Ungazami ukuthungela umntu. Musa ukuya kumanyathelo angqongqo. Musa ukutyhafaza kwaye ungasongeli loo nto kunye naye, ukuba akayi kutshata nawe. Qaphela ukuba umntu, onzima yonke into efanelekileyo kunye neengxaki, uya kukhetha inkululeko yecala, nakuba ulwalamano lwakho oluhle. Wonke umntu, njengomntwana, wenza izinto ezichaseneyo. Ukuba uyamphoqa ukuba enze into ethile, ke ngoko umoya wokuphikisa akayi kwenza. Ukuba kukho into engavumelekile, kuya kuba yinto ekhethekileyo, okanye mhlawumbi engazi, ezama ukuyenza. Isiqhamo esinqatshelwe sisiphumo. Ngoko indlela yokwenza umntu ngokwakhe afune ukwenza isipho?
Okokuqala, thetha kumfana wakho malunga nendlela emele ngayo ubomi bakho bentsapho kwikamva elikude nokuba ingaba kunjalo. Buza indlela ahlobene ngayo nentsapho, kubantwana. Cinga ngentsapho yakhe. Ukuba umntu wakhulela kwintsapho epheleleyo, apho kwakukho unina noyise, kwaye kule ntsapho kwakukho ukuvumelanisa kunye nothando lwabazali, indoda yakho ngokukhawuleza izakuzama ukudala intsapho yakhe. Ukuba okhethiweyo wakho wakhuliswa kwintsapho engaphelelanga okanye kwintsapho eneenkathazo eziqhubekayo, apho abazali bahlonelelana khona, ngoko mhlawumbi uya kuphesela intsapho njengenjalo, ekoyika ukuphindaphinda amava abuhlungu ngabazali bakhe. Uhambo oludibeneyo kwi-psychologist yentsapho lunokunceda apha.
Kukho inkolelo evamile yokuba amadoda ade aphephe umtshato kwaye ayesaba njengomlilo. Ngokutsho kweengxelo, abaninzi abantu bafuna ukutshata. Bahlala becinga ngokudibanisa ubomi babo kunye nomfazi oyedwa, bephethe ubomi bobulili obuqhelekileyo kunye naye, baze babe nezingane. Yakha intsapho kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane kuyo.
Kwindoda enenze isilungiselelo, musa ukuthabatha amanyathelo angqalileyo. Hambisa kwiinjongo zakho ngokuthe ngcembe. Yiba nale ndoda rhoqo kwaye yonke indawo, mxhase kuyo yonke into. Indoda kufuneka ibe nethemba kuwe, yazi ukuba nguwe ongakuvumeli. Yamkela umntu wakho njengoko yena. Kumele aqiniseke ukuba xa evuka ekuseni, ukuba ngokukhawuleza ufuna ukutshintsha ubomi bakhe, utshintshe umsebenzi wakhe kumvuzo ophantsi kwaye unokuba yingozi ngakumbi kodwa unomdla kuye, awuyi kukhononda.
Amadoda ayethusa ngabasetyhini bafuna ukulungisa amaqabane abo. Amadoda akafuni ukuyeka izinto ezibavuyisa, ngenxa yobomi bentsapho. Ncedisa indoda yakho kwizinto ezithandwayo, yibhola ibhola okanye izithuthuthu. Ungazami ukuyibuyisela okanye ukuyibuyisela kwakhona, thabatha njengoko kunjalo.
Ungavumeli uthando lwakho luphume. Ukuxhaswa ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo ezibalulekileyo: amagama ambalwa amathandekayo ngexesha leentlonipho, i-sushi yaseJapan, engathengi kwivenkile yokutyela, kodwa iphekwe yindlu ngokwayo, ukubhaliswa kwezifundo zokuhamba.
Bonisa umntu wakho ukuba uza kwenza umama omangalisayo. Amadoda achukumiswa ngothando kunye nokuzimisela koomama bokwenene.
Akukho zikhephelelo ezithile malunga nokwenza ntoni ukwenza umntu unikele ngesibonelelo sezandla kunye neentliziyo. Yiba yindoda kumntu wakho, omnye kunye kuphela, ngaphandle kokungeyi kubonisa ubomi bakhe kwikamva. Kwaye ke akudingeki ulinde ixesha elide ukuba umntu enze isipho.