Ukulinda ukuzalwa kwengane kuhlala kudibaniswa novuyo, kuba ukuzalwa kobomi obutsha ngummangaliso owenzelwe umntu ngokumvelo. Yaye ukuba umntwana ufuna, akukho bunzima kunye neengxaki zeenyanga ezilisithoba ezingaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe aziyi kuluvuyisa ulonwabo lomama. Nangona kunjalo ingcungconi eli xesha lingabakho kuye, oku akufani nantoni yokufihla kwihlabathi labantu.
Akuyona into eyenziwa ngumfazi. Okunye ukwazi, ngakumbi ukuziva, ngakumbi ukudala. Kodwa udinga ukunyamezela ngakumbi, kuba kukho iimvavanyo ezininzi. Emva koko, eqinisweni, akubona bonke abafazi abakhupha ukukhupha isisu, ngokuqhelekileyo akakho ukukhupha isisu. Ininzi nje ayinakujamelana nobunzima, ubunzima, ukuphazamiseka kunye neengxaki zokukhulelwa. Kwaye adibaniswanga nje ngokubonakala okanye kumfanekiso. Ngethuba lexesha lokubeleka kwintsana, umzimba womfazi ufumana umthwalo omkhulu, kwaye kungekhona nje kwendiza yomzimba. Ukususela kwiinyanga zokuqala zokukhulelwa, umfazi ushintshile kakhulu, kubandakanywa nesimo sengqondo.
Ngoko ke, iimvakalelo ezintle zibhekwa njengimfuneko kumfazi okhulelwe. Zinceda ukulwa nokuguquka kwemizwelo, ebonakalayo eqhelekileyo kweli xesha. Into ephambili kukugwema imeko kunye noxinzelelo, zonke ezo zinto, ezingakhokelela ekudakaleni kwiinyanga zokuqala zokukhulelwa. Izondlo zijonga ukuba kuyimfuneko xa kukho iimpawu zokuqala zokudakumba ukuzinciphisa ngokwakho, ikofi kunye ne-tshokoleta, kwaye ungadluli, ukushiya ixesha elininzi lokulala nokuphumla.
Iimpawu ezisasazekayo zokuqala ukuxinezeleka zingabangela ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ukungondleki, ukunganakwa, ukukhathazeka, ukubukrakra, ukukhawuleza, ukukhathazeka, impilo ephosakeleyo, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye nokuguquka. Izibangela zeli meko ziba ziimeko ezimbi okanye ezincinane kakhulu, ukungaboni kakuhle kwabanye, ukungafani kumyeni kuyo nayiphi na imiba, ukusetyenziswa kwezidakamizwa, ukuhlaselwa kwesicongconi, ukucola rhoqo kunye nokweqa ngokweqile, ukwesaba ukukhulelwa kwesisu nokunye okunye.
Akukho ntokazi engavumiyo ukuba kunye nenjabulo yolwazi lokukhulelwa lunika, kukho iintsuku ezinzima xa yonke into ejikeleze ibonwe emnyama kwaye, kubonakala ngathi ayiyi kuba nakuphela. Ngoko umntu unokujamelana njani nokudakumba, ebudeni beenyanga zokuqala zokukhulelwa kuthinta abaninzi abafazi?
Ukuze unqobe oku kutshabalalisa umzimba, umntu unokukwazi ukuzimela, kwaye umntu ufuna uncedo lwabantu abanothando, izalamane nabahlobo, kunye neengcali kwiinkcubeko kunye neengqondo. Esinye sezibonakaliso eziphambili zokudakumba kwiinyanga zokuqala ukwesaba nokuxhalaba komntwana, kwikhosi evamile yokukhulelwa, ngakumbi ukuba ngowokuqala. Kwaye, bhetele ngakumbi kunokuba zonke iindlela zokuthoba kunye neendlela, uthando kunye nokuthintana nabathandekayo basebenza. Ingakumbi kunye nexesha elizayo ubawo. Ukususela kumyeni ngexesha lokukhulelwa komfazi kuncike kakhulu, njengokuba ngeli thuba bonke abesifazana beba nexhala, baxhomekeka, baxhomekeke kwimvakalelo kwaye bangenangqondo. Ngoko ke, umntu onothando ngokunyanisekileyo ngaphandle kokuncediswa kwangaphandle kunye nemichiza inokukwazi ukufumana impembelelo enkulu kumfazi wayo.
Ukuxhatshazela kwongeza kwaye amava akwenza into engalunganga: okanye ukuwa, okanye ukuphakamisa ubunzima, okanye ungahlali phantsi, okanye ukuhluleka ukulala phantsi, okanye ukutya ngokugqithiseleyo ... Olu luhlu lunokuqhubeka luze luze lufike kumyinge ongaphantsi, kwaye umntu oqhelekileyo ngamanye amaphuzu akhe angabangela ukumncoma nje. Kodwa ukukhulelwa akusiyo imeko eqhelekileyo yomzimba, kodwa ukuqokelela ngokupheleleyo kuyo yonke imikhosi yayo, utshintsho kwisigqi sokuphila. Kwaye nangona i-psyche ayakhawulezi ngokukhawuleza, iyakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nokutshintshwa kwimeko yomzimba kwaye yandisa umthwalo kuzo zonke iinkqubo zayo.
I-Toxicosis, ekwagqalwa kwakhona kwiinyanga zokuqala zokukhulelwa, imnyama yobomi bhinqa, njengento enye. Ngethamsanqa, akukho konke, kodwa ukuqinisekiswa kwalokhu akuthuthuzeli kakhulu abo baxhamlayo. Kanye nokuqonda ukuba ngenyanga yesithathu ukubonakaliswa kwayo kufuneka kudlule. Nangona ibhinqa ihlupheka, ixinezelekile, imeko yakhe yengqondo neyengqondo ayikude. Ukusuka kwi-toxicosis, ukuba ukholelwa kwizigulane zabantu, ungasebenzisa indlela elula-iveki ukuhlala kwezinye iisero. Ewe, akusiyo wonke umntu onokuhlala kwisondlo esinjalo, kodwa akukho iipasta ezimbini zepuni enye. Ufuna ukuqeda i-toxemia, uya kuzinyanzela.
Kukho nabo, ingakumbi phakathi koomama abancinci, "umoya" ngokwabo ngenxa yenguqu ekubonakalayo kunye nomzobo, belibale ukuba zombini iimeko zesikhashana. Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo, emva kokuzalwa kuya kufuneka ukuba wenze ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekileyo ukufumana ifomu kwakhona, kodwa akunzima kakhulu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo izinto ezincinci zifaniswa nolonwabo oluya kuhlala ngalo.
Ndikholelwe, kulungele ukuba uzalelwe, esi sipho sikaThixo, isilwanyana esincinci, njengoko ukhawuleza ukulibala zonke iingxaki kunye nobunzima obuye babandezeleka kwiinyanga ezilisithoba zokugqibela. Bobabini i-toxemia, kunye nokwesaba, kunye nokulala-balala kuya kubonakala kungenakunqwenela ngokungafaniyo nolu luleko olungenakulinganiswa oluza kulufumana. Kwaye ukungaxakeki njengento yokudakumba kuya kubonakala ngathi yinto engafanelekiyo kunye nombono ongaqhelekanga, ongekho ndawo kwihlabathi langempela apho ummangaliso omtsha uhleli khona - umntwana wakho.