I nyaniso yokuba awunayo ikhaya lakho akufanele ichaphazele umgangatho wobomi bakho besondo. Makhe sijonge indlela yokulungisa isondo esifanelekileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungaphi.
Kwiminyaka yethu emncinci, asiyikubaluleka ngokukodwa kwindawo kunye neemeko. Sisoloko siqulunqa, sungula into ecela uMama ukuba ahlale ekhaya aze afumane indawo apho ungathatha umhlalaphantsi kunye neqabane lakho ukuya kwiphakamiso yeqela elimnandi nelithiyo. Ngoko kutheni ngexesha elivuthileyo asikwazi ukwenza oku? Kutheni sifuna indlu yokuhlala kungekho zihlobo kunye nabantwana, kunye nebala elikhulu kunye nokulala kabini?
Enyanisweni, kukho indlela yokuphuma, ezi ziyiyo nje. Ufuna nje imbali encinane, khumbula ukuba bekusebuntwaneni bakho - kwaye ubomi bakho bobulili buya kubilisa njengakudala.
Ubundlobongela endlwini yobubi
Zihlala zihlala zihlala kwiindawo ezihlala kuyo. Wonke umntu unezizathu zakhe ezi zinto - kungabikho ukungabi nemali ukuthenga indlu yakho okanye ukuqeshisa nayiphi na indawo yokuhlala, isidingo sokuhlala kwindawo ethile xa ubonisa indlu yakho ilungiswa njalo njalo. Ziziphi iingxaki kunye neengxaki ezinokukufumana kule meko? Abanye bakhononda ukuba kwiindawo zabo zokulala ngesondo ngokobubomi babenelisekile, kwaye kwindlu yabazali ngokubanzi baba njengefilimu engacacanga - akukho ntshukumo engavumelekanga kunye nezandi. Uninzi lwabantu kule meko luziva luxinzelelekile, alukwazi ukuphumla, kuba bayazi ukuba emva kwodonga umama olele kunye noyise. Ezinye izinto ezichaphazela ubomi obusondeleyo zibandakanya ukwesaba ukuba uya kubanjwa ngexesha elibaluleke kakhulu, kwaye kufuneka uzinqande ukuhamba kunye nezandi.
Ewe, kukho indlela yokuphuma. Sonke siyazi ukuba imeko ngokwalo ayisoyikanga kakhulu njengento esondeleyo ngayo. Oku kuphakamisa ukuba kufuneka ulahle ukuthozama kwenkohliso kwaye, nangona yonke into, unakekele intsapho yakho kunye nenhlalakahle yayo, kungekhona malunga neengcamango eziza kunqoba abanye abantu. Ewe, kunjalo, kukufanele ukukhunjulwe ngemithetho elula yokuziphatha.
- Okokuqala, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba umnyango ungagqalwa. Ngako oko, ufuna ikhekhi, okanye i-elementary heck. Ukuba uthanda isondo esingavamile kwaye ujonge izinto zokuqala usebenzisa ezinye iimpawu ezithile, ngoko azinakuzigcina kwindawo ebonakalayo, kungcono ukuzifihla, ukuba awufuni ukuba abazali bakho bakubone.
- Izihlobo nabazali abahlala ngawe akudingeki ukuba wazi into oyenzayo kwinqaba yakho. Ukuba udidekile ngumbumba webhedeni, yifumana entsha okanye ungaphantsi umthamo phantsi komgangatho. I-kovertozhe encinci ingajika ibe yindawo enkulu ebusuku, i-springboard. Khumbula ifilimu endala "izihlalo ezili-12", apho amaqhawe ancedayo kwisitofu esiphezulu ezama ukuzithoba izandi zokubamba. Musa ukuphucula amaqhinga abo, musa ukuguqulwa ngoncedo lomculo okanye uvule ngeTV. Ngokuqinisekileyo esikolweni uya kufunda kwizifundo ze-physics kwaye uyazi ukuba yenza umsindo apho bephulaphule. Ngako oko, kuya kuba ngcono ukuba unikezela igumbi eliyekayo kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zeediski kunye neefilimu kunye ne-plug kwithelevishini. "Qinisekisa" abazali kwiinkalo ezithandekayo, kwaye ngeli xesha, ninyamekele umcimbi obaluleke kakhulu, owenziwe ngawo onke.
- Abantu abaninzi banomdla "kule" kwiwadi, ngelixa bexelela abazali: "Ndiza kubuya umva wam." Amanzi yindlela enhle yokwenza zonke izandi - zivivinywa. Ngaphezu koko, abazali akudingeki ukuba bazi apho kwaye kutheni uye waya khona. Bangabantu abadala, bayaqonda yonke into.
- Thenga ithikithi yabazali kwibala lezemidlalo okanye uzame ukuzinikela ekuthandeni xa besuka kwilizwe. Zama ukuvuselela umsebenzi wakho ngokucacileyo ngendlela enokuza ekhaya ngesidlo sasemini uze ushiye i-sutra ukuba usebenze kamva kunokuba abazali bakho.
- Ehlobo, yonke indawo isetyenziswe. Ungalungiselela i-adventure yothando phakathi kwehlathi, i-rzhanopolye, kwi-hayloft, nje ekucoceni emoyeni kwaye njalo njalo. Dissolve ubomi bobulili befantasy. Ngendlela, uyazi ukuba imozulu ihlala isinika amandla okulala ngokwesini? Oku kuchaza ukuba ukufuphi esondeleyo emoyeni omtsha kusekho kwinkumbulo yethu ixesha elide.
- Ukuba udibanisa ingcamango yokudala, uya kuba neqela leendawo ezahlukeneyo apho unokuthatha umhlalaphantsi kumntu othandekayo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba kukho umoya onobungane ekhaya, ngoko awuyi kuvala nayiphi na imiqobo kwiindawo eziphathekayo. Wonke umntu uyazi le nto: "Thatha, ungakhubeki!".
Kwindlu yegumbi elilodwa nomntwana
Iqabane elincinane kwigumbi legumbi elilodwa livakalelwa likhululekile kwaye lizimeleyo, kuphela ngaphandle kwabazali babo. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba intsapho iyanda? Abazali abaninzi abancinane baqala ukubuza ngokukhawuleza: "Ukuba umntwana elele egumbini elifanayo kunye nathi, igosa lokugqibela liya kukwazi ukulala ngesondo nokuba ingaba lihle yini na?" Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana ekhula kwaye asikwazi ukulala ndawonye kwigumbi elinye?
Kwaye kule meko kwakhona kukho indlela yokuphuma. Izibini ezininzi ezaba ngabazali ngamaxesha aseSoviet zaye zineemeko ezifanayo. Akukho nto eyenzekayo nakubani na, bahlala kwaye yonke into iyinto evamile kunye ne-psyche. Abantwana banamhlanje banolwazi oluninzi malunga nobudlelwane obusondelene nabo, kwaye ngokubanzi umntwana wakho oneminyaka ezisixhenxe akanakukholwa ukuba wenza imidlalo.
- Kukho iintsapho ezifanele zihlale kwelinye igumbi njengabantwana ababini. Abantu abaninzi banqumle lo mbuzo ngokusebenzisa isahlulo esilula. Ukuba awunalo ithuba lokutshintsha igumbi, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukutshintsha "ukuchithwa". Ungakulibali ukuba kwiplanga ngalinye kukho ikhitshi kunye nendawo yokuhlambela. Ngokuqinisekileyo uyavuma ukuba ukwenza uthando lonke ixesha lokulala kumnandi!
- Ngeveki neeholide kunokwenzeka ukuba uthathe abantwana kubazali nootatomkhulu abalindele ukuba bazuze abazukulwana babo. Ehlobo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ulungiselele umbhede ebhaleni okanye ukubeka isepha ephosiweyo ekhitshini. Abantwana banomdla kakhulu, ngoko ke baya kuhlamba apho bahlale kude nawe okanye bafunde enye incwadi enomdla.
- Ukutshata ngokusondeza kwenzeka ngaphandle kwemisindo engadingekile, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha indawo efanelekileyo. Kwimeko yakho, kucetyiswa ukulibala malunga ne-posandrader kunye nomthunywa wevangeli. Lalala phantsi. Umlingani wakho kuphela kufuneka ahambe, ngaphezu koko, ukutshatyalaliswa kufuneka kube kancinci. Okanye ukhethe okukhethiweyo kwisimo se "spoon": ulala yedwa ecaleni, ujika umqolo wakho kwi-hilt uze udibanise umva wakho osezantsi.
- Unokulungisa umculo kwangaphambili, ukwenzela ukuba emva koko akuyi kubakho ukungaqondi. Ungabi neentloni ukubonisa iimvakalelo zothando, komnye xa kukho umntwana egumbini. Khumbula ukuba ngoku uneminyaka engama-5 kwimpahla yeencwadi zokuthengisa unokufumana iincwadi ze-encyclopedias ezikhethekileyo zobuntu zesini ezibhalwa ngabantwana beengqondo zeengqondo. Ungathengela omnye umntwana wakho kwaye ujonge le ncwadi ndawonye, zama ukungabi neentloni xa uthetha neempompo kwizihloko ezivulekileyo. Yaye ukuba ngokukhawuleza umntwana okhulayo uyakubamba emva kobudlelwane obusondelene naye, akuyi kucinga ukuba zonke iintlobo zezizathu zokuzimela kwaye uzichazele oko.
Njengomthetho, ingxaki ayikho ukuba iimeko azifani, ingxaki ixhomekeke entloko yethu. Ukuba awukwazi ukujamelana nelokuba ulahlekelwe ngumntu oqhelana nesondo kunye naye, ukuba kukho umntwana emva kwodonga, okanye kwigumbi, wabuyela kutshintshi: isifo sezesondo okanye isifo sengqondo seentsapho.