Ewe, yintoni ephosakeleyo ngale ndlela yobomi. Abantwana kunye nomyeni bahlambulukile kwaye banondliwa kakuhle, kukho umyalelo kwindlu, unayo ixesha lokuzonwabisa kwakho, kwaye unako ukudibana nabahlobo bakho nanini na. Ingakumbi ngokuqwalasela iimeko zamanqaku ezixhobo zamakhaya, umsebenzi wesikolo awuzange ulethe ubunzima. Akuwona ubomi, liphupha. Yaye ukuba uthe wagxila ukungabikho kwabaphathi, kodwa ubukho bemali, kunye nokukwazi ukuchitha kuzo zonke iimfuno.
Kwaye awusayi kuba netyala phambi komntwana, xa kufuneka ahlale nogogo wakhe okanye umfana, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba umyeni aphule umyeni wakhe, ngenxa yokungaphumeleli emsebenzini. Kule meko, ngamagama akwanele, ezinye iimvakalelo.
Kodwa ubomi obuninzi ngenxa yobuninzi bethu bobulili obufanelekileyo bugqithiseleyo, kwaye yonke into iyahamba ngokuthe ngqo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, emva kwemiva enjalo, amaxesha adala ahlala ekhunjulwa, xa umfazi wayenqatshelwe ukuba asebenze, kwaye kuphela ubomi bakhe.
Ngoko makhe sibone ukuba ngaba umfazi kufanele asebenze, okanye ukulingana kwamalungelo kunye nemisebenzi kunye nendoda, unokuqwalaselwa ngenye indlela?
Imizila.
Imizila ayikho imfashini kuphela, kodwa ingabi kakhulu. Ingcamango yowesifazane osebenzayo unokubhekiswa kwindlela yokuziphatha. Njengafashoni, iza kwaye ihamba, iguqule izicwangciso zabanye, kodwa i-essence iyahlala enye. Ukuba amabhinqa angaphambili awazange avunyelwe ukwenza umsebenzi, njengamaxesha amaninzi kwakunzima kakhulu emzimbeni. Ngoko ke lona wesifazane "waxhoma" yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya, kwaye uqoqosho luye lugqithise kwaye luhlambe, kwaye londle abantwana kunye nomyeni wakhe. Ukuqwalasela ukuba yonke loo nto yayingumgaqo-nkqubo, umntu unokucinga ukuba ukunika abasetyhini belo xesha kwimeko kunye neemfanelo - siza kutshabalala njengezilwanyana.
Owesifazane ongenamsebenzi ongenamhlanje akayixhoba lokunqongophala kwemisebenzi, kunjengekhaya lomfazi olula, oye wazivumela ukuba i-luxury does not work. Kodwa kwaphawula ukuba ngokubuya ngokuthe ngcembe kwabesetyhini endlwini, kwabonakala kubakho abafazi abancinci beembonakalo ezibalaseleyo, abanomgomo wobomi wokubamba, umyeni ocebileyo. Kananjalo, makabeke, atye, atye, kwaye ndiya kumkholisa ngobungqina bam. Ihlazo lokuba ngenxa yezinto ezinjalo, isithunzi sokungabaza siwela kubo bonke abafazi. Kwaye amaxesha amaninzi abazityebi bahlala bexilongo, kuphela ngenxa yokuba bengakholelwa ekunyanisekeni kweemvakalelo.
Kodwa, nokuba ngabayeni bahambayo akwanele, okanye umphefumlo ufuna kuphela, kodwa ininzi yabasetyhini bethu basebenza.
Imali.
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba esinye isizathu sokuba amabhinqa athunyelwe kwiiofisi, ukuthenga izinto zokubala okanye ukwakha ishishini labo yimeko yemali enzima yentsapho. Njengoko uyazi, imali eninzi ayenzekanga, kwaye ingakumbi ukuba uludwe lwezinto ezifunekayo lunokuthi luchongwe kwelinye igama - "konke". Ukuchitha imali kuhlala kulungile. Kodwa kuyinto enqwenelekayo ngesizathu esithile, ukuba uchithe imali yakho yonke. Mhlawumbi kuba isamba esisesandleni sakho sisalathisi sempumelelo yakho, okanye uphawu lokuzimela. Wonke umntu unesizathu sakhe. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo wonk 'ubani ekugqibeleni uyaguqukela ekubeni uluvo olufanayo lokuba ukuchitha imali yabo kulungile, ngenxa yokuba akukho mntu ufune ukuphendula. Le ngcamango ikwabelwana kunye nabasetyhini abatshatileyo ababelana ngesabelomali esisodwa. Ewe, uvukile kusasa, kodwa usebenze njengomntu wonke kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ungcono ngakumbi, kodwa unemivuzo - oko kuthetha ukuba unelungelo lokuchitha ubuncinane ubuncwane bento oyifunayo ngaphandle kokucinga ngomso. Konke oko kuyinyaniso, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kuphunyezwa, kodwa kubasetyhini abatshatileyo, imiqondo "yokufuna" kunye ne "imfuno" idla ngokuphambuka ngexesha. Unokufuna ukuhlambulula entsha, okanye isethi yeetilesi, okanye izicathulo ezintsha kwintombi yakhe, kwaye yinto ethile yedwa. Kwaye kuvela ukuba nangona kuthengwa koko ufuna, imali ayifumanekanga kwintsapho kunye neemfuno zayo. Kodwa ekuthengeni ngemali yabo, musa ukuzivolisa. Ngoko, senza isigqibo esincinci sokuba umfazi kufuneka asebenze ubuncinci ukuthenga izinto ezingenanto.
Ihlabathi elingaphakathi.
Ihlabathi elingaphakathi kweli lizwe liyimfihlelo kwaye linomdla ngendlela yalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abasetyhini bemvelo baqulunqa, bathanda ukucinga, bacamngce, kwaye bafuna ukubeka ndawo zonke ezi zinto zendalo. Ngoko, kulula kangakanani ukuyenza, kungakhathaliseki ukuba usebenza njani. Amaxesha amaninzi abantu bayamangalisa ukuba umfazi ohlala kwindawo ebonakalayo yindoda, unokuguqula umsebenzi ongenamathothozi, ongeyimpumlelo ibe yinto enomdla kuye, ngamanye amaxesha nakwabanye. Ngoko kwenzeka ntoni ukuba umfazi ushiywe ekhaya? Kuphi ukubeka amandla?
Enye ingongoma ebalulekileyo yinto engokwasengqondweni yabasetyhini kunomnqweno wokunceda abanye abantu. Yiyo le nto inokusichazela ubukho, ikakhulukazi kwabasetyhini kwizithuba zentlalo zentlalo, iyeza, imfundo, ukupheka nezinye izinto. Ukusebenza kwezi zikhundla kunika umfazi ithuba lokuziva luleke, luncedo, luyimfuneko.
Ngokufanayo, abafazi banentlalontle kunabantu, ngoko bahlala besebenza ngenxa yokunxibelelana. Ithuba lokuthetha, maye kwaye kwimeko, yinto ekhethekileyo kakhulu kumsebenzi ngamnye wesifazane. Ukuba ekhaya yonke imini kwindodakazi akukho nto yokuthetha, kwaye indoda ediniweyo evela kumsebenzi ayikho into ehamba phambili. Ngenxa yoko isenzo, isithwathwa, i-hysterics. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo le meko ibangela ukungaboni kakuhle kwintsapho. Indoda ingaphantsi kwenkxalabo yokukhathalela kwimihla ngemihla, loo mfazi sele ekhohliwe okanye engayazi ixabiso lemihla yokusebenza kuyo yonke loo nto-yindlela abafungayo ngayo, ngokulinganisa nabani na obenzileyo.
Ingaba umfazi unyanzelekile ukuba asebenze, okanye ukujongana nendlu kugqitywa nguye kuphela. Into ephambili eya kuba yinto enhle kwaye ikhululekile kule meko. Ukuba umbandela awunomdla, unethuba elikhulu lokwenza into onomdla kuyo, sebenzisa ixesha lesithuba okanye usebenze ngexesha lakho lokuzimela.
Yaye khumbula ukuba ibhinqa ayinakusebenza okanye ayikho, kodwa indlela esivakalelwa ngayo kule ndawo.