Kule nqaku uza kufumana iimpendulo zemibuzo ephambili kwaye ufunde indlela yokuziphatha ngayo xa umphathi efumana iphoso.
Ngoko, oko? ukucacisa ngqo indlela yokujongana nomphathi, kufuneka ufune ukuba uluphi uhlobo olubhekiselele kuyo. Enyanisweni, u-boss okhethileyo unokungafani. Ngokomzekelo, kukho uluhlu lwama tyrakhi angaphandle. Umntu onjalo uyazigubungela ngokungathi ungumntwana onomdla othanda ukuziva umonde wakho. Umphathi onjalo akayi kuze ayeke. Inyani kukuba yena, ngendlela yakhe, u-sadist othanda ukuhlutha abantu bakhe. Ngoko ke, akufanele sithembele ukuba uya kuziyeka. Umntu onjalo ufumana isohlwayo ngokwabo kwaye uyavuya xa ufumana umsindo okanye ucaphukile.
Kwakhona kukho iinkokeli ezimbini ezijongene nazo ziqala ukukuxelela njalo malunga noluphi uhlobo lomqeshwa ontle, ukhuthaze kwaye umomotheka. Kwaye ke, xa ungalindelanga oko, baqala ukukugxeka iimpazamo ongazange uvumele okanye ukulayisha ngomsebenzi wakho.
Khumbula ukuba ukuba umphathi angakwazi ukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo, isizathu sokuba le nto ingxaki zakhe kunye neengxaki. Abantu abanjalo bathanda ukujonga rhoqo izinto, landela yonke into, bamemeza ngaphandle kwesizathu. Khumbula ukuba nokuba unike isihlomelo esifanelekileyo kubantu abanjalo, awukwazi ukuhlala uqhuba umphathi. Enyanisweni, kubi kakhulu xa umphathi uba ngumntu ongenalo iimpawu zobugcisa eziyimfuneko. Kule meko, yonke into iyabandezeleka. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abaphantsi kwale nkokeli baxhatshaza utywala. Kuphela nje ukuba iimbilini zomntu azikwazi ukuma esi simo sengqondo nokuziphatha komphathi.
Kodwa, nokuba kunjalo, nabantu abanjalo unokulwa kwaye ubafundise ukuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo. Ngoko, emva kokuba unqume ukuba uluphi uhlobo lomphathi wakho, ngowokuzilungisa ngokwengqondo ukuba utshintshe ubuhlobo naye. Khumbula ukuba nayiphi na umphathi wakho, akuyena onokusola oko kwenzekayo. Zonke iingxabano ezide ziphazamisa amabini omabini. Kwaye, okwangoku, ungomnye wala maqela. Ngoko uzama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umphathi-bhanksi eyanelisekile kuwe, uthethe nabanye oogxa. Mhlawumbi omnye wabo uyazi indlela efanelekileyo kumfazi wakho okhokelayo. Ewe, asinakuthetha ngokubethekisa nangokuthi "prihlebatelstvo." Ezi ndlela zingcono ukuba zingacatshangelwa. Kodwa, mhlawumbi, umntu uyazi iimpawu zomphathi, ongasetyenziswa ukutshintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo.
Kufuneka kwakhona ulungise kakuhle indlela oziphatha ngayo ukuze umphathi aqonde ukuba ulungele kwaye ufuna ukusebenzisana naye. Isimo sengxabano asihambisani nawe kwaye wenza imizamo yokukulungisa ngandlela-thile. Zama ukuthetha nomphathi malunga nendlela yokwenza iqela lakho liphumelele ngayo. Thetha naye kuphela ngelizwi elinobubele. Ngokukodwa ukuba ngaphambi kokuba uhlale ucaphukile kwaye ufunga. Umphathi uya kumangaliswa ngenguqu ebonakalayo ebonakalayo kwimvakalelo yakho nesimo sengqondo. Kwaye, njengokuba uyazi, abantu abamangaliswayo bavuthiwe.
Kwakhona, ukuze kungenzeki, soloko uzama ukuzola kunye negazi elibandayo. Ukuba uxabana nomphathi, ungalokothi uthi: "Ndijamelana nokuziphatha kwakho." Kungcono ukuthi: "Wanikezela isabelo ngexesha elibi kwaye umele uxanduva." Ngaloo ndlela, umphathi uya kuqonda ukuba uyazikhusela kwaye aziyi kunika izikhundla zabo. Ngoko ke, yena uya kufuneka aqale ukucinga malunga nendlela yokutshintsha imeko kwaye alungise yonke into. Ngaloo ndlela, ingxabano iya kuxazululwa kumacala amabini. Yaye yile nto uyenayo.
Ukuba awukwazi ukusombulula into yomsebenzi ngaphandle koluncedo kwesosavayiza, qhagamshelana naye. Kodwa, kufuneka uyenze ukuze aqonde: ufikile kumntu ongaqhelekanga kwaye awukhathaleli oko acinga ngako ngawe. Kulula nje, kule meko, ngokwenene ungumeluleki wengcali.
Awufanele usebenze njengenkulisa, zama ukumemeza umphathi okanye ukumncoma ngomlomo. Ngaloo nto ubonisa kuphela ukuba ungenzi nzuzo kwaye awukwazi ukuphuma kwimpikiswano njengoko kufanelekile kumntu omdala. Esikhundleni sokumemeza, kungcono ukuhlaziya uze uqale ukuthetha ngokuqhelekileyo. Ukuba umphathi ubona ukunyaniseka kwakho, uya kuthuliswa, kuba ukumemeza komnye kuyinto eyiyo.
Ungalokothi ufumane ukuthulisa uhlazo lomphathi. Ngamnye wethu unobungane emsebenzini okanye, ubuncinane, abahlobo abalungileyo. Apha banokuthetha ngokukhuselekileyo ngezinto ongazithandi kumphathi, xelela malunga noko wakuphinda akuxelele kwaye uxinzezelekile. Kodwa kungcono ukuba ungaxoxani ngemicimbi yokusebenza ekhaya. Inyaniso kukuba imizi ayiyi kukuqonda njengabasebenzi, kuba ayiboni yonke into ngamehlo abo kwaye ayiyiqondi loo mbuzo ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukushiya imibuzo yokusebenza kunye neengxaki emsebenzini.
Ngamanye amaxesha, kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu, unokucela uncedo oluvela kubunkokeli obuphezulu. Kodwa kwiimeko ezinjalo, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba awuyi kuzinzisa imeko yakho kwaye awuyi kuthathwa njengento yokuhleka. Ngoko ke, kwiimeko ezinjalo, kufuneka uqaphele kwaye ucinge amaxesha asixhenxe ngaphambi kokwenza isigqibo.
Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukukhupha umquzulwano kwaye uvakalelwa ukulahla amandla okusebenza, ngoko unokucinga ngokufudukela kwelinye isebe okanye utshintshe indawo yakho yomsebenzi. Ewe, le yinto yokugqibela, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kukulungele ukuvumelana nayo, ukuze ungagqithisi ingqondo yakho ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungayonakalisi imisipha yakho.