Uthando okanye uloyiko?
Imithombo yokunakekelwa kwabazali ngokweqile kulula ukuyiqonda. Ngokona nkoliso, ezi nkalo neempembelelo ezivelele uthando.
Uloyiko lokuba into eyenzeka kumntwana
Unyanzela ukudala umkhuseleko ukhuseleko kumntwana: "Ukuba uhamba apho, uya kuwela kwizitebhisi uze uphule amadolo akho. Kungcono uhlale ekhaya. " Ngenxa yoko, ihlabathi liba yingozi kwaye lizele izithintelo. Umntwana uhleli ekhaya, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukushiya indawo yoduduzo. Kwaye kulula kakhulu kubazali, kuba akudingeki bakhathazeke - yonke into ilawulwa. Kuyafana okuqhubekayo ekudala. Ukuba "umntwana othobelekileyo" akayi kubangela ingxaki, ungakhathazeki kwaye ukhathazeke - konke kulungile.
Ungesabi ukujamelana neengxaki
Uloyiko olutsha olutsha. Ingaba umntwana ubonisa ubuchule obhaliweyo bokubhala? Kodwa kwintsapho yonke into imathematika ngokupheleleyo, yintoni enokuyenza ngesipho somntwana - akucaci kakuhle. "Kutheni ufuna iincwadi?" Ubomi bakho bonke uya kuba ngumceli. Sinazo zonke iakhawunti kwintsapho, kwaye ulandela isithethe. " Ukungaqondakali kunye nokungavumelani komntu omtsha ngumzali kunokuchaphazela ukubonakala kwemibandela kunye nokugqithiswa. Ukuba ukufakela: "Musa ukundikrakra ngenye into, ndiziva ndingonwabi ngexesha elifanayo" ayichitha, umntwana, ekhulayo, uya kuqhuba kuphela oko kuqondakalayo kwaye kufinyeleleke kunina (uyise, ugogo).
Inkolelo yokuba umntwana kufuneka aphelele
Ngamanye amagama, ukwesaba ukungabi ngumama onobuhle, ongeyena umfana ongekhangeza phantsi, akayi kudonsa amathoyizi angcolileyo emlonyeni wakhe, uqala ukuhamba ngokuthe ngqo kwixesha elifunekayo. Emva kwexesha elithile, umntwana omele umama kufuneka ahambe esikolweni esifanelekileyo, afumane kuphela umsebenzi afunayo kuye, aze enze intsapho nomntu ofanelekileyo. Emva koko unomama ofanelekileyo, kwaye ubomi bubulungile.
Ukuziva ukungabi namsebenzi kumlingane, umnqweno wokufumana umlingane kumntwana
Umzekelo we-subconscious ukuthumela kumntwana: "Ubuncinane ungandivumeli njengoyise (unina)!" Ngoko, "phila ngale ndlela uze wenze into, ungandishiyi nanini." Ndimele ukuba nguwe, kungenjalo kuya kunzima ukuba ndiqonde ukuba andiyidingi mntu. "
Abazali abanomdla wokuphila ubomi babo
Ingqwalasela epheleleyo kumntwana. Uboleka kubo. Ngokomzekelo, umntu makenze oko ayenzanga, anqobe iingqungquthela ezazisungulwa ngabo kwaye abathintele iimpazamo zabo. Kwaye baya kumnceda kule nto: into yokuvumela, kunye nento eyenqabelayo. Ukubaluleka kwesinyathelo ngasinye esenziwe ngumntwana (okwenyaniso okanye akunjalo) kweli lixa liphezulu kakhulu.
Ukuphula intambo
Njengomntwana, awunakuvakalelwa kukuba phakathi koyiko lomzali kunye nothando unokubeka uphawu olulinganayo. Amagama athi "siyakuthanda, xhalaba, ufuna into engcono" yamkelwe ngoko ngexabiso elifanelekileyo. Kuphela emva kokukhula ukuba uzive unetyala ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unesiva sokuba kufuneka ... Ufumene ukuba uthando lwabazali alubonakali ngoncedo nenkxaso, kodwa ngokulawulwa ngokupheleleyo kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo, lixesha lokutshintsha kakhulu imeko. Kule nto unokuzama iindlela ezinokukhetha, ezizo zonke iinkonzo kunye neengxaki.
Ukucacisa ubudlelwane
Iingcebiso ezizithandayo zeengqondo zengqondo ekuxazululeni iingxabano zentsapho kukuthetha. Into ephambili ayinakutsholwa iimpazamo zabazali (akukho nto ikhona xa amaqhinga asebenzayo). Ukuba uceba isicwangciso sakho kwangaphambili, sinalo lonke ithuba lokuphumelela. Kulungile ukuba uqala xa umama wakho (okanye uyihlo) ephumla embhedeni - ukuma ngokukhululekile komzimba kuya kumvumela (yena) ukuba abe novelwano kumagama akho. Xoxa nabazali bakho ngomsindo, ilizwi elidala. Futhi ungakulibala ukwakha amabinzana. Qalisa rhoqo ngamazwi amnandi athetha kumama okanye ubaba wakho kuphela, uze uchaze indawo yakho, umzekelo: "Ndiyakuthanda kwaye ndiya kukunceda, njengakuqala, kodwa mna ndihlala kwintsapho yam kwaye ndiya kuwuqwalasela." Kukho umngcipheko omkhulu ukuhla kumbono wokucacisa ubudlelwane kunye nolwaphulo lweentsapho. Ukuba abazali bakho bakuchukumisa ukuba ubalekele, ngaphambi kokuba wenze isizathu esihle, cinga malunga nokuba awuhambelani neminqweno yakho.
Umhlala phantsi
Ukwahlula, oko kukuthi, ukuhlukana ngokupheleleyo nabazali kunye nokunciphisa inani labafowunelwa nabo bavuthiwe ngokwaneleyo, kodwa ngelo xesha liye linyathelo elinqabileyo. Nangona kwezinye iimeko nguye ozisa iziqhamo ezifanelekileyo. Kwaye kuya kuba luncedo kuwe kunye nabazali bakho ukucinga kwakhona ubudlelwane babo kude kumnye kunye nokwenza izigqibo ezithile. Ekuqaleni ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuhlushwa yintyala: abazali banokufuna uncedo, ingqalelo, abanempilo enhle. Kwaye kukho inkozo engqiqweni. Ukongezelela, akunakumnandi kakhulu ukwenza inxaxheba yesikhombisi, ukuba ukungabikho kokuthintana nawe kumama okanye utata kufana nokuwagxotha ngezandla okanye ezinyaweni.
Umonde
Olu khetho luqhelekileyo kulabo bantu abahloniphayo abazali babo ngokungapheliyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kulungile. Kodwa kwenye, ngaba uqinisekile ukuba le ndawo iyalingana nokuhlonipha abadala? Unethuba lokuba uzive ulungile umntu. Uya kufuneka uvume ukuba awuyiqondi kakuhle i-destiny yakho. Ukongezelela, kuya kufuneka ubalekele ngokucaphukisa abazali bakho ngaso sonke ixesha.
Ubalekele ebuntwaneni
Ngamanye amaxesha sizinika isizathu sokuba abazali basisondeza baze babe neenwele ezimpunga. Okokuqala, siyababeka ngokuzithandela ezandleni zabo uxanduva lobomi babo, kwaye, xa sikhule, sithola indoda, intombi okanye umntu osebenza naye onokunikela ngemithetho ethile yomdlalo. Kule meko, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba le nguqulelo olufanayo. Abazali bafumana ithuba lokuziva igunya labo nokubaluleka kuwe, kwaye nawe, ufumane ukulinganisela ngokomzimba kunye nokuzola ngenxa yokunyamekela kwabo. Umdlalo onjalo uya kuhlala ixesha elide njengoko imithetho ihambelana namacala omabini, kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Kodwa gcinani engqondweni: ukuba uhlala ubonwa ngabantwana bakho kwimeko "yomntwana", baqala ukukuqonda njengelinganayo, oko kukuthi, igunya lomntu omdala kunye nomntu onolwazi olahlekelwayo emehlweni abo.
Tshintsha imeko
Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, le yinkqubo enzima kakhulu. Kunzima abantu abaninzi ukuba bakholelwe ukuba ubudlelwane apho onke amalungu omndeni afakiwe kwiminyaka emininzi angatshintsha. Nangona kunjalo, ngemizamo ethile kunye nezenzo ezicwangcisiweyo, ziyakwazi ukulungiswa.
Qonda
Ngokuqhelekileyo, i-hyperope yabazali ayiyi kubuya ebubini, kodwa ekungabikho kokungakhuselekanga kunye noxanduva olunzulu. Yaye nangona izalamane zakho ziphazamisa ubomi bakho obudala ngenxa yezinto zokuzingca, mhlawumbi bafumana imeko efanayo kubazali babo.
Zive uzikhulile ngakumbi kubazali bakho
Zama ukuphatha abazali bakho ngendlela ugqirha aphathe ngayo isigulane: ngokuzithandela, ngokunyanisekileyo nangomonde. Musa ukusabela nangayiphi na indlela ekuzameni kwabo ukukudonsa kwelinye icala. Khumbula, impendulo yakho enobugwenxa kubazali bazama ukungenelela ebomini bakho kufana noloyiko lomntwana: "Uya kugqiba kwam ngoku! Kubalulekile ukumisa oku! "Ukuphendula komntu omdala ngokwenene kuthobile, kuba uyaqiniseka:" Ndiyiphatha ubomi bam, akukho mntu unokunyanzela iimbono zam kum. " Ukufezekisa njani ukuzola ngokukhawuleza? Funda ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo kwiimvo eziqhelekileyo ezivela kumama okanye ubaba. Kunoko: "Mama, ndiyeke! Awuyiqondi into! Musa ukudibanisa lakho icebiso! "Zama ukwakha ingcamango yakho ngendlela ehlukileyo:" Ndiyabonga, ngoku ndiyazi indlela oyenze ngayo. Ngoku ndiza kuzicingela ngokwam kwaye ndenze isigqibo sokuba kufuneka ndiwenze njani. "
Ukwandisa umgama phakathi kwabazali kunye nobomi babo.
Abazali akufanele bafumane ingcinga yokuba uyabagxotha ebomini bakho. Ngokulula, uchaza ngokucacileyo isangqa sesithuba somntu, apho ungafuni ukuvumela, ubuncinane, ngokuqhelekileyo. Okokuqala, unganiki ithuba lokukukhathaza ngeefowuni - zibiza, zidla ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kungekhona kwishedyuli, kodwa ungalindelekanga. Musa ukuhlangana rhoqo ekhaya (okanye nabazali bakho) ekhaya, kodwa phuma kunye. Cinga kubazali umsebenzi othile apho bangayifumana khona ixesha labo, xa benako ngobuninzi, umzekelo, ukutyelela echibini, ukulahlekelwa ubunzima kwishedyuli ethile okanye ukuqulunqa intsapho. Njalo ubuze indlela inkqubo ehamba ngayo. Ngokutsho kophando, abantu abaninzi bafihla amaqiniso abo kubomi, umzekelo, ukutshaya okanye ukugqithisa ngokweqile.
Indlela yokuba ngumdala?
Eyona ndlela, inkqubo yokukhula ngokuthe ngcembe - unyaka emva konyaka uqhubeka usuka kubazali babo. Kule meko, ngamnye wethu, ngokwe-psychologist waseMelika uHoffman, ukhetha indlela yakhe yokuzimela.
Umoya
Ukunciphisa ukuxhomekeka kwimeko yokungavumeli okanye ukudumisa abazali.
Sebenza
Ikhono lokuzinzela wena, usapho lwakho kwaye ulungiselele ubomi bakho.
Impikiswano
Ukukwazi ukungaziva unetyala xa uhlala ngendlela yakho.
Umntu
Ikuvumela ukuba uyeke ukuvavanya ihlabathi labantu ngodidi lwabazali babo. Ukuphuhlisa izimvo zabo ebomini, ngokusekelwe kumava abo.