Udibana nomntu osandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nentombi yakho, kwaye uvakalelwa kukuba "umoya" walolu thando kukuthintela ukwakha ubudlelwane obugcweleyo? Ngaba uhlala ucinga ukuba umntu uyakufanisa nalowo owayengumntu, uvale ngokwakhe, unomdla ngokuzondla iimfihlelo ezithile kwaye uyacaphuka xa uzama ukumngenisa ingxoxo engathethiyo? Ewe, vuyiswa! Ube yilungu lenxantathu yothando. Kodwa akumele ubeke le nto kwaye unelungelo lokuba nobuhlobo bokwenene. Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntu engakwazi ukulibala eli langaphambili? Unokuqonda njani ukuba akabonanga uthando lwangaphambili, kwaye unokumnceda njani ukuba alahlekise ukuxhomekeka kwakhe ukuze athathe indawo ephambili entliziyweni yakhe?
Iimpawu zinyaniso ukuba loo mntu akazange ayibale le yangaphambili
Ngokwaloo nto, ngasinye saloo mpawu asithethi ukuba umfana uye wakunika indawo "yendawo yokungcebeleka", kodwa ukuba ubuncinane babo abathathu bafumane ebudlelwaneni bakho, i-alamu ephilileyo.- Umfana udla ukuthetha igama lalokuqala. Ukuba igama le ntombazana elidlulileyo aliveli emlonyeni wenkwenkwe yakho (ehlala ikhuluma ngeengxoxo, ivakalisa igama layo ngesisa, idibanisa ngeemvakalelo okanye ngokukhawuleza ikubiza ngegama layo), qiniseka ukuba akamvumeli ukuba ahambe.
- Umfana ufanisa nawe ngaphambili. Nangona oku kuthelekiswa noko, musa ukukhawuleza ukuba ujonge ukuba ubhetele kakhulu. Ngoko unako ukuzama ukuzenzela yena ngokwakhe ukuba azikholise ukuba akukho nto ayithandayo.
- Umfana ugcina izipho kunye nezinto zangaphambili. Xa umntu engayithandi ulwalamano lwangaphambili, izinto ezidibanisa naye zangaphambili azibonakali nayiphi na ixabiso kuye. Ngoko ke, ukuba umfana ogcina ngokucophelela umtya oboshwe yintombazana yangaphambili okanye engazange athathe i-pendant yegolide enikezelwe kuye, akayilungele ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimemori yakhe.
- Umfana unomona ngomntu owayekade engumntu. Iindaba zokuthi umntu omtsha ubonakale ebomini bakhe, iqabane lakho liva kakhulu ngokomzwelo, lilingana nesiganeko nge-apocalypse? Ungathandabuzeki, uyaqonda, uyazijonga yena, kwaye akayi kubelana nothando kunye namanye amadoda.
- Umfana ucinga ukuba lowo wayesakuba ngumhlobo wakhe omhle. Kulungile ukuba uyavuyisana nentombi yakhe yangaphambili okanye uya kufumana i-SMS enomvulo evela kuye. Kodwa ukuba, ukuqala ulwalamano kunye nawe, ugxininisa ukuba umntu owayeyintanda yakhe ngaphambili uya kuqhubeka ebalulekileyo ebomini bakhe, cinga, kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe?
- Umfana ufihla kuwe kwiintlanganiso ezinobungane kunye nabangaphambili. Ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba ambone emsebenzini, kwinkampani yabahlobo kunye nabanye, kwaye uyazi ngako, akukho nto ebangela ukuba uxhalabele. Kodwa ukuba ubambene nomntu kwiintlanganiso ezifihlakeleyo kunye nabokuqala, kubonakala ukuba udlala umdlalo ombini kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukwakha amabhuloho amadala.
- Le ndoda ibandakanyeke ngokubalulekileyo ebomini babantu basekuqaleni. Akakwazi ukunqabela uncedo lwakhe, kwaye ezi zikhwaza ze "sos" zangaphambili iimantombazana zibe zihlazo ezihlazo? Hlalani nilindile, mhlawumbi, ngaphambili akuhlose ukukunika othandekayo. Yaye ukuba akayikuyeka le miqobo, umnqweno uyabelana.
- Umfana akayikukuzisa ngokusingqongileyo. Ukuba umntu othandayo uyazama ukukufihla kubazali bakhe nabahlobo bakhe, kunokwenzeka ukuba akafuni ukuba izalamane zakho zikwazi ngolwalamano lwakho, kuba usenethemba lokubuyisela intombazana yangaphambili.