Ukuze uphumelele, kufuneka uphulaphule kakuhle
Imithetho yokuva
1) Kunconywa ukuba ukwazi ukuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza kunye nomdla. Ubonakalo obunjalo bokuqwalaselwa ngumbongo omkhulu kunakho nawuphi na onokuthi kuwo.
2) Kuhlolo lwakho lube lukhulu ngokudumisa kwaye uzame ukunyaniseka. Wonke umntu uyakuthanda, xa axabisa oko akwenzayo, kwaye agxininise isidima sakhe.
3) Kwintetho, khuthaza ukuba umnxibelelwano usebenze kwingxoxo. Buza imibuzo ehamba phambili, ube nomdla kwiinkcukacha zebali, bonisa umxhasi oya kukukhathalela.
4) Zama ukumamela umntu ukususela ekuqaleni ukuya ekupheleni, ungamphazamisi, kuba, ngoko, ubonisa nje ukungazi kakuhle okanye uphazamise umthungelwano.
5) Ukuba umnxibelelwano akafuni ukuphazamisa, ngoko ukuze angalonakalisi ubudlelwane naye, yamkele umbono wakhe.
6) Buza imibuzo kumntu oya kuvuyela ukuphendula, yiba ngumphulaphuli ophulaphulayo, khuthaza ukuba umnxibelelwano akuxelele ngakumbi ngeempumelelo zakhe, impumelelo, ngaye. Ngaloo ndlela, ukhetha iqhinga lokuziphatha ngala bantu kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obuhle naye. Omnye kufuneka afunde ukuphulaphula umxhasi. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba unxibelelwano luyintloko yokwenza ishishini okanye ubuhlobo, ukufumana ulwazi olufanelekileyo, kunye nesifundo esifanelekileyo.
Musa ukugxeka abantu. Ukugxekwa kulo mzekelo akunakuncedo, kuba kulo mzekelo umntu uqala ukuzikhusela kwaye ufuna ukuzithethelela ngale ndlela. Emva koko, ukugxekwa kubangela ukuzingca kwakhe, kumenze afune. Zama ukuqonda abantu, endaweni yokugweba.
Musa ukuzibonga kwaye uzukise ngokuqinisekileyo isidima sabanye. Funda ukuqonda isithunzi somntu. Ngexesha elithile, yeka ukucinga ngeminqweno yakho kunye nempumelelo, kodwa zama ukuvavanya iimpawu ezilungileyo zabanye abantu. Yibonisa ngokuqinisekileyo imvume yakho. Ekuhlolweni kwakho makube nesisa kwaye uthembele ekudumiseni, kwaye abantu baya kuphinda baxabise amagama akho ebomini bakho.
Imfihlelo yempumelelo ikwazi ukuqonda omnye umntu kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ujonge izinto kwiimbini zombono, ukhangele isisombululo senkcazo kwenye ingxaki. Hlonipha uluvo lomntu, kwaye ukuba ungeyonto, kufuneka uvumelane naye. Xoxa ngendlela enobubele. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukususela ekuqaleni kwaqala ukuba udliwano-ndlebe uphendule "ewe, ewe."
Vumela umnxibelelwano ukuba acinge ngeengcinga zakho. Ukuba unengcamango ebalulekileyo, unike ithuba kumnxibelelanisi wakho, ngoko wacinga ngako. Emva koko uya kuvuyisa ukusebenzisa ingcamango yakho kwaye uya kuyicinga. Ngubani ongakwenza oku, uya kuphumelela, kwaye nabani na ongehlala yodwa.
Kwiminyaka yeefowuni zomnxeba, amanxibelelwano ezentlalo kunye nezinye iindlela zokunxibelelana, abantu bayaqaphela ukuba abazi indlela yokuthetha ngokuchanekileyo. Kwaye baqala ukufuna iimpendulo zombuzo: umntu unokufunda njani ukuthetha?
Indlela yokuphumelela kunye nenomdla ngoncedo lonxibelelwano?
Umgaqo ophambili wokunxibelelana ukukwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye nomnxibelelwano. Ukuba ngumntu onomdla, ukuba nehlabathi elithe tye, elinolwazi, umntu unokufumana ubunzima obukhulu kunxibelelwano. Kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuthetha ukuze umnxibelelwano wakho unomdla.
Indlela yokuthabatha umdlalo?
Lo mntu uvakalelwa ukubaluleka kwayo. Kwaye oku kuyona ngundoqo ebalulekileyo ekunxibelelaneni. Ukuze ufunde ukunxibelelana, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokubonisa umdla wakho kumntu othetha naye, ukuphulaphula ngokunyamekileyo, ukukwazi ukuxhasa incoko, ukunyaniseka ngoluvo lwakhe, ukuphulaphule ngenyameko nangomdla kuye.
Kuyinto engamnandi ukuba naliphi na umntu ukuthetha nabantu abajonga ngaphandle kwintetho, gweba ukuxhaphaza izandla xa badibana. Kwaye kungonakalisa ukunxibelelana nabantu abangabibizi ngegama labo kwaye babone okubi kuyo yonke into. Kwaye ndiyakuthanda ukunxibelelana nabantu abanobuhlobo, abavulekileyo, abanomdla kwimbono yakho, abantu abanomdla, xa beqhagamshelana nabo, iimoya iphakama.
Ngokwemvelo, akuvumelekanga ukuthetha ngokugqithiseleyo - akuyimfuneko ukubetha i-interlocutor ehlombe, ukumbamba iqhosha, ukuhlasela umntu. Ukuqhelana nolwazi ekunxibelelaneni akuyona into encedisayo. Ukuba ufuna ukufunda ukuthetha, musa ukusebenzisa izigwebo ezingenakuphikisa, ungazami kuzo zonke iingxabano, ukuze igama lokugcina lihlale likulo, ungalokothi uxhumane nabantu phantsi. Ukuze ufunde ukuthetha, khuluma ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo, Yenza into eyenziwa ngumntu wonke, ube nesimo esihle kwaye unesidima.
Vumelana nomnxibelelwano, uncumo, ugubungele intloko yakho, sebenzisa iimeko ezivulekile xa uthetha. Ukubonakalisa ngokuzithandela umdla kunye nenjabulo. Ukuba unxibelelwano, le nto ayiyi kubonwa, kwaye uya kuvuya ukuthetha nawe kwakhona xa evakalelwa ngenkxaso yakho kunye nokuvunywa.
Zama ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana ngendlela enobubele, kungekhona kuphela kubathandekayo bakho, kodwa kunye nabalingane, abaphantsi, abaphathi, amaqabane oshishino kunye nabaqhelana nabo.
Ngoku siyazi indlela onokufunda ukuphulaphula nokuthetha ngokuchanekileyo. Ukusebenzisa onke amacandelo, unokufunda ukuthetha ngokulula kwaye ube ngumntu onjalo, unxibelelwano olunika abantu ulonwabo kwaye luya kunceda ukuba ngumphefumlo kwanoma yiphi inkampani.