Kwiincwadi nakwiimviezo, kuyisiko ukubonisa ukuba emva komhla kunokungabonanga nje. Kwaye abaninzi abafazi bakholelwa ukuba ukuba isondo, ubuhlobo bakho buya kuphela emva koku. Nangona wena uya kuphupha, indlela eya kukuvuma ngayo, ukucinezela kuye, ukubetha iinwele zakho, kodwa unqunywe yienkolelo zakudala.
Ngokuchasene ngesondo sakho nendoda oyithandayo, kunokuphela kuphela. Okanye ufuna ukulala naye, kodwa uloyiko ukubonakala lula kakhulu emehlweni akhe. Nokuba awufuni ukugqiba ngokuhlwa kwakho ngebhedi, kodwa uyesaba ukuba ukuba uyayinqabela, uya kubanda kakhulu kuwe.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kule meko kukuba ufuna wena. Akufanele uloyike nantoni na, phulaphula oko abahlobo bakho bacebisa, okanye oko abazali bakho abakhulisayo, ukhetho lwakho, kufuneka lwamkelwe nguwe kuphela. Ukuba ucinga ukuba kufuneka ukwenze ngesibindi, kwaye ukuba ufuna, vumelana.
Kufuneka uqonde ukuba, ngokungathi ukuhlwa kwakho akudluli, unelungelo lokunqaba ukuya ocansini ngomhla wokuqala. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba indoda ifuna kuwe kuphela ngesondo, awuyi kukhangela kuye kwaye umenze aqhubeke ekuphatha. Nantoni na ongeyigolide, qonda ukuba xa ulala ngesondo, ungavumeli ngosuku lokuqala, kodwa kwisibini okanye yesithathu, emva kokufeza injongo yakho, iya kukushiya kwaye ayiyi kuba nawe. Emva koko, ngaphandle kwesondo, akazange afune into. Kwaye uya kuthi ufanele uzinqume wena kwaye ulinganise i-pros and cons.
Ewe, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unomdla kakhulu kumntu kwaye uyakubona ukuba akanakukhathalela, musa ukuziphilisa. Musa ukuhlala neengcamango zengcamango malunga nokuziphatha okulungileyo. Qonda ukuba kukho isondo, kuya kunceda uzive ukhululekile kwaye ukhululekile. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba unomdla kumntu, mhlawumbi kukwabelana ngesondo okuya kuba yinto yokuqala yobudlelwane bakho obuqhubekayo. Emva koko, noogqirha bancomela ukulala ngesondo, njengoko kunako ukugcina impilo kunye nobudlelwane obusondelene nawe kuphela, kodwa namadoda.
Ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ungesabi ukubakhombisa, ungayithobeli into onayo kwi-akhawunti kunye naye, yokuqala okanye yeshumi. Ukuqonda ubukho bobulili ngomhla wokuqala okanye ukuba, akunjalo, akunakukuchaphazela njani ulwalamano lwakho lwexesha elizayo.
Ngoku uyakwazi ukuvavanya loo meko kwaye ulinganise ubuchule kunye neengxaki.