Kwilizwe laseSoviet emva, isivumelwano somtshato sivuselela ingxabano eninzi. Kwakukho uluvo lokuba ulingqina ukungabi nethemba kwixesha elizayo lomntu. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Makhe sizame ukuqonda intshukumiselo yabo baye bathabatha isigqibo sokuba bathathe le nyathelo kunye nalabo abahlukileyo ngokubhekiselele kwisiphelo sesivumelwano esinjalo.
Uphando lwezentlalo lubonisa ukuba ipesenteji yabalandeli beemvumelwano zonyango zanda ngokweenqanaba labafundi. Kwaye oku kubonisa ukuba amadoda nabasetyhini abaye bajamelana nokuqhawula umtshato kunye nokwahlukana kwepropathi emva kwayo, bajonge ngakumbi ubudlelwane kwaye baqonde ukuba uthando namhlanje luya kuba yintlondi kwiminyaka eyi-10.
Izigwebo zesigaba zabantu abakholelwa ukuba ukugqitywa kwesivumelwano somtshato - uphawu lokungathembeki, kusekelwe kwiingcamango zabo, kodwa abacinga ukuba akusoloko uphula amalungelo abo bafunwa ukuba basayine. Ngokomzekelo, iqela elincinci lingaphinda lifumene isiphakamiso esinjalo njengesicatshulwa somtshato ngesiseko sokubala, kodwa nokuba iqabane elithandekayo lingayiqondi into enqatshelwe.
Inkontileka yomtshato ayinakwenzeka ukulungisa iingxaki zeentsapho zakho, ziza kulungisa kuphela ubudlelwane bakho bepropati. Enyanisweni, kwiMelika efanayo kwisivumelwano somtshato, unokumisela malunga nantoni na into, ukuqala ekubeni ngubani ojongene nokuhlamba izitya, nokuphela ngeendlela eziliqela kunyaka kufuneka uhambe kwiholide okanye uvakashele izihlobo. Kodwa, kwelizwe lethu linomntu ohlukileyo. Ukongezelela, eNtshona Yurophu naseKhanada, izivumelwano zomtshato zaqalisa ukugqitywa kwangaphambili kunokowethu. Kwaye abaninzi abantu bakholelwa ukuba le yintsimi yabantu abazizityebi abaya kubelana ngezigidi, kunye nommi oqhelekileyo welizwe, akukho nto yokuxhalabisa ngenxa yegumbi elincinane lezindlu. Kodwa namhlanje, izibini ezinomvuzo oyingqiqo zicinga ngale ngxaki.
Ngendlela, ukuba ukholwa ukuba kwakuseNtshona ukuba imvumelwano yokuqala yomtshato yavela, ngoko uya kukhwankqiswa ukufunda ukuba nakwiiGrisi naseRoma, abantu abasandula kutshata batyikitya uhlobo oluthile lwenkontileka. Isivumelwano sibonise ukuba yeyiphi na yebini, kunye nendlela umhlaba oza kubelwa ngayo xa umtshato uqeshwe.
Ukuba siphendule ikhowudi yentsapho, siya kubona ukuba ngokwemithetho, yonke impahla efunyenwe emtshatweni, xa kwenzeka umtshato, iya kwahlulwa ngokulinganayo, phakathi kwendoda nomfazi wangaphambili. Kodwa le meko yezinto ihamba kakuhle kubantu bonke, ingakumbi ukuba omnye wabafazi atyala imali kuyo yabazali babo, kwaye emva koko, bahlala bebaqalayo bokusayina umnqophiso. Kule meko, unokuxoxa ngekhontrakthi yinto yonke yepropati, kubandakanywa neyakho ebomini yakho yobomi.
Kunokwenzeka ukufaka icandelwana ngokubhekiselele kulowo mlingane angaphila kwindawo ehlala kuyo enye ngexesha kuphela lomtshato. Ngendlela, izipho zilawulwa ngokomthetho ngumnikezeli, oko kuthetha ukuba kwimeko yomtshato, yonke into enikwe yona ngexesha elivuyayo ingasuswa. Kutheni ungaqhubeki kwikhontrakthi kusengaphambili, ukuze ungabi nokujongana nesigaba se-blender kunye neebhotile?
Khumbula ukuba isivumelwano somtshato sikunceda ukugcina ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo emva kokuqhawula umtshato, kuba lula ukwenza inkqubo yokwahlula imoto, amafulethi, amashishini, njl. Ngaphezu koko, imvumelwano yesigqibo somtshato kufuneka ibe yinto yokuba kungaphulaphuli elinye lamalungu ukuba linye yeemfuno zeNtsapho Ye Khowudi.
Esikontranshini somtshato, njengomgaqo, ixabiso elithile alimiswanga, kodwa yonke into ibalwa njengepesenti. Ukuba umyeni wakho wexesha elizayo okanye ungummi welizwe elinye, khankanya ukuba isivumelwano somtshato siya kusebenza, kwimeko apho.
Isivumelwano somtshato asinakugqitywa phantsi koxinzelelo, kodwa kuphela ngokuvumelana kwemibutho. Kule nkalo, kwaye kukho iimbambano ngenxa yokunyaniseka kwesinye sezibini ukuba sisayine.
Isivumelwano kufuneka sibhalwe phantsi. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, uya kuba nethuba lokwenza utshintsho kuwo, okuqinisekiswa ngunyanariyali. Iingcali ziya kukuxelela ukuba zeziphi izinto ezifuneka zichazwe kwidokhumenti, esele ilawulwa ngumthetho.
Isivumelwano somtshato singagqitywa ngaphambi kokubhaliswa komtshato, kodwa kweli phepha liyaqala ukusebenza ngexesha lokubhalisa. Ininzi kaninzi kwiikontraka ezinjalo, kwixesha elizayo, kwenziwe utshintsho. Kwenzeka ukuba isivumelwano somtshato sipheliswa ngababini abesele batshadile ixesha elithile. Ngamanye amaxesha, oku kuququzelelwa ngokuthenga indawo entsha yokuhlala, ishishini elidibeneyo okanye ukuzalwa kwabantwana.
Ngenxa yobulungisa, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba abanye abantu baya kuqala ukuzilungiselela umtshato omfutshane kunye nomtshato, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuqikelela ubomi kwaye yonke imeko imele ithathelwe ingqalelo ngokwahlukileyo.
Ukuba ukwesaba ukugwetywa okanye ukungaqondi kakuhle kubahlobo okanye izalamane - akufanele ukhangise into yokuba usayine isivumelwano, ngoko uya kuphepha imibuzo engadingekile.
Kukho uluvo lokuba umtshato wothando kunye nesivumelwano somtshato awuhambelani, kodwa makhe ndingabi bhetele nje ukuchaza yonke imiba yezezimali kwaye ndiphile ngokuthula. Okanye ucinga ukuba yonke imimmy ehlala kunye nezingane ezandleni zabo, ilahlekelwe amakhaya, ikwazi ukucinga ngezinto ezinjalo ekuqaleni kobomi babo bentsapho. Impendulo icacile, oko kuthetha ukuba isiphetho sibonisa ukuba isiphelo sesivumelwano somtshato asikho nantoni na ukuba kuthetha ukungabikho kwenene, iimvakalelo zangempela.
Ungesabi ukuxoxa ngengxaki yokusayina isivumelwano somtshato nomhlobo wakho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unokujamelana nokungaqondakali kunye nentukuthelo, kwaye mhlawumbi ngokulandelana. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kufanelekile ukungena kwiikontraki zomtshato, kufike kuwe nakwixesha lakho elizayo okanye umyeni wamanje, ngokophulaphule intliziyo yakho, kodwa kunokuba ube nengqiqo kwaye wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo.