Ewe, le nyaniso iyasihlazisa kakhulu, kwaye siqale siqale ukuzithela, sizifune iimpazamo, esizicingayo, zisichukumise le ndoda kuthi. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, isizathu salo mkhuba sivela kwiimeko zangaphakathi zomntu ngokwakhe. Ingaba yimiba eyahlukileyo eyahambelana neengxaki zayo zangaphakathi. Kwaye, njengokuba uyazi, abantu abafuni ukuthatha isimo sengqondo sabo sokuxoxa. Ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukuvuma ukuba ezi ngxaki zikhona ngokubanzi. Ukungathandabuzeki ngokuvumelana komntu kuqhutywe ngaphantsi kwebhanki kuwo wonke ummeli wesigqeba esomeleleyo sabantu. Kule meko, indlela yonyani yinyaniso iya kuba yindoda ephuma engxoxweni ephosakeleyo, ukuqala ingxoxo kuqala. Konke kuxhomekeke kwindlela oqala ngayo. Oku kufuneka kwenziwe ngokuchanekileyo nangokuchanekileyo, okungeke kube nomsindo okanye kungabangeli ubuhlungu neemvakalelo zakhe. Okukhethwa kona apha kukubiza isigwebo esinokumangalela kwidilesi yakhe, ngokukhawuleza emva kokuva ukuba wenqaba ukulala ngesini nawe. Incoko ngokubanzi ingaqalisa ngaphandle kwesixa-mzuzu, kodwa, umzekelo, linda uze uhlale udibene kwaye ungathetha intliziyo ngentliziyo. Kule meko unamathuba amaninzi okufumanisa isizathu esona senzekayo. Nawe ngokuzithemba ngokwakho unokukwazi ukuqonda into ebanzi, kwimeko apho umntu engafuni ukulala nomfazi.
Kwaye nangona ungazange uzibuze yena, makhe sicinge ngokubalulekayo kubantu kwizizathu zokuba umntu akafuni ukulala ngeshini. Siyakwazi ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zethu, ngelizwi esiphila ngalo. Amadoda angaphantsi kwabantu abanomdla ngenxa yeengqondo zabo zengqondo, ngoko ke, kunzima kakhulu ukubamba iingxaki ezinxulumene nomsebenzi okanye intsapho. Uhlala ephefumula ngoku kunye nalo kwaye akukho nto kwaye akanakukucinga njengesisombululo kule ngxaki. Kwaye ukuxhaphaza kwakho okuqhelekileyo, okwenzekileyo ngosuku oludlulileyo, kunokubangela "umnqweno wakhe". Njengoko isiphelo - akasondelanga kuwe okanye ugqibe ukukufundisa ngale ndlela aze ajezise. Nangona kunjalo isizathu siyakwazi ukusebenzela ngaphakathi "Mina". Ngokomzekelo, okwangoku, ungumqali wesondo, kunye ne-muzhiks, njengomthetho, sifana nokufezekisa oku kusuka kithi. Kwaye ke ngenxa yoko, akazange amthobele kwaye wamchaphazela. Amadoda amaninzi awayithandi xa intombazana inikeza ngesondo, kuba bayayithanda kakhulu inkqubo "yokuba umtshato" bavuya kakhulu kule nto. Njengoko bethetha indawo engafanelekanga nexesha, ungayenza ntoni ngako. Qiniseka ukuba ulindele isinyathelo sokuqala ngqo kuye, kwaye ngokwalo ukunciphisa ukunyamezela kwakho nokunyamezela.
Ewe, ukuba awukwazi ukuba yingxaki enkulu kunesi sihloko xa indoda ilahlekelwa ngumdla kuwe njengowesifazane. Uyayeka ukuziva ukuba uyakhangelwa ngokwesondo kwaye ngenxa yale nto iyakwenqaba. Oku kwenzeka rhoqo xa ulwalamano lwakho lunexesha elibalulekileyo okanye lugxothwe ekuphelelwe lithemba, kodwa lugcina ndawonye, nje umkhwa wokubonana ngapha nangapha. Wayeka ukumncoma njengowesifazane, yile mpendulo yonke. Ukwabelana ngesondo, ucinga ukuba uyamkhathaza kwaye akanakuthandi. Nalapha singakwazi ukukhusela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba unokuba nomnye umfazi owanelisayo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye akanekho amandla okwaneleyo okulala naye. Ngendlela, malunga nemikhosi. Musa ukuthatha yonke into ekhankanyiweyo ngasentla. Ngamanye amaxesha isimo sakhe sengqondo sichazwa ngokukhathala okanye ubuvila. Kwaye ukuba uyayazi ukuba ungokohlobo lokungahambi (kungekhona kuphela kwisini) amadoda, ngoko ke akunakucacisa ukuziphazamisa. Unomdla kakhulu ukulala embhedeni kunye nokulawula okukude ukusuka kwi-TV (ngakumbi ukuba ibhola lihlelwe kulobu busuku) kunokuba uphuphe imizuzu emihlanu kunye nawe embhedeni.
Sekunjalo isizathu - wena, kwingqalelo yengqondo yengqondo yomntu, ungamthandi njengowesifazane. Ngako oko, uthatha isondo kunye nawe njengento enyanzelekileyo engenzi nto ikhethekileyo. Unqabile kakhulu ebhedeni okanye ngokuphambene naso kwaye ngenxa yokuba awukho nje uhlobo lwaso wesifazane kwimicimbi esondeleyo. Amadoda azifunayo ngokwawo kunye neqabane labo ngexesha lobudlelwane obusondelene nabo, ngoko ke banomdla kakhulu malunga nokukhethwa komlingani wesini. Kwaye nokuba ukhangele ikhulu leepesenti, awukwazi ukuhlala unelisa iimfuno zakhe zesini kunye neemfuno. Uhlala nje ngabantu abangafaniyo ngokwesini kwaye kunjalo. Kukwafanelekile ukukhankanya ezinye izinto ezichaphazela ukungavumi kwakhe ekufuphi. Ziyimfuneko kwimeko apho ungakabikho ubuhlobo bakho bokuqala kunye nalo mlingane. Oku akusikho ithemba lakhe kumava (ukwesaba ukudimaza), ukwesaba ngesondo (mhlawumbi useyintombi). Ubukhulu obuncinane bendoda (okanye ukungabi namandla), ukukhathazeka kwengqondo yobuntwana, uhlobo oluthile lwesifo (mhlawumbi nesifo se-venereal). UngumKristu (ngaphandle kobuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nomfazi ngaphambi kokuba atshate bobabini, kuba lo uluvo lwakhe alukho nto kunokukrexeza isono esenza isono) okanye awuyi kulawule ukuba unommeli weentlobano zesini, oko kukuthi, ubungqingili . Njengokuba okokugqibela kwakungazwakali, kodwa namhlanje kuya kwenzeka.
Kwaye ke saqwalasela izizathu eziqhelekileyo xa umntu engafuni ukulala ngeshini. Kwaye ngasentla, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba, ngokungathi akukho nto, kwaye uthetha nawe kwesi sihloko kuya kuba. Akukho nto yokuhlushwa omnye nomnye. Emva koko, uthando ngaphandle kwezesondo aluyenzeki kwaye luya kwenzeka.