano, oluya kulungiswa ngoncedo lwegama. Cinga ngomzekelo umfazi kunye nendoda.
Ibhinqa elithatyathwa ngumyeni kwaye lingenakufumana umsebenzi kufuneka lilibale ngonaphakade nawaphi na amagama okugxeka. Amazwi enkxaso, ukuvunywa kunye nokholo kumathembekileyo, ngokungabikho kwemizamo yokumnceda ngokwenene, kuya kuzisa isiphumo esheshayo. Ewe, ukuba ngumyuzi-mlando akulula. Nangona kunjalo ama-sweet sweet words kwiimeko zengqesho yabantu abangasebenziyo bangasebenzisa imimangaliso.
Amadoda kufuneka akhumbule ukuba xa umfazi ecela isipho esibi kakhulu-isambatho somfesane, imoto okanye umhlobiso, kwaye engenayo imali, unokukwazi ... ukuthetha ngayo. Oku akusiyo ihlaya, kuyinyaniso: iintetho ezintle kunye neengxoxo ezinde ngokukhanyisa ikhandlela okanye kwinyanga ziyakwazi ixesha elithile okanye kwithuba elide lokunciphisa ibhinqa leemfuno ze-mercantile. Into eyona nto kukukholelwa kuwe, kwaye ufunde ukuqonda intetho yakho.