Ngubani na okwangoku asihlali kwintlalo yesikhashana, ehamba ngokukhawuleza njengoko idlula? Kodwa akunqabile ukuba ingxabano yentswelo ayilanga nje kuwe, kodwa ihlanganiswa nexesha, ikhula njengebhola lebhola. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-bosses ephazamisekile, yonke into ayikho ekhaya njengoko ufuna, kwaye abantu abajikelezayo abafaki iimvakalelo ezintle. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Ngantoni na ngokukhawuleza ukuzola iingxaki? Ukwenza oku kulula, into ephambili kukuba ukwazi ukuba njani.
Abaqeqeshi kwiimeko ezinjalo, ndikucebisa ukuba nisebenzise kuphela iindlela ezimbalwa kodwa ezinempumelelo kakhulu ezinokuthi ziphephe ukungqinelana kwamanzi malunga nomzuzu. Bamele baziwa ngamnye ngamnye, kuba ngesigqi sokuphila, i-disorder elula iyakhula kalula ibe yimiqobo.
Ngoko, indlela yokuqala ingachongwa njengendlela yokujonga. Ukuzolalisa iimbilini ezaneleyo, kunele ukucinga umfanekiso othile, kwaye bhetele ukuba iqulethe ukuhlanganiswa kwamhlophe kunye namanzi. Njengomphumo wophando olude, izazinzulu zafika kwisigqibo sokuba yinto edibeneyo enobungakanani obufanelekileyo kwiimeko ezinjalo. Ingundoqo yale ndlela i sekelwe kwinto yokuba ngenxa yombono wethu sithola ubuninzi beenkcukacha malunga nehlabathi elisijikelezayo. Ngako oko, ukujonga imifanekiso ebonakalayo kulula ukuba ingqondo yethu.
Ngoko, ukukhawuleza ukuzola iingxaki kufuneka uhlale phantsi, vala amehlo akho, uzame ukuphumla, ubuyisele ukuphefumula ngokukhawuleza, uze ucinge ngomfanekiso ngamanzi amhlophe engqondweni yakho. Ukuze ube nomthelela omkhulu, zama ukuzalisa umfanekiso obonakalayo woluvo lokuba amanzi apholileyo achukumisa omnye ebusweni bakho, ubuso, amahlombe, isifuba, imilenze. Khawucinge ngomxhelo wokuthinta izikhokelo emzimbeni wakho kwaye ujabulele kuyo imizuzwana engama-30.
Emva koko zama ukuba "ubone" indlela oku kuphuma ngayo lo manzi kuphuma kuwe, ukushiya emhlabathini okanye phantsi kwisimo se-funnel. Kulo mfanekiso, i-funnel ibaluleke kakhulu, kuba yinto ethatha yonke imizwa yakho emibi. Emva koko, ngokucwina kunzulu, vula amehlo akho. Uza kuziva ulula kwaye uzolile, ukuba iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo zihlala, ziza kuya kwisicwangciso sesibini.
Isenzo sesibini senziwa kakuhle kwisitya sokuhlambela, emva kokususa isiqhekeza, i-headcarf okanye i-necktie, ukuba ikhona. Emva koko zama ukuphumula, ubambe izandla zakho phantsi komlambo wamanzi apholileyo, uthinte ngokukhawuleza isandla esiphezulu esisinyamekileyo entanyeni, yokuqala, embalwa imizuzwana kamva kunye bobabini. Qalisa ngokukhawuleza ukutshiza intamo yakho ngezandla zakho, kwaye ngokuthe gqolo uhambe phezu kwamahlombe akho. Ekuqaleni, umnqweno wakho kufuneka ube nokukhanya kunye nobumnene, ngoko amandla okunyusa kufuneka atyuke ngokuthe ngcembe, afinyelele ubuninzi bawo imizuzwana ukuya kwemashumi mane, emva kokunciphisa okuncane. Emva koko, ngokuncinci amandla okunyanzela iminwe iya kuncitshiswa. Emva kokwenza konke oku ngasentla, kufuneka uphinde uphume izandla ezimanzi ngezandla ezipholileyo entanyeni. Le ndlela yokuzinqabisa ifaneleke ngakumbi kubafazi, kuba ulusu lwabo entanyeni lubuhlungu ngakumbi kwaye luyakhathazeka ukuthintela.
Kukho enye indlela, eya kufuna kakhulu kakhulu. Kulo msebenzi, udinga isiqwenga saluphi na isalathisi esinokugqithisa, nokuba ithawula okanye isikhala, kunzima ukuyiva, ingcono. Ngoko, isalathiso sitholakala, sisesandleni sakho kwaye silungele ukufumana yonke imvakalelo emibi eqokelelwe kuwe ngosuku. Ukucwina ngokucokisekileyo, inqabana inqabana, okanye ithawula ehlezi ezandleni zakhe, ukuhambisa yonke ingqumbo yakho nentukuthelo, ukuguqula indwangu kangangoko kunokwenzeka, zama ukukrazula kuyo yonke into enokwenzeka. Musa ukucinga ngokuliphula, yenza nje into oyenzayo. Ukuzivocavoca kufuneka kugqitywe ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza, ukuvula izandla kunye nokulahla isiqwenga sesisu. Lo msebenzi uza kukunceda uzive ulula kwaye ukhululekile, ngakumbi ezandleni. Ukuba unqwenela, umsebenzo unokuphindwa.
Kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, kulungele ukuphulaphula umzimba wakho. Kuzo zonke iinkxalabo ezingaxhatshazi nje kuphela kwiimeko zangaphakathi, kubonisa nakwiimisipha zethu. Ngako oko, ukusetyenziswa okunye okuphumayo kunye nokuxinwa kwemisipha kuya kuba ngempumelelo. Ungaphinda uzame ukuhlalisa iminwe ezandleni zakho, akuyi kukuphazamisa nje ekukhathazeni, kodwa kunokukukhokelela kummandla oqinileyo. Ukuze uwenze ngokuthe ngenye kwimizamo eyaneleyo, cinezela kwi-nail phalanx yomunwe ngamnye.
Zonke izenzo ezingentla zingenakunzima, kwaye ezinye zazo zingenziwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye zingenakuqondakala kakuhle kwindawo yokusebenza. Ukuba awuzinyamekeli, okanye ngubani ongayi kubandakanyeka kule mi sebenzi.