Ebomi kukho iingcinga ezininzi ezichaphazelekayo ngabafazi abangashadile. Ngoko makhe sibone oko, ngokwenene, kwaye yiyo kuphela isiqhamo somcinge womntu.
Inkolelo yenombolo 1 - "akukho" umsebenzi.
Mhlawumbi, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje banamabhinqa ambalwa ayeza kubona kuphela abantwana, intsapho kunye nendlela yokuphila kwiinjongo zabo zobomi. Ngokukodwa xa loo ntokazi ihlala yodwa. Umnqweno wokufikelela eziphakamileyo zamanqanaba emisebenzi, kuba abafazi banokwemvelo njengabantu. Ikakhulukazi ukuba ibhinqa ayifuni ukukhawuleza ekhaya, hlalani nabantwana kwikhefu lokugula, kwaye ujikeleze ngononophelo lomyeni wakhe. Unako ukuwufumana ngokupheleleyo. Nika ibhizinisi elithandayo. Ngoko ukuba kukho ithuba, kutheni ungayisebenzisi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, njengoko kubonisa ukubonisa, kubasetyhini abangashadile bafumana izikhundla ezifanelekileyo kunye nabacebisi abafuna ukufuna, kunye neengcali eziphezulu.
Kwaye ubomi bethu bunjalo kukuba bambalwa kwabasetyhini banokwakha umsebenzi ophumelelayo ngexesha elifanayo, ukuba abe ngumfazi oyisibonelo nomama onothando. Ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka ukhethe.
Ukukhetha okunzima kwabesetyhini akukafuneka kwenziwe kwintsana. Oku kwenzeka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kodwa umlinganiselo ophakathi ubizwa ngokuba yiminyaka eyi-16. Emva koko ugqiba ekubeni ubomi bakhe bonke "njengodonga lwamatye," okanye ukutshintshela le "udongeni" ukuphumelela kwakhe kunye nokuziqonda.
Ukuba umfazi ukhetha owokuqala, kamva, uza kuzama ukuqonda iinjongo zakhe kwimpumelelo yabantwana. Okanye ngokulandelelana, emva kokufika kobomi kubomi abazimeleyo, uqala ukucinga kwakhona ngezifiso zabo, iiminqweno kunye nokuziqonda. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mbuzo nawuphi na umsebenzi apha.
Ibhinqa elingatshatanga kule nkalo linamathuba amaninzi. Into ephambili kukuba ayiyi kuhlaziswa yithuba lesigxina le "loner". Kodwa kukho uhlobo lwabasetyhini abade bazisola ukuba bazinikela ngokukhetha umsebenzi.
Indlela yokuphila - ukhetho luyimfihlo kakhulu.
Inkolelo yenombolo yesi-2 "ayikho enye ingqondo."
Ikakhulukazi phakathi kwabantu kuthethwa ukuba ukuba intombazana inhle, ngoko ayiyindoda enamandla. Yaye ukuba ubuhle bongezwa kwaye uphumelele emsebenzini, ngoko kuyavumba. Kodwa ixesha lokutshitshisa yonke le fictions. Ewe, inkqubo yokucinga ngabasetyhini, kubandakanywa ingcamango ehlonishwayo yowesifazane, ihlala ihluke kwiingqinisiso zomntu. Kodwa oku kusinika izizathu zokubhengeza malunga nokwahlula kwamakhono engqondo. Ngokufanayo, kwezinye iimeko umfazi anganika amadoda ukuqala kwentloko, umzekelo, eneenkcukacha ezikhethekileyo kunye nokukwazi ukumthemba.
Isoloko ihlekisayo kunye neentlanzi zihamba malunga nomfazi-umphathi, ngakumbi ukuba uyedwa. Khumbula kuphela ifilimu edumileyo "intsingiselo yothando ...". Kwiimeko ezinjalo, amabali angaqhelekanga ngamabhinqa angabhalwa malunga nalo, umphumo wokuba uya kuba yinkohliso malunga nokulondeka kwakhe. Banobukhwele, oko kukuthi, basasaza iindlebe, kunokuthi kubekho ukuxhamla kumabhunga aphakamileyo, kunye nokunye okuninzi.
Kodwa nantsi into ephazamisayo yimeko yonke, ngesizathu esithile abantu badinga ukudala umfanekiso abafuna ukukubona ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuvavanya imeko.
Inkolelo yenombolo yesi-3 "ishishini alikho imisebenzi yezandla zabasetyhini."
Mhlawumbi iminyaka engama-50 edlulileyo kwakunjalo. Kodwa namhlanje ibhinqa elingatshatanga kwishishini aliyinto entsha, kwaye iqondwa kakhulu. Ukuqulunqwa okuchanekileyo kwintetho yenkcazo inokudluliselwa ngendlela enokuthi ixhomekeke kwabanye. Kwaye impumelelo yayo ihambelana ngqo nekhono lamalingani kunye nabasebenzi ukuba bathathe indawo yabo ngaphandle kokubhekiselele kwimiba yesini. Lo mgaqo wokuziphatha udlalwa ngokubanzi kwi shishini. Ngokufanayo, maxa wambi ukungathembeki okhethekileyo kunokubangelwa ngumsebenzi wesibini omnye. Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukuba umntu akanako ukwakha ubuhlobo bomntu, amaqabane awayi kuba nayiphi na into. Nangona kwakhona, le yinto nje yokuzimelela kweeyunithi, ezingakhathalelekanga malunga nesicwangciso soshishino esiyimpumelelo esijoliswe kwisiphumo.
Kwakhona kufuneka kukhunjulwe ngqondweni ukuba, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukufezekisa umphumo othile, abafazi kufuneka bazincama kwaye benze imizamo emininzi kwindlela apho amadoda angenaso ubunzima.
Inkolelo yenani le-4 "kunye nabo bonke ukuba babe netyala lokufuna isifuba."
Ngokufanayo, xa kuziwa kumsebenzi womfazi onesizungu, umntu unokukhubeka kwizizathu ezininzi kunye nezizathu zokuthi kutheni, kodwa umfazi omncinci, umfazi omhle ukhethe ukhethe iofisi kunye neyintengiso, kwaye kungekhona indlu, abantwana kunye nomyeni wakhe. Oku kunokubakho ukuthandana nothando, kunye neemfuno ezingenakulinganiswa, kwanokuba zivelise amabali ngezinto ezingaqhelekanga ezibonakalisa ngaphandle komsebenzi. Njengaye, ufika ekhaya, kwaye emva kokuba ikosikazi iguquke ibe yidanga, ngaba abalimi baqhube.
Isizathu esona siqhelo kukuba iinjongo zamabhinqa, ngakumbi ukuba uyakwazi ukufezekisa into ethile. Akusenomdla kumadoda aqhelekileyo, kwizithuba eziphakathi. Kufuneka abe nenani labantu abaza kumkhawulela. Konke oku ukuze uphinde uzive njengomfazi. Ngako oko, ininzi yala majaji inqanyulwa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye abo banokuthatha indawo efanelekileyo ebomini bakhe, abafuni ukubona ngokulandelana kwabo ngandlela-thile kwintsebenziswano.
Ngoko inkolelo malunga nesifiso sinokuthi ithathelwe njengenye yezinto ezimbalwa eziqinisekisiwe ngokwenza.