Akuyi kuba kubi ukuba abahlobo bakho banamava kunye nee-arhente ezahlukeneyo. Unokuzifumana kuzo zonke iinkathazo zokufumana umntwana omhle kumntwana wakho. Kulungile, nokuba ngaba bacebisa inani lenkonzo ethembekileyo okanye umntu othembekileyo. Ngoko ungakhetha njani umongikazi ofanelekileyo?
Unokubhenela kwi-Intanethi. Kwanele ukuya kwiforamu yezihloko ezichaphazelekayo, ngokukhethekileyo isixeko sakho, kwaye unike ingxoxo kule ngxaki. Bonke abo baphendulayo abayi kukukhohlisa kwaye baya kuxela yonke "inyaniso" malunga nabantwana ababenzela zona. Kwiindawo, unako ukufumana ulwazi oluthe luncedo malunga nokukhethwa kwamannies.
Ii-arhente zokufowuna akudingeki ukuba neentloni ngokubuza imibuzo enomdla kuyo: iminyaka emininzi inkampani isebenza ngayo, ukuba bahlola njani abasebenzi babo, kwaye ngasiphi i siseko ndiya kukhetha abasebenzi. Kunzima ukukhetha umongikazi ofanelekileyo ngoku.
Ukuba yonke into iyakulandela wena nayo yonke into ikulungeleyo, uya kunikwa ama-candidatures ngomntwana. Ekubeni umsebenzi we-nanny uhlawulelwa kakhulu, ngoko kukho abantu abaninzi abathanda ukufumana umntwana kunye nomntwana wakho. Injongo ye-arhente kukukunceda ekukhetheni umntu oqeqeshiweyo owazi umsebenzi wakhe kwaye unamava amahle kunye nempendulo emihle.
Ukuba umfana akahambisani nawe ngesizathu esithile, i-arhente kufuneka ikunike omnye (oku kufuneka kwakhona kugxininiswe kwingxoxo). Qinisekisa ukuxoxa ngexesha lokulinda. Kwimfundiso, ukutshintshwa kufuneka kwenziwe ngexesha lokunyanga, okanye ngemini.
Ukukhethwa ngokuchanekileyo nomnina kufuneka kubangele ukuzithemba kunye novelwano, kuba kufuneka uxoxe naye imihla ngemihla, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uqhagamshelane ne-agentist psychologist ukuqhuba uvavanyo lokuhambelana.
Ngoku umbuzo wobugcisa ngowona nto ibaluleke kakhulu emsebenzini womntwana. Kubalulekile ukuba umfana okanye umntu onobuchule unolwazi lwezokwelapha, oluqondakalayo nolwaqondayo kwengqondo yengqondo yabantwana kunye namava okufundisa. Kulungile ukuba umongikazi eneencwadi zokucebisa. Xa ucacisa iinkonzo, unganqikazi ukuba unomdla kwizinto zakho ezisebenzayo ngaphambili, unokwenza ulungiselele "ukuphanda" lula. Musa ukoyika. Emva kwakho konke, ukhetha umntu onokwethenjelwa wengane yakho. Njengoko uphando lubonisa, amanqanaba amaninzi ahlala eotitshala bee-kindergartens, ootitshala kunye nabasebenzi bezempilo. Ngako oko, kufuneka ukhethe umntanama ukusuka kubameli bezo zakhono.
Ngoku jonga i-nanny kunye nosana. Ingaba uthetha kakuhle naye, ufumanisa indlela umntwana oziphatha ngayo? Ayikayi, ayalili? Umongikazi okhethiweyo kufuneka, ukususela kumasekhondi okuqala okuba nolwazi, umdla nomntwana ngokwakhe. Ukuba umntwana uyathula, uyamamatheka, ukhululekile ezandleni zakhe, ngoko uyakuthanda ukhetho lwakho. Njengomthetho, abantwana baye bahlakulela intuition, kwaye baziva ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba abantu abadala bava njani.
Oku kunako nokugqiba! Nanny kwaye wathanda umhlengikazi wakho, ngoku lixesha lokucacisa iinkcukacha. Kubalulekile ukwenza uluhlu lwemisebenzi yakhe yenkwenkwe, okungukuthi: nini ukutya, ukuhamba nini, ixesha lokudlala, ixesha lokufunda, xa uphuhliso lweemidlalo, xa uhamba nomntwana kudokotela, uhlambulule igumbi. Amaxesha amaninzi angenayo imali kwaye asebenze njengabafazi bamakhaya: upheke, usebenzise amanzi iintyatyambo, isinyithi kwaye ucoceke.
Ukuqhubela phambili konke kuxhomekeke kuwe kuphela: ubuchule bakho bezinto, ukucinga kunye nokunyamezela, okukunceda kuwe xa ufuna i-Mary Poppins epheleleyo.
Ukongeza, jonga uluhlu lwemibuzo ebuzwe kwintlanganiso yokuqala:
Uneminyaka emingakanani?
2. Unayo indoda, abantwana? Buza indlela awaphakamisa ngayo.
Uhlala phi, uzalwaphi?
4.Kungani ukhethe ukusebenzela njengomntwana? Ngaba uyayisingatha? Ngaba ihambelana nawe? Kutheni?
5. Ngubani olula ukuba usebenze namakhwenkwe okanye amantombazana, kwaye uneminyaka engakanani? Kutheni?
6. Ngaba unengxaki zempilo?
7. Unamava njani ekunakekeleni abantwana? Yintoni oya kuyenza xa umntwana eqala ukukhala okanye ukukhala ngokukhawuleza?
8. Yiyiphi imidlalo eya kudlala nayo nomntwana?
9. Uza kulala njani umntwana wam?
10. Ngaba unemikhwa emibi? Ukuba kunjalo, ziphi na?