Kudibene kwipropati enye, njani ukuba khona?

Umba wezindlu ungasikhubekiso kwintsapho enonwabileyo. Ewe, kulungile ukuba unako ukuhlawula okanye ukuthenga ikhaya elihlukile. Nangona kunjalo, wenzeni ukuba le ndlela ayifumaneki kuwe? Makhe sizame ukufumanisa, kunye kunye kwindlu ethile, indlela yokuhlala kunye nezihlobo zendoda okanye umfazi.

Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, okokuqala kubalulekile ukuba uphinde ucinge kwakhona ngemali yabo kunye neendlela zokufumana indawo yokuhlala. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubatshati abasha. Ngoxa usasetyenziselana, awudingi isithathu. Kodwa ukuba awunaso nasiphi na izixhobo, kusekho ukhetho kunye nezihlobo eziseduze zokuba uhlalise indawo yokuhlala.

Ukutyelela ugogo

Okukhethwa kukho kukuhlala kunye nootatomkhulu kwikhaya elilodwa. Emva koko, kuphawulwe ixesha elide ukuba oogogo nabazukulu bahamba kakuhle. Ukongezelela, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kubazali nootatomkhulu, kunyanzeliswa, kwaye oku kubangelwa. Nangona kunjalo, akuyiyo yonke into elula. Okokuqala, bobabini nogogo nootata abanokuthi bangabumnandi kuphela, kodwa banomdla, bahlazola, kwaye banokulimaza. Kwaye, okwesibini, ukunyamekela abantu abagulayo banokuvavanya kakhulu wena kunye nolwalamano lwakho nomyeni wakho.

Ngoko ke, umsebenzi wakho ukubonisa ukuba awuyintombazane encinci eyayiza kutyelela ugogo njengendwendwe, kodwa umfazi omdala onokukwazi ukuthatha uxanduva lokuphila kwakhe. Ukuba ugqiba ukuhlala ndawonye kwiplati enye kunye nama-aksakals, khumbula: ootatomkhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bangabonakali kangakanani, banokufuna inhlonipho. Ungazami ukukholisa ugogo ukuba ingubo yangaphantsi ayibilisi ngoku, kodwa sebenzisa i powder. Mvumele aphile kwilizwe lakhe kwaye enze njengoko ekhululekile, kwaye wenze njengoko ubona kufanelekile. Musa ukucaphukisa ukungalindelekanga. Musa ukulahla ukutya okulungiselelwe ngu-ugogo wakho, okanye umsebenzi wendlu oyinikwa nguyise.

Nangona kunjalo, ungavumeli ugogo okanye umkhulu wakho uhlale entanyeni yakho. Ngaphandle koko ubomi bakho bentsapho buya kuba bukho banini. Musa ukuvumela izihlobo ezindala ukuba zibeke iliso ukufika kwabo kunye nokuhamba, okanye zisuse ixesha lakho lokukhulula. Ngamanye amaxesha ingxoxo enzulu neyomeleleyo kunye nesizukulwana esidala ingaba ngumlinganiselo osebenzayo. Amadoda amadala aphezulu amakhulu. Musa ukuphulaphula amabinzana: "Ndinike konke njengomntwana," "Nonke nifuna ukufa kwam," "Nantsi ndiya kufa, kwaye uya kuva ngcono" - guqula ingxoxo kwezinye izihloko. Ukuba uyamkhathalela umntu ogulayo - musa ukuthatha yonke uxanduva lokuzinakekela. Kungcono ukwahlula imisebenzi kwisiqingatha nomyeni wakho kwaye ungalibali ngomtshato wakho.

Ngomama-mkhwenkwe phantsi kophahla olulodwa

Ukuhlala kunye nomama-mkhwenkwe kwelinye igumbi lugqirha lobugcisa. Emva koko, ama-landladies amabini afumana kunzima ukudibana kwelinye igumbi. "Awupheki njengaye!" Luhlobo luni lentshiseko yindlela yokuphila enempilo? Indodana yam ithanda inyama kunye namafutha! Ukhulisa umntwana ngendlela engafanelekanga. Uyambhinqa kabi, kwaye uhlala egula! Kutheni umyeni wakho ehlala emsebenzini? Mhlawumbi, akayinto enhle kakhulu kuwe "- unokuthi ungaphinde ucaphule umkhwekazi.

Uninazala ongekho, owandiswa ngumyeni wakhe, unako ukuyeka ukukho nawuphi na usapho. Uya kufuneka uchithe amandla amaninzi kunye nomonde ukugqiba isivumelwano esivumelwaneni kunye noninazala. Kufuneka udibanise. Xhobela kule nyaniso. Nguwe owafika kwikhaya loninazala nomkhwezala kwaye ngoko ke akakwazi ukuseka imithetho yawo apho. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ungenise ngokupheleleyo kumama wendoda yakho. Ewe, endaweni ethile (umzekelo, kwimicimbi yobomi bemihla ngemihla) kuya kufuneka uyenze oko umamazana wakho akufunayo. Nangona kunjalo, ebudlelwaneni bakho, kwimicimbi yokukhulisa abantwana kunye nokuhlobisa igumbi ohlala kuyo, abazali bomyeni akufanele baphazamise.

Yiba nemfesane kumyeni wakho kwaye ungamxeleli zonke iintlungu kunye nomama wakhe. Akakwazi ukuhlala ehlangothini lwakho. Yiba nobulumko: zama ukungayiphenduli kwiintlanzi zomamazala, vumelana nayo, uthembise ukucinga kunye nokwenza ngendlela yakho. Kwaye nawuphi na umzekelo musa ukuqala ukuthetha ngomama wendoda yakhe kwiintlawulo ezithe ngqo. "Ndiyayihlonela umama wakho, kodwa ndingathanda ukuya ..." - yilo lizwi elichanekileyo.

Ukuba ekhaya indoda yakho ayikhathaleli kakhulu ngokucoceka, kwaye usetyenziselwa ukuba yonke into ibandakanyeke kwindlu, cela isicelo seqabane kwaye uqale ukubeka izinto ndawonye. Nangona kunjalo, ungacingi nokukhupha abazali bakhe. Abayi kutshintsha, kwaye uchitha ixesha kunye neentsholongwane. Okokugqibela, fumana iimpawu ezintle kumzali womyeni wakho kwaye uyabathanda. Iingcamango "Ndifuna ukunxibelelana nawe", "Uziva njani", "Ucinga ntoni ..." ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kukunceda ukuba ufumane isitshixo kwintliziyo kamamazala nomkhwezala.

"Musa ukubheka indawo zonke iintshaba." Ukuba uyamkela njenge-axiom ukuba izihlobo zakho nabayeni bakho abasondeleyo abanqwenela ukulimaza, kuya kuba lula ukuhlala.

- Musa ukulibala malunga ncinane, kodwa eyona ntsapho ibalulekileyo. Khumbula ukuba umnqweno wakho awukufumani ukuba ngubani umphathi ngaphakathi kwindlu, kwaye angagqithisi ubudlelwane kunye noninazala, kodwa ukugcina ubudlelwane.

- Musa ukuhlakulela izikhalazo zakho. Ukuba uya kuxela wonke umntu kunye naphaya malunga nabazali abaxhaphazayo bomyeni wakho okanye ukhononda malunga "nabashicileli bakho abanenkathalo", oko kuya kuqinisa ingqumbo yakho.

Umama othandekayo

Kukholelwa ukuba kulula ukuhlala kunye nonyoko kwelinye igumbi kunomkhwezala. Kodwa kule meko, unobungozi bokungabikho ukunyamekelwa kwabazali. Unyoko uzakufumana kunzima ukuqonda ukukhula kwakho. Ewe, unika indima yentombi encinane, apho yonke into igqitywa ngabazali, okanye ilahle umva wokulawula. Ukongeza, ubomi engqondweni yababazali ngokucacileyo abuchaphazeli ekuqiniseni ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe.

Okokuqala, kufuneka udibanise oko kuthiwa "intambo yomzwelo" edibanisa nomama wakho. Wena ungumfazi omdala kwaye kufuneka ube noxanduva lwakho kwintsapho yakho. Ewe, ufuna uncedo kunye neengcebiso kumama wakho, kodwa wenze zonke izigqibo wena. Ukuze ungangeni phantsi kwempembelelo kunye nokunyamekelwa ngonyameko kamama wakho, kuya kufuneka ukuba uthathele imisebenzi ethile yasekhaya. Ukubandakanya umyeni wakhe ekuxazululeni iingxaki zeentsapho. Akayena umgcini, kodwa ilungu elipheleleyo lentsapho.

Musa ukuxoxa nomama wakho ubuhlobo bakho neqabane lakho. Futhi ungamngcwalisi umyeni wakho kuzo zonke iinkcukacha zobuntwana obubunzima. Wonke umntu, kuquka nabazali, unelungelo lokwenza iphutha. Usuvele ungumdala, ngoko ke ngokwaneleyo ukukhangela iingcambu zeengxaki, lixesha lokuzixazulula.

Ngubani ohlala e-teremochke?

Ugogo nomkhulu balele ekhitshini, unina kunye noyise ekamelweni lokulala, wena nomyeni wakho nomntwana egumbini lokulala, kunye nodade wakho kunye nesithandana esilandelayo kunye nabantwana ababini kwimitshato yangaphambili ebizwa ngokuba ngabantwana? Ukuba le meko ifana neyakho, ngoko uyazi kakuhle malunga nokukhuseleka phakathi kwamadoda, amabango amaninzi abesetyhini ekhitshini, iinyembezi zezingane kunye nokusilela kwendawo yonke. Ukuhlala kwezihlobo ezininzi kwiqela elilodwa kukho imigaqo yehostele. Ngaphandle kokuba ingxaki yakho yezindlu ixazululwe, kuya kufuneka uphile ngokwemigaqo yehostele. Zixhomekeke kule nto uze uzame ukufumana iinkonzo. Njengoko uphando lubonisa, abantwana, abakhulayo phambi kwezizukulwana ezininzi zeentsapho, banethemba ngakumbi ngokwabo.

Inyaniso yokuba awuyi kuphazamisa ubudlelwane kunye nosapho lwakho kunye nomyeni wakho, uthi unentsapho enhle. Kwaye ngoku iindaba ezimbi: abadala bakho abantwana baba, kunzima ngakumbi kuwe, kunye nabo bonke abemi bendawo. Ngoko ke, funda imimiselo yommandla wakho ohlala kuyo kwaye uzama umgca wezindlu zokuhlala. Kukulungele ukubonisana neengcali kwimicimbi yezindlu. Mhlawumbi ufanelekile kwiprogram yezindlu ezikhethiweyo.

Khumbula: akudingeki ukuba wenze ama-coalitions kwintsapho enye. Namhlanje wena nomama uxoxa nodade wakho kunye nesithandwa sakhe esitsha, kusasa "bangabangane" bakho kunye nomyeni wakho. Zama ukunciphisa zonke iimbambano, kwaye kungcono ukuba ungangeni kubanye abantu.

Musa ukuxoxa ngeentsapho phambi koonyana. Ulwalamano lwakho lunokutshintsha, kunye nezingane, kwaye ngokukhethekileyo eziselula-zithatha indawo ecacileyo. Ukongezelela, abantwana banokusebenzisa i-scandals kunye neengxabano zeentsapho zokuziphatha. Hlela indawo kwindawo yokuhlala ukuze ilungu ngalinye lentsapho libe neok.

Ngokukhawuleza kufuneka ucacise imiba yokupheka nokucoca, xa uhlala ndawonye kwindlu efanayo. Ezinye iintsapho zifumanisa ukuba zilungele ukukhupha ukutya kunye nokupheka enye ngelo xesha. Omnye ulungele ukhetho olunamandla ahlukeneyo. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukudala ishedyuli yobuso ekhitshini kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukucoca. Into ephambili ayikuthi ithathe yonke into kakhulu. Nangona umntu ephula imithetho, akukho nto iphulo-mthetho kulo. Emva kwakho konke, awuhlali nabantu abangabazi. Ngaba akusiyo isizathu sokunyamezela ngakumbi, funda ukuvala amehlo akho kwinto ethile kwaye ukhusela ngoluvo uluvo lwakho.