Ukuchonga kunye nokubandakanya - ezedlulileyo kunye nezikhoyo

Umtshato ungenye yeziganeko ezintle kakhulu ebomini babo bonke abantu. Kodwa kungekhona kuphela imida yokutshata, izimbali, izipho, iidlozi ezihamba nale mcimbi. Amasiko kunye nemigangatho igxininisa ukubaluleka kwalolu nyathelo. Kakade, ezininzi zazo zilahlekile, okanye zilahlekelwa yinto ebalulekileyo. Ukuqinisekiswa okucacileyo kwesi siqhelo somdlalo womdlalo.
Umtshato womtshato okhokho bethu wawubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye wawuyinyathelo lokuqala ekuqalekeni kobomi kunye. Ngaloo mihla, ukudibanisa kwenzeka ngeentsuku ezithile: uLwesibili, uLwesine okanye ngeveki. Kwaye umhla otyunjweyo, njengendlela eya kwintombazana, wawugcinwa ngasese. Abaququzeleli abaphambili be-rite babengabalingani kunye nabadlali bokudibanisa. Inxaxheba yomdlali wokudlala umdla wayekukhethwa komtshakazi. Wayesazi yonke into kungekuphela kwentsapho yakhe, i-dowry, kodwa nangokwemvelo, imikhwa yowesifazane onokuthi. Abathengisi, njengomthetho, bamiselwa kwiinkwenkwe zomyeni ozayo.

Umtshato womtshato wawunamasiko amaninzi, umzekelo, abadlali bexesha elikhawulezayo baya kufaka isango lentombazana kwipharaki lakhe, kungekudala umtshato uza kwenzeka. Kwaye kwakungenakwenzeka ukuhlala ngexesha lothethwano, ngaphandle koko intombazana ayiyi kutshata.

Ngokuqhelekileyo kubadlali bokuqala abavumelananga nabazali babo, abazange bathethe ukungavumi - kwakungekho nto engcolileyo ukuvuma ngokukhawuleza umtshato. Abadlali bezemidlalo bathunyelwa okwesibini, kunye neyesithathu. Ukuba ngaba umyeni akayi kukuthandayo, ngoko akukho nto yayingenakwenzeka ukulahla abatshatshali ngendlela ebukhali. Bambiza izizathu ezininzi, umzekelo, babhekisela kwinto yokuba intombazana iselula kakhulu okanye ukuba idodi ayanele.

Emva kokuba umdlalo uqhutywe, abazali bobabini bobabili baxoxwa ngemini yomtshato, iindleko, i-dowry kunye nabacwangcisi bomtshakazi abahleliweyo, emva koko ba tyelele indlu yomyeni, apho yonke into iphelile ngomthendeleko.

Kodwa namhlanje umtshato awusayi kuthatha intsingiselo enzulu njengangaphambili, kunokuba kube ngumvuzo kwisiko, kuba abantu abatsha banquma ukwenza umtshato, bamise umhla, benze uluhlu lweendwendwe, bakhethe apho umtshato uza kuba khona, njl. Ukuxubusha kwangoku kunokubakho kokubakho ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba kwabadlali beentombi kunye nentombazana, kunye nabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukudibanisa ngokufana nolu hlobo lulandelayo: abantu abatsha bacwangcisa ukutshata, ngoko umyeni ufika endlwini yomtshakazi aze ambuze izandla zabazali bakhe, kodwa imiba yombutho ixazululwe ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba abazali baqhelane nomtshakazi nomyeni. Oko kukuthi, kwiimeko ezininzi, iqela lomdlalo kumdlalo wokulinganisa awukho ngokupheleleyo kwaye kukho uhlobo olulodwa kuphela.

Kodwa ukuba abadlali bemidlalo bangena kwi shishini: abantu abonwabileyo abayinkimbinkimbi, ke lo mkhuba uguquka ube yinto evuyayo kwaye engaxilwanga. Njengenkulungwane edlulileyo, emnyango wendlu, kukho ukukhala: "Unempahla, sinomrhwebi; Unentombazana, sinomnye umntu omhle; Sineqhosha, uneshiyeko. " Ngaloo ndlela, iindwendwe ngokukhawuleza zilumkisa abazali ngenjongo yabo. Abathengisi baqala ukudumisa "umrhwebi", bethetha ngezinto ezithandwayo, umsebenzi, ukuchuma, izicwangciso zekamva. Umtshato womtshakazi - udumo "lweempahla", lwenzeka kwindawo efanayo yokulula kunye nokulula. Ewe, akwenzi ngaphandle kwemibuzo enokukrakra ukuba umtshakazi nomyeni abazange baxoxe.

Kuba ukuveliswa kwabadlali bemidlalo kulandela isigqibo sabazali, ngubani oya kuvuma ukunika intombi yakhe emtshatweni.

Umdlalo wokuxubusha wawulandelwa yintsebenziswano eyayibanjwe endlwini yomtshakazi, apho izihlobo kunye nabahlobo bobabini bobabini bamenywa. Okhethiweyo wanika intombazana ingcongolo ngetshe. Utata lomtshakazi wamemezela umtshato ozayo kwaye umhla ochanekileyo sele usele apha. Kuphela emva kokubandakanyeka, abatsha baqatshelwe ngokusemthethweni ukuba ngumtshakazi nomyeni. Le ngenye yezihlandlo ezithandanayo kunye neengqungquthela, ezandulele umtshato.

Njengoko isithethe sokutshutshisa sikhona kwaye ngoku. Kuphela, eqinisweni, esi siko sagxininiswa ngakumbi, kwaye sibhekisela kuso njengesiko esihle. Namhlanje ngumhla wokufakela isicelo kwaye kukho uhlobo lokubetha olunika abantu abatsha inyanga ezimbini kwisigqibo sokugqibela sokudibanisa okanye kungekhona isigqibo sabo.