Kwaye igqabhathane sele ijikeleze esiswini sakho. Emva koko wenze into eyoyikekayo: unesipho esinobuqhetseba ukuze ungonwabi. Ukususela kwizinto ezinengqiqo, ezinomdla kunye nolungeleleneyo, ujika ube yi-neurasthenic, ongathandabuzekiyo. Unako ukuqinisekisile ukuba umhlophe umnyama, kwaye kabini iimbini azikho ezine, kodwa kunokuba ufuna ntoni okwangoku. Ukuba kuzo zonke iimeko umele uxanduva. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Ngenxa yokuba ugijimele kwi-aggressor. Ukuguquka njengenye yeentlobo zeengxabano zihlala zidibana.
Umhlaba wakhe omnyama nomhlophe
Ekuboneni kokuqala, ukudibanisa "okungaqhelekanga" kubonakala kungaqhelekanga-apha, nokuba enye okanye enye. Kodwa ebomini bokwenene, olu hlobo luhle, luya, lwanele. Eli gama ngokwayo laziswa ngexesha leMfazwe Yehlabathi yesiBini nguMongameli waseMelika uColonel William Menninger. Waqaphela ukuba kukho amajoni aphendule kwimimiselo yemikhosi yemikhosi: aya kuhoxisa, angayithobeli imithetho kunye nenkunkuma. Wabiza le mpendulo ngokuthi "ulwaphulo olunzulu" kwaye uluchaze ngokuthi "lukhulile". Kodwa ngobomi obunokuthula kukho amadoda asebenza ngendlela efanayo: bahlukana ngokukodwa ukwenza oko kulindeleke kubo. Hayi, kungekhona ukuphikisana ngokuvulekileyo, kodwa ukubonelela ngokugqithisileyo kwaye kungenanto yokuxhatshazwa kwengqondo. Kutheni? Ewe, kuba bonke ubomi bomntu onjalo ngumzabalazo wamandla, kodwa "ukuzithoba" kulindeleke kwabanye, izicelo okanye, uThixo akavumelekanga, imiyalelo yokuba afe. Ihlabathi lakhe elimnyama nelomhlophe lihlala kuphela ngabantu abaphumeleleyo kunye nabalahlekileyo, kwaye akukho nto ingenakuyenza. Kwaye uziva ebuthathaka kule nqanaba - kodwa wenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukufumana imbonakalo eyahlukileyo kuye. Yaye inomdla kakhulu kukuba akayikuqonda konke oku!
Umlenze ukhula phi?
Kuyinto - kodwa ukususela ebuntwaneni, uhlobo lwethu aluzange luvuyiswe. Ingxenye yile yiphutha lezityalo, kodwa ulwalamano lwamava ludlala indima ebalulekileyo. Mhlawumbi umzekelo wale mpawu, wathatha ubaba wakhe ngendlela elungiselelwe. Kungenzeka ukuba wayengenayo uyise njengomzekelo oyilandelayo. Okanye wayesekhohliwe ngokwemvakalelo kwaye yonke ilibalekile, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, walandelwa, wayegcinwa kwaye elawulwa. Wafumana isindiso ekuzihlukaniseni nomntu wonke kwaye exhotyelwe emazinyweni umzabalazo ongunaphakade - kunye nalabo abangamhle kuye, kwaye unjalo, uyaqiniseka-phantse yonke indawo. Enyanisweni, akasenakukwazi ukuxhuma emaphakheni abo abantwana - ukuziphatha njengomntu ono-hypochondriacal, ongumntwana okhuseleyo ngonaphakade, okulindela ukuba umhlaba wonke, njengomama wakhe, aqonde kwaye amxolele nayiphi na i-whims kunye nokuziphatha okubi.
Sakhe simboli
Ephakamileyo, udlala kwiincinci ezizukileyo. Ubume bakhe buhluke kakhulu. Umhlobo onokuthi zonke izibophelelo zizothe. Umlingane ophulaphule kuphela nje ukuba uthathe amanzi emlonyeni wakhe, kwaye ngubani ongenayo ingxaki nhlobo. Umntu othakazelisayo ohlala 'ehlawula' ukunika ulwazi olubalulekileyo. Akukho kwezi zihlandlo, akucaci ukuba yintoni ecinga ukuba uyifunayo. Impembelelo enkulu kwiintsebenziswano ezisondeleyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, njengalowo nawuphi umntu, ulangazelela uluthando lokwenene nolwalamano olusondeleyo. Ngolunye uhlangothi - ininzi kwihlabathi liloyiko lokuba "liyanqotshwa" - kuba iimvakalelo ziya kumenza umntu "oxhomekeke kuye." Akayena owenza njengomqali wobudlelwane. Amaqhinga akhe awasebenzeli, kodwa unomdla wokudlala ngothando, inkunzi ekhangayo, ivela kude, ihlaya eliphonswe ngokudlulayo-kwaye ulindela ukuba isinyathelo sokuqala oya kuyenza yinjongo yakhe. Emva koko uya kuphendula aze akuve ukuba ufumene isipho sesigwebo. Kodwa ulwalamano kunye naye luza kuba ngumzabalazo oqhubekayo kwaye ongenangqiqo. Nangona kunjalo, unesinye isimo-ukuhambelana (kungekhona ukudideka nokuzinikela). Ngokwenyama, uya kuba nawe, kwaye ukuba uyavuma ukuhlawula ubugwenxa obunzima, uya kuba kunye. Olu hlobo lokuqala aluyi kuphazamisa uxhumano lwakho, nokuba luba buhlungu kuye. Emva koko, uloyiko loloyiko lobumnyama-oko kukuthi, imeko apho ushiywe yedwa kunye nokutya kwakhe kunye nentlungu. Ngaphandle kwakho, nguye kuphela umntu onengxaki zakhe. Enye nawe, unokudlala kunye nezihlunu zakhe. Ukuba uthe wagqiba ukuphula kunye nawe, ngoko kwimeko enye - xa iveli entsha inamathele ngokufanayo.
Akenzi nantoni na!
Kwi-labyrinth yezenzo zakhe kunzima ukuhamba. Kodwa isitshixo - ekubonakalisweni kobugwenxa bakhe kwabanye abantu. Kwaye kwenzeka ngendlela enomdla. Ukunyanyiswa kukugqithiseleyo kumntu wonke. Akunjalo kuphela kwisigebengu esithatha indiza, kodwa kuAuntie kwi-pharmacy, kunye ne-kid in the sandbox. Uxanduva lomntu omdala luyakwazi ukulawula le ntshukumo ebudlelwaneni nabantu. Kwaye kuya kufuneka - ukuxolisa ukuba umntu uhluphekile kuwe. Kodwa uhlobo olusisigxina-lukhupha luzikhulula kulo msebenzi ngendlela elula kakhulu: ukukhanyela ngokubanzi ukuba ulwaphulo luvela kulo. Akayibonakali ngokucacileyo ngokucacileyo - uya kukufumana uhlaselo olufihlakeleyo, ngokuthe ngcembe. Kwaye ukunyaniseka kwakhe kubanzi yintsimbi: akenzi into enjalo! Akaze aqale iingxabano, ngokuchaseneyo - uyaziphepha zonke iindlela. Intukuthelo yakhe idlula kuwe - njengokuba usebenzisa isikrini. Njani? Kufana nabo bonke abanengqondo. Mhlawumbi uhamba enzima. Ndikulungele ukuhlala ndithule iiyure, andizange ndithethe igama lonke usuku, kodwa ukhangelelwano lwakhe luthi: "Ndiyomsindo, kwaye le yiphutha lakho!" Awucingi ukuba ufune ukuqonda. Ucela umbuzo. Kodwa awufumani impendulo, kodwa umangaliswe (yintoni, kukho into ephosakeleyo, uthetha ntoni na?), Iingcamango okanye, ngakumbi nakakhulu, zigqityiwe. Uvakalelwa, kwaye uya kukuhleka. ILizwi ngelizwi - kwaye sele ushisa. Ngoko ukutshatyalaliswa kwayo okusasazeka kuwe: khangela, nguwe ongeke unelisekile ngento ethile, cela imibuzo engathandekiyo, uphendule, qalisa ukuxubha! Nantsi ke, uhambo olumangalisayo-olushukunyisayo-ungagxininisi kwenzo, kodwa ekuphenduleni kwakho, ukubonakalisa ekukhanyeni okungathandekiyo. Kanye, kwakhona, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ... Yaye xa zonke zakho izame ukufumana izizathu zokubandezeleka zingaphumeleli, umvakalelo ongenakunceda kuwe uqokelela umsindo - kunye naloo mva wecala. Ufumanisa ukuba udibanise kwinqanaba leemvakalelo ezondla amandla akhe.
Yintoni ebangela oku
Igama eliphambili liloyiko. Kodwa zininzi kwaye zihluke ngokupheleleyo.
- Ukwesaba ukuxhomekeka
Ukhulule nje ngokuba ukwesaba u lonwabo. Indoda ihamba ngesangqa esichukumisayo: ukwesaba ukuba yedwa kwenza ukuba afune ubudlelwane - kodwa ekufumaneni, uqala ukwesaba ukwesaba kwabo, kuba lo ngumzamo wokuzimela. Ngoko uqala ukuhlukana.
- Uloyiko lolwalamano
Ulwalamano lufuna ukuziphatha, ukunyamekela, ukunyameka nokuthandana - konke into engenakuyenza. Kuye, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo bunzima. Kodwa akukho xinzelelo olungaphantsi kubangelwa kukusondelana kwakhe: ngenxa yokuba akekho umntu esitshatileyo ongonwabileyo kwaye anelisekile.
Iindlela ezili-10 ngendlela anokukuqhuba ngayo kwi-Handle
- Uguqula imeko leyo
Ufunde ukucaphukisa ngobuchule - ngelixa uqinisekisa ukuba uxolo. Kwaye kwindima yexhoba, kulungele ukuba athethe yena ngokwakhe.
- Inhibits
Uhlala efika ngomzuzu wokugqibela okanye ufike. Ingxaki iqwalaselwa kuphela xa sele ikhonjiwe eludongeni: umzekelo, ibhajethi yombane iya kuhlawulwa xa isaziso sokuqhaqha sifika. Iimeko eziqhelekileyo. Ngomonde umcele kuye amaxesha amaninzi malunga nento ebalulekileyo. Ngethuba lokuqala athembisa ukwenza, okwesibini uyamangalisa ukuba uyalilibala, okwesithathu - uyadlulisela "ngandlela-thile kamva", wesine - uyathukuthela ukuba uyayiphatha ngeentlobo zonke ezingenangqondo. Ekugqibeleni, wenza yonke into yakho - kwaye usenjalo ngexesha elifanayo: ukuziphatha kwakhe kumhlazisa.
- Udala iingxabano
Ukhetha ukuqoqa iphazili kwisigidi sezigidi kwaye uhlala ephosa izinto. Uthatha umsebenzi ongenakugqitywa. Uyakha izicwangciso zobuqili, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ulahlekelwa ngumdla kubo. Ixesha lakhe elidlulileyo ligalari yeeprojekthi ezingapheliyo.
- Yonke into "ayilibale" - into ebalulekileyo kuwe: izithembiso zakho, izicelo zakho, imihla yokuzalwa kunye nomsitho womtshato. Akunakulungi ukucaphukisa - eli lilungelo lakhe.
- Bonke bayaphika
Ukungabi nantoni igama lakhe eliphakathi. Uphika ukuba uyacaphuka kukuba unesizathu sokuziva ufanelekile. Naliphi na iingxaki kunye netyala-konke oku kuqondisa yona, komnye umntu okanye ngokuhambelana neemeko.
- Ukubonisa ukukhawuleza
Le ndlela iyintando yokuthintana kunye nezixhobo zokusombulula ingxabano. Ukuba kukuthintela, ngoko "awukwazi ukuhlaziya."
- Uyenqaba ukuthetha ngokucacileyo
Umdlalo wakhe - "ewe kwaye hayi, ungatsho, umnyama, umhlophe ungagqoki": awunakuqonda oko akucingayo nokuziva. Ufuna ukuba ufunde oko akufunayo. Lo mnqweno unamandla nje ngokungafuni, ngoko uya kukwazi ngako. Xa ekugqibeleni udidekile kwaye udidekile, uhamba ngehashe.
- Izimpawu ezingqubuzanayo
Uyakwazi ukusho ngobuso obungenakubuyiselwa - "Ndiyakuthanda", kwaye ngokukhawuleza uziphathe ngokungathi awukho mntu kuye. Kubonakala ngathi uthatha inxaxheba kwiintsebenziswano, kodwa ngokusemthethweni. Uhlala kunye neprofayili yakhe kwaye ungaboni umntu onomdla ekuphendukele kuwe.
- I-Behaves njengokuba yedwa
Kuye, ukungabikho kwegama elithi "thina" akunqabile kakhulu, ujwayele ukukwazisa malunga nezigqibo azenze wodwa, nangona zixhalabela ezimbini.
- Uqhuba umzabalazo ongapheliyo
Unokumangaliswa okanye ucaphuke, kodwa incoko, apho i-pizza yokuyalela okanye ukuba yiyiphi i-movie ekubukele ngayo ngokuhlwa, ayiyi kuba malunga ne-pizza kwaye ingabi ngefilimu, kodwa ngamandla: ukwamukela uluvo lwakho nangona nto ebaluleke kakhulu kuye, ukuba ukwazi ukuphakama kwakho.
- Ukoyika ukunganakwa
Kukho umntwana ophilayo kuye owayekhe waphunyezwa ngaphandle - kwaye akafuni ukufumana oku.
- Uloyiko lweemvakalelo
Uyika ukwesaba nje kuphela, kodwa kunye nemizwa yakho - ngokubanzi, iimvakalelo zabantu, ekuqondeni kwakhe - oku kubuthathaka. Awuzange uqaphele: usoloko unomsebenzi ophuthumayo ngexesha ofuna inkxaso yemoya?
- Ukwesaba okulindelwe ngabanye abantu-ukuba wayengenasiphelo ebhedini, wayenemali eninzi, wenza umsebenzi oqaqambileyo, njl. Ngokubanzi, akukho nto enokuyilindela kuye: yena ngokwakhe uya kukuxelela oko-kwaye yena ngokwakhe uya kuyiphendula.
- Ukoyika ukhuphiswano kunye nokulahlekelwa
Nangona kunjalo ukuba ngaphandle angakwazi ukuvelisa ingqondo yendoda ethembekileyo, ezi nkxalabo zihamba naye kwinqanaba ngalinye.
Uthando lufana nebala lemfazwe
Umdlalo wakhe oyintloko kukuba naluphina ubudlelwane, nokuba uthando, luba yintaba yomzabalazo. Kwaye into ephambili kuye ukuphuma kukho nawuphi na umlo, uyinqobile. Kodwa ihlabathi lilungiselelwe ukuba ukuba sifune ukwanelisa iimfuno zethu ezingokomzwelo nezomzimba, kufuneka senze kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obuqilileyo nalabo esibathandayo. Yaye ukuxhamla okunjalo kuhlala kukuxhomekeka. Umntu onesimo esifanelekileyo kwihlabathi akayi kuvela ngedrama - ngokuchaseneyo, uya kuxabisa iibhonasi: ukusondelana, ukusondelana ngokomoya, ukufudumala, ukuncedana. Kodwa alukho uhlobo olushushu. Ukuqala ulwalamano, uya kufakazela ngokukhawuleza: ungacingi nje ukuba unamandla phezu kwam! Ngokwenene kwizenzo zonke ubona inzame "yokumbamba". Umelana kwaye akenzi oko ukulindele kuye: akayi kunika isandla kunye nentliziyo, akanikeli iintyatyambo, akatsho ukuncoma, akayikuhalalisela ngeprojekthi okanye ukukhuthazwa okuphumelelayo, akayi kuchazi isizathu sezimo zakhe ezimbi - kwaye akukho nto icela uxolo . Ubundlobongela obushushu bubuxhakaxhaka bezobudlelwane. Le mibuzo ayiphenduliweyo, iiminqweno ezingenakwenzeka, ukungaqiniseki, uxinzelelo kunye nomntu onesizungu. Unqwenela ukuziva unzima phantsi kweenyawo zakho, kwaye uyakungena kwi-swamp. Ufuna imiphefumlo, imfudumalo, ingqwalasela, umdla, isisa. Kodwa ngokubuyisela ufumane ukucaphuka kunye nentukuthelo - "Yintoni endikunika yona encinci? Ngaba ufunde iireveli zamabhinqa? Awazi na ukuba ndixakekile kangakanani, ndiphelile yonke into ohlala kuyo kwimpumelelo! ". Ngenxa yoko, ukusahlukana ngakumbi. Kwaye uwela kwingqungquthela yovelwano lwakho - "mhlawumbi ndimkhathaze ngokwenene ...".
Isicwangciso sokusombulula isisombululo
Xa abantu bephikisana, balindele ukufumana impendulo eyaneleyo kumlingani wabo - kwaye ekugqibeleni, ingxabano isisombululo. Kodwa impikiswano evulekile, inyanisekileyo ayinxalenye yempembelelo yokuziphatha yombundlobongela. Nantsi enye: ukushiya kwisihloko, ukulandelela, ukuhlambalaza, ukuhlaselwa. Kuzo zonke iinzame zakho zokusombulula ingxaki, mhlawumbi akaphendulanga nonke, okanye uyakuhlekisa, ushiye intsingiselo yalo mbandela. Ngoko uyavutha umsindo wakho, ukubetha izitya kunye neinyembezi. Kwaye iinjongo zifikeleleke - wakuzisa kwi-harpy eyingozi. Uyakwazi ukuziphatha kulo mbambano ukusuka kwisikhundla samandla okanye ufuneke, kwaye, mhlawumbi, ngokuthe ngandlela-thile uya kwenza ngathi akukho nto eyenzekayo-kodwa kuya kumangalisa ukuba awukho mva. Isibonakaliso sokuthi ihlabathi libuyiselwe liza kuba nenjongo (kodwa ayikho ngqo!) Isenzo: i-tile ye-chocolate yakho eyintandokazi etafileni okanye idiski oyiphuphayo (uyayikhumbula yonke into xa inenzuzo kuye), umshini ohlanjwe okanye i-crane yalungiswa (emva kweveki ezintathu zokuncenga). Uze unyibilike - emva kokuhle konke!
Zakho ingozi
Unokuwela phantsi kwe-hypnosis yentshukumo yakhe-kwaye ukungaqiniseki kuya kuhlala kuwe. Kwaye ngoku iindidi zakho sele zihlukanisiwe: uyagcinwa kwaye ulinganise (iqhawe elihle), unentshutshiso kwaye unganqandeki (heroine engekho). Musa ukukholelwa! Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abafazi, ukuba bazame zonke iindlela ngexesha lobudlelwane obude, baqala ukuzikhusela, ukukopisha indlela yokuziphatha yongxabano - ukuthula, ukungakhathaleli kwangaphandle, ukukhawuleza. Ndikholelwe, le ndlela iyancwina ingxaki. Ukongezelela, kubangele ubunzima kwiintsebenziswano ezizayo, ukuba usenza isigqibo sokwenza inxaxheba. Sifanele sifunde ukuhlula iingxaki zethu kwaye singakhangeli iphoso lethu apho lingekho khona.
Shintsha imigaqo yomdlalo
Ngenxa yokunyamezela, akafuni ukufumana ubuhlobo. Ukwenza ukuba akhulume akunakwenzeka, ukwamkela ngokuzimisela ukuziphatha kwakhe - naye. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Enyanisweni, olu hlobo - umthengi we-arthritist, kwaye unoncedo kakhulu kuye (kunye nawe) uncedo ukwenza i-feat kwaye umhudulele kwingcali. Kodwa wena unako ukwenza okuninzi - ngakumbi ukuba uyayithanda.
Amaqela emingcipheko amathathu
Olu hlobo luyakwazi ukubamba nantoni kunethiwekhi. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iintlobo ezintathu zabasetyhini abasenokuba khona.
- UMphathi
Lo wesifazane uhlala eyazi indlela engcono kakhulu (kwaye ngokubanzi ngoko kunjalo), kwaye ngokuyisiseko akawamukeli impendulo "cha". Ukholelwa ekukwazi kwakhe ukulungisa ubomi obuthandayo kangangokuba ekugqibeleni uyanikezela: uya kuphosa iinqwelo zakhe ezinyaweni zakhe, uya kuhla apho aze avume ukuba ngaphandle kwayo - naphi na. Kwaye baya kuphila ngokuvuyisayo emva koko. Indoda ibonakala ilinga ukunyamezela intuthuzelo yokuba umphathi onobuchule kunye nohlakaniphile uya kudala-oku kuya kuyanelisa isiseko sayo esicacileyo. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kuya kwandisa ukuxhomekeka kokuxhomekeka kunye nokuhlaziywa. Yaye kunye nabo - nomsindo ofihliweyo ixesha elide. Kwakhona akayi kuxolela ukuba umfazi uphumelele ngaphezu kwakhe (isikhundla esiphezulu, imali engaphezulu). Ukongeza, endaweni yokuthanda nokuthanda, umphathi uya kumnika (ngendlela efihliweyo) nokulawula kunye nokuziphatha njengomama olawulayo - kwaye luhlobo luni lwesini nonina?
- Ngelelo
I-tidbit ye-aggressor, ngenxa yokuba ixhoba uyayithanda ngamandla akhe ngokupheleleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo lo ngumfazi onobubele, othe tye kwaye ozithembayo, othe, mhlawumbi, ukwesaba ukuba aziveze ngokwakhe. Kungenzeka ukuba akayena umlwelwe wokuqala ebomini bakhe, ngokunjalo noyise, umzalwana, indoda yokuqala okanye umhlobo. Ugcina iimvakalelo ezinzulu ngalelo hlobo lendoda, enethemba lokuba omnye wabo uya kuxabisa kwaye atshintshe-nangona iimvakalelo ezinzulu kunye nezinye izinto ezilindelweyo, akukho nto ngaphandle koyika, umntu onjalo akabelethi. Yaye ingakumbi ixhoba, ixhala kakhulu, ukuze ibonise "ukuzimela". Ixhoba linamathela ekubeni "unalo". Uqwengqileyo phakathi kwamandla akhe kunye nesithwala esibulalayo. Ulwaphulo lwakhe lufuna iimidlalo eziyingozi.
- Msindisi
Musa ukuyidla isonka, makhe ndilale umntu. Indoda engumntu onobudlova, ngokukhawuleza ibona njengesidalwa esingenakunceda, esingenakuqondakala esiyifunayo. Uyabulungisa ("eqinisweni, akubiyo"), uyakhathalela indlela ekhangeleka ngayo emehlweni abantu ("akafuni nantoni na into enjalo"), ihlanganisa iziganeko zakhe ("kakuhle, yiloo nto!"). Indoda inikezelwa ngononophelo olunjalo, kuba iyakhawuleza ukunyaniseka kwayo, de kube ngelinye ilanga liyaqaphela kwaye liqonde ukuba konke oku kungengomnikelo. Bobabini umphathi kunye nomsindisi ujonge umntu onjalo kumbono womnini nomveleli.
- Hambisa umda. Kubalulekile ukuba ungenzi oku kungengqondo, kodwa uzinzile kwaye uqine. Ndixelele ngokucacileyo: imimiselo emidala yomdlalo ayikufanelanga.
- Ukubetha imithetho emitsha: xelele ukuba yintoni na kwixesha elizayo anokuyenza nawe, kwaye kungenjani. Qulunqa ngokucacileyo oko ufunayo kuye. Yilungele ukuba uya kukuvavanya, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ephule imithetho, ngoko unokungena kumzabalazo onzima kakhulu - kunye naye kunye nawe. Ukuba uya ehlabathini kwaye kukunciphisa kwakhona - umdlalo ulahlekile. Musa ukuyeka.
- Melana nokuziphatha kwakhe kwindlela yakhe yokuziphatha, oko kuvakalayo, ngokwemimiselo: ukuba wenza njalo ngale ndlela, ndiva le nto-kwaye ndinesizathu esinjalo sokuvakalelwa ngale ndlela. Thetha ngokuzithelekileyo nangengqiqo - ukuba ukwesaba ukuba kwingxoxo uya kuphinda akwazi ukukugxotha, ubhale ileta aya kuyenza, ukuba yedwa.
- Ukucacisa ngokucacileyo ukunyaniseka kwakhe kunye nezithembiso ezingapheliyo. Musa ukuthatha ityala uzama ukukuthatha.
- Yeka ukuthatha uxanduva - makenze oko. Nangona ukwazi ukuphumeza iziphumo ngokukhawuleza nangaphezulu ngempumelelo, mnike inkululeko yokwenza iimpazamo, ukufumana izigqibo kwaye ekugqibeleni ube ngumdala.
- Ngaba uhlala wenza isinyathelo sokuqala sokuxolelana? Ungenzi nto enye - ubuso obuhle, obuhle, mxelele ukuba ulungele ukuxolelana, kwaye ungalindeli ukuxolisa endaweni yoko.
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unomsindo, ungamgxeka njengomntu - kuphela izenzo zakhe. Ukuziphatha kunokutshintsha, umlinganiso - hayi. Qiniseka: nangona ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kukucaphukisa, uyamthanda, uxabise iimpawu zakhe ezilungileyo kwaye uxabise ubudlelwane bakho.