Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, kukho iindlela zendalo zonke eziza kunceda ukugcina iminyaka emininzi, ubudlelwane bokuthanda. Abasetyhini kulula kakhulu ukugcina umnqweno, ngoko ke, ngokunokwenzeka, ezi mali zifanele amadoda. Banceda kuzo zonke iimeko, kwaye akufanele baxhatshazwe, kuba isiqingatha sesibini sinokukrokrela ukungaqiniseki. Kwaye ke, ukuba zihlala zisetyenziselwa, i-acuity of feelings ingalahleka.
Ulwalamano oluhambelanayo nolushushu kunye nomyeni wakhe lunokugcinwa kuphela xa indoda kunye nomfazi bavavanya uthando kunye nenhlonipho. Kwaye ukuba akukho mvakalelo enjalo, akukho nanye iindawo ezininzi eziza kunceda ukukhupha. Makhe sijonge kwiingcebiso.
1. Kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuncoma omnye komnye ukuze kungabi nje ukuncoma, amagama afudumeleyo kufuneka athethe ngokunyanisekileyo nangentliziyo ecocekileyo. Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbi into ethile kwisiqingatha sakho, uyayithanda ntoni na? Okanye unomthandayo amehlo, imilenze? Ukuba unentliziyo ephazamisayo, xa intandokazi yakho iphuma eengubo ezimnandi, ezintle, ke xelela wakho intanda. Indoda ihlala idunyiswa ngenxa yobuninzi bakhe, ukunyamekela kwakhe, ukunyamekela, ukuphumelela emsebenzini wakhe. Ukudumisa ngakumbi intanda yakho, kuba wayefanelwe la mazwi, akakho nantoni na. Yaye la mazwi amnandi angenza ummangaliso, isiqingatha sakho siya kuvuya, phumula, kodwa ungayifuni?
2. Kuchulumise kakhulu ukuzalisekisa isicelo sabo abathandekayo. Ukuba ucelwa ukuba uhlawule, mamela okanye ugqoke, ngoko ingubo ayimcelayo ayifuni ukuba inqatshelwe, yiphathe intando yakho. Yaye ukuba uthe wazalisa isicelo sakho, soloko umdumisa ngenxa yalo.
3. Zama ukumangaliswa. Ngaba uhlala ndawonye iminyaka kwaye wazi yonke into ngomnye? Ngaba ubusuku bakho buyadlula ngendlela efanayo? Yaye uyenzela umthandayo umhlobo we-candlelight dinner. Ukuba ukuthanda kwakho kuvela emsebenzini udiniwe, utshintshe ibhanki elimnandi kunye nokuphumayo, ukhanyise ikhandlela, vula umculo wakhe ozithandayo. Jabulela wakho umthandayo nge-ice cream ayithandayo okanye ukutya okumnandi. Ukuba uthenge isipho esincinci, uya kukwazi ukuhlakulela zombini, kwaye ukuba ungaphambuki ngokukhethwa kwesipho, kufuneka ucele kwangaphambili kwaye uziqhelise kwizinto ezithandayo, lungiselela ummangalelwa kumthandwa wakho.
4. Akukho mntu ukhuselekayo kwiipazamo, okanye lakho iqabane, okanye wena. Funda ukuxolela, banikezana ithuba lokulungisa, musa ukulibala ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi kwiingxabano, njengomthetho, bobabini basolwe.
Kubalulekile, kangangoko kunokwenzeka ithuba lokuchitha ixesha kunye nenye. Zingaphi izibini ezitshatileyo emva kweminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye zidibanisa ngokuhlwa kunye nebhola kunye nobhiya, okanye kunye nabahlobo nabahlobo ngokuhlwa kunye nesiqingatha sabo? Mhlawumbi akuninzi, nangona iingqondo zengqondo zithi nokuba ngabahlobo zibalulekile, kodwa kwindawo yokuqala kufanele ibe ngumntu osondeleyo kunye nosapho. Ngamanye amaxesha unokubingelela ngokuhlwa kunye nabahlobo kwaye uhambe ngokuhlwa. Emva kwakho konke, ngaba awukunikezi nje kuphela, kodwa unike umthandi wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba ebomini bakho into ebaluleke kakhulu.
Bhala enye imilayezo yothando, mhlawumbi le ngcebiso, kwaye ukhathele, kwaye unikezwa onke amaphephancwadi amatshwenyeko amasha, kodwa ayasebenza. Amanqaku amancinci, ukuvuma, ukuncoma kunye nezicelo ezimnandi, kuba kukuthandana. Kholwa amadoda ukuba athole incwadi yothando okanye ileta, kuhle kakhulu, unokukholelwa. Qinisekisa ukuba uyayisayine ngokuchanekileyo, yitshintshe igama, ngenxa yamagama athi "Ndilikhumbula kakhulu uthando lwam, ndikulangazelela ukukubona," tyikitya igama lakho ngothando ...!
Kuye kwadluliwe ukuba ezi ziqabane ezivame ukubonisana kunye zinobuhlobo obomeleleyo kwintsapho. Ukubhiyozela iiholide, zama ukuphuma kunye ukutyelela imitshato yezihlobo ezikude, konke oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ukhumbule uthando lwakho. Kubonakala kunye kwindawo kawonkewonke, ungathetha ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ungumtshato. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ibhinqa lizive likwibini.
Wonke umntu udinga uthando kungakhathaliseki ubudala nobulili. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuchitha ubomi bakhe bodwa, bonke abantu bafuna ukufudumala, wonke umntu ufuna ukunyamekelwa. Ukukhathazeka okukhulu kukunyamekelwa ngumthandayo. Kwiingxaki zasekhaya azichithekanga ubomi bentsapho, kufuneka ucinge ngohlobo luni lolwalamano onalo kunye nomntu othandekayo ngexesha elinikeziweyo, ngoko awuyi kuze ukwazi ukufumana iinyembezi zokulahleka.
Ekupheliseni, singatsho ukuba ubudlelwane buya kuba bukhulu, ukuba uya kubanakekela rhoqo. Kuya kunceda ekunikezeni ubomi kwintshukumo entsha yethando nokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, into ebalulekileyo kukuba ibonisa ingqalelo, inhlonipho nothando lwakho. Siyathemba ukuba inqaku lethu liyakunceda kwaye likuxelele indlela yokugcina ubuhlobo obufudumele nomyeni wakho.