Ngokuqhelekileyo, izisongelo zifunyenwe ngefowuni, ngeleta okanye kumqulu, okanye ngezinye iindaba. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, xa kwenzeka imeko efanayo-ngokuyinkoyiko, ukutshwenyeka okubangela into emangalisa ngayo. Umbuso onjalo ukhokelela ekubeni umntu akakwazi ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo kwaye aqonde ulwazi, ngoko umthetho wokuqala kunye nobunzima kakhulu wokuphunyezwa ukuyeka ukwesaba, ukuzilawula nokuzihlaziya kakuhle oko kwenzekayo. Ngoku masicinge into enokuyenza xa isongelo ebomini livela ngefowuni.
Kunenzuzo kakhulu ukuba nenombolo ye-ID yomnxeba. Ukuba ukhona, bhala phantsi okanye ukhumbule inombolo apho babizayo khona. Ukuba unakho izixhobo zokurekhoda ezizenzekelayo - zama ukurekhoda ucingo kunye nencoko epheleleyo, ngaphandle kokulahleka nayiphi na inkcukacha. Ngexesha le ncoko, zama ukuyikhumbuza njengangokoqobo, lungisa yonke into onokuyenza, ephepheni. Qiniseka ukuba uqaphela imvelaphi yesandi, ukhumbule nayiphi na izandi, ngaphandle kwezwi, izandi. Gcina kwakhona ixesha elichanekileyo lefowuni, ixesha layo. Ngeendleko zokusongela, zama ukujonga ubudala bayo, ubulili, iimpawu zentetho, i-accent, isiqu sezwi, tempo kunye nokubiza. Naliphi na iinkcukacha oza kuzikhumbula ziya kubaluleka kakhulu, kwaye yonke ingcaciso iya kuba yintsebenziswano yophando. Isaziso kwakhona esivela kubani ubuso obunomntu osongelayo, nokuba wenza iiphoso, yiziphi iimeko azibeka phambili, njani kunye naluphi ixesha lokuthintana naye. Zama ukugxila kwiimfuno zayo, ukulibazise ixesha elide lokuphunyezwa kwazo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umenzi wobugwenxa uya kukusongela, akuxwayise ngokufihlakeleyo, aze abonise ukongelo ebomini okanye kuwe. Ungesabi ukwesatshiswa kwakhe, uqinisekise ukuthotyelwa komthetho. Nceda uqaphele: ifowuni yakho ingacatshulwa, ngoko kungcono ukusebenzisa enye, kwaye uyilungiselele ukuba ubukele. Njengoko iinani libonisa ukuba, kungcono ukuba ungabonakali okwenzekayo.
Ukuba izisongelo zobomi zafika kule leta, inkqubo yezenzo iya kuba yinto eyahlukileyo. Okokuqala, zama ukuba ungashiyi iimpepha zeminwe kwileta, ungayifaki, ungathathi naliphi na amanqaku, kucetyiswa ukuba uhambe ngokuchanekileyo ngendlela enokwenzeka ngayo kwimeko apho yanikwa khona. Kufuneka ugqibe ixesha lokunikezelwa, khumbula ukuba kwaye yanikezelwa ngayo, ngaba uyibona into engavamile xa ufumene ileta. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Vula imvulophu ngokufanelekileyo, nciphise iphepha ukusuka kwicala lasekunene okanye langakwesokudla, ukuphatha lo mbhalo ngokucophelela ngokunokwenzeka. Qaphela ukuba akukho mhlobo wakho okanye omaziyo omaziyo ngaye. Konke oku kuya kunceda ama-criminologists ngexesha lophando. Kwakhona, zama ukuhlawula ingqalelo ezininzi kwiinkcukacha kwaye ukhumbule nganye into, hlalani nokuzola.
Kuthiwani ukuba izinto ezisongelayo ziyingozi kakhulu kwaye zisongela ngokuthe ngqo kwi-aggressor? Ukuxabisa imeko yakhe yomzimba, yengqondo kunye nengqondo. Nanku kwakhona, uya kuncedwa nayiphi na inkcazelo: iimpahla, ubuso, ubuso, ukunyakaza, ilizwi, ukunyameka, indlela esichengeni ngayo - yonke le nkohlakalo "inokufunda" kwaye inqume indlela yokuziphatha nayo. Ukuvavanya isongelo kunye ne-aggressor kubaluleke kakhulu, kufuneka ube njengongqongqo kwaye ukhangele ngokusemandleni. Isimo somzimba sichaza oko utshaba lubukeka lufana nalo, lube lukhulu kangakanani, luyintoni inzuzo kwaye luyintoni inzuzo, ingaba uqeqesho olukhethekileyo, izixhobo, yintoni imisculature yayo, ingaba kukho i-pathologies ngokomzimba okanye ukungaphumeleli. Abantu abanokuqeqeshwa okukhethekileyo banethemba, balinda ulutshaba, balungisa nayiphi na indlela yakhe yokuhamba.
Kunzima kunomtsha ukucacisa imeko yengqondo. Kodwa yile nto edlala indima ebalulekileyo kwixesha leziganeko. Izigwenxa ziyakwazi ukwahlula kwiintlobo ezintathu eziphambili: abantu abaneziphene zengqondo, abantu abanempilweni ngokwengqondo nangabantu abanempilo abangaphantsi kweempembelelo zendalo. Ngolunye lweentlobo zontathu unokwahlukana kwizinto ezininzi ezongezelelweyo. Kunzima ukufumanisa umntu ogula ngengqondo. Unokubandezeleka nge-schizophrenia, i-manic syndrome, ibe yintlalo okanye umntu ongenalo. Nangona i-schizophrenia ngokwayo inezinto ezahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, isigulane esinokuphilisa i-paranoid schizophrenia sinokucinga ukuba yenza umsebenzi wenkolo, umsebenzi wokukubulala. Okanye ukuba ungummeli oyimfihlo, okanye unokutshutshiswa ngabagubungela kunye neentlola, kwaye unokubonakala ngathi ungomnye wabo, okanye uthunyelwe ukuba umbulale. Ukuqinisekisa isigulane sokunyaniseka kweenkolelo kwiimeko ezininzi ezingenamsebenzi. I-Sociopath-manipulator, scam. Uthanda uvakalelo lwamandla, akanalo sazela, unetyala, inceba. Uhlobo olunganeleyo lunombono ophosakeleyo wenyaniso, unokwazi isiphumo somsebenzi.
Kuthekani ukuba ngaba unomngcipheko obomini ngokukhawuleza? Ukuchonga imvelaphi yemvakalelo yoluphulo-mthetho, oko uvakalelwa ngokubanzi kwaye ngokubhekiselele kuwe: ukunyaniseka, ukwesaba, ukungathandabuzeki, umsindo, ukugonywa. Imvakalelo nganye inesicwangciso sayo sokusebenza. Into ephambili enokukunceda nangaliphi na imeko-ukuzithiba, ubuchule, ukubonwa kwaye, ngokungathandabuzeki, umnqweno onamandla wokuphila.