Amaphupha ama-Eroti kwanoma yimuphi umntu. Iphupha elinjalo lingaphupha umntu omdala kunye nentsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umxholo wobuthongo obuthathaka kumntwana kunye nomdala uya kuhluka. Ngokuqhelekileyo xa sibona amaphupho angenangqondo, thina ngokwethu sibachazela ngokungabikho kwesondo kwimpilo yethu yemihla ngemihla, okanye njengeminqweno yamfihla esiyikwazi ukuyiguqulela. Kodwa amaphupha afihlakeleyo kwaye ayengasetyenziswa ngokupheleleyo. Njengomthetho, isondo kwiphupha kuthetha ngokupheleleyo ukulala ngesondo, kodwa into ehlukileyo. Amaphupha aphethwe yi-psychoanalysis.
Kutheni ufuna ukuphupha amaphupho angenangqondo?
Ngokuqhelekileyo zikhomba nje ngezinye iimfuno zakho zengqondo. Xa ucacisa amaphupha okhulayo, khawuqwalasele ukuba uluvo luni olukubangela. Ukuba uvuka ngeemvakalelo ezimnandi, oku kubonisa ukuba ufihlile iminqweno. Kwaye abaxhomekekanga ukuba banxulumene nobomi besondo. Ukuba iphupha lenze ukuba ube nemvakalelo emibi okanye uvakalelo lwenkohlakalo, hlalutya ubomi bakho ebomini boqobo. Mhlawumbi, enye ingxabano engaxilwanga ivuliwe phambi kwakho.
Amaphupha aphikisayo asitshela ntoni?
Kutheni uphupha ngephupha elidangayo? Naluphi na iphupha elikhuphayo linengcaciso yalo yengqondo. Cinga ngolu hlobo oluqhelekileyo kubo.
Amaphupha aphezulu kakhulu aphuphayo aphupha ngokugqithisa, apho usebenza njengexhoba okanye ungumdlwenguli. Ukuba uphupha ukuba ulixhoba lobundlobongela bezocanshulwa, ngoko ufuna ukulahla ezinye iinqwelwana ngobomi bokwenene. Ukuba waba ngumdlwenguli ephupheni, ukhathele konke okwenzekayo ebomini bakho bokwenene, kufuneka uziqonde wena kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo. Ukuba uphupha ukukhwabanisa phambi kweqela elikhulu labantu, kwindawo ethile yoluntu, oku kuthetha ukuba into ayihambisani nawe. Oku kudibana akudingeki ukuba ihambelane nobomi besondo. Ukuba unamaphupha, apho ulala nawe, ngoko ke, kufuneka ukwandise ukuzithemba kwakho. Jonga ngokwakho ngamehlo ahlukeneyo. Mhlawumbi uza kubona into entsha kwaye inomdla kuwe. Ukuba unesondo esilungileyo kwaye uphupha ngephupha elikhuphayo kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwesinye isibhinqa, oku akuthethi ukuba unamathele ekutheni ulwabiwo lwentlobo lwengingqi. Mhlawumbi unalo uthando olwaneleyo kunye nokufudumala, okanye iqabane li nezo mpawu ongazibonanga ngazo. Ukungena kuyo ngokubhekiselele kuyo, ubonakala ubona ezi mpawu zayo.
Musa ukukhathazeka, ukuba ngokukhawuleza ephupheni lokukrokra ungumntu. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Inzala yemvelo ukutyelela izicathulo zomnye umntu. Mhlawumbi ngokwenene ukhetha ukuziphatha ngesondo ngokuphangaleleyo, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile oku akusebenziyo okwamanje. Musa ukuxhalaba xa uqhuba iphupha nomntu owaziyo. Akubonakali ukuba unomnqweno wesondo ngaye. Kuphela lo mntu unempawu enokufuna ukuzibona kwiqabane lakho langempela.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiiphupho ezinobunzima sihlangana nomfokazi. Kulungile ukuba unamaphupha anjalo. Kubonakala ngathi, usuke udinwe yinto eluhlaza. Ukuba uyaphupha ngobudlelwane bezesondo kunye nomntu owayengumlingani, oku akuthethi ukuba unengcinga malunga naye. Mhlawumbi ezinye izenzo kunye neemeko zahlala zingagcinwanga. Ukuba umntu ungena kwiphupha lakho elingahambi kakuhle, eliyinto engathandeki kuwe, cinga, mhlawumbi ungathanda ukufumana iimpawu zentshaba, okanye ufuna ukufana naye. Kwabanye abantu, sivame ukucaphukisa ngenxa yezimpawu zabo kunokuba ziphosakele. Ukuba unamaphupha ahlale ekhona okanye umntu ekuthintela ukuba ulale ngesondo, kuthetha ukuba awukaze ufumene iimfuno ezibalulekileyo ebomini boqobo.
Kutheni ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuhlalutya i-subconscious yethu emini? Ngenxa yokuba sithinteka nje ngeendlela zokuziphatha kunye neemeko ezahlukeneyo. Zama ukuphulaphula amaphupha akho. Mhlawumbi bakubonisa ngezinye iinguqu kwizinto eziyinyani.