Enye yezinto ezibalulekileyo zobomi besikolo ngumsebenzi wesikolo. Akukho ntlungu xa umntwana ekwazi ukuzicwangcisa ngaphandle koluntu lwabantu abadala. Kodwa le nto yinto engekho. Abazali, ke, bafuna ukunceda umntwana wabo. Kodwa indlela yokuncedisa umntwana ukulungiselela umsebenzi wesikolo ukwenzela ukuba ayinayo imiphumo emibi?
Ngokwolu cwaningo, xa abazali bebathatha inxaxheba ekwenzeni umsebenzi wesikolo, umphumo unokuba uncedo okanye awubi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abazali bakhawuleza inkqubo yokufunda, bacacise ukuba ukufunda kubalulekile, kwaye babonisa umdla wabo kumntwana. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, uncedo ngamanye amaxesha ungangena endleleni. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana unokudideka ngcaciso yabazali, kuba bangasebenzisa indlela yokufundisa, eyahlukileyo kwinkqubo yotitshala.
Umama noTata mababenomdla kwiziganeko ezenzeka esikolweni. Ngale ndlela, ubudlelwane buya kuphuculwa kwintsapho, kwaye abazali bayazi kakuhle oko kwenzekayo eklasini kunye nomntwana, njengokuba kunjalo esikolweni.
Ukuba umntwana unenkinga esikolweni, ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukujonga ukusebenza komsebenzi wesikolo. Ngezansi ezinye iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo zokunceda umntwana wakho aqalane nemisebenzi:
- Umntwana kufuneka abe nendawo eyahlukileyo apho uya kwenza umsebenzi wesikolo. Indawo enjalo kufuneka ithule kwaye ibe nokukhanya okuhle. Ngethuba lokusebenza kwemisebenzi, akufanele uvumele umntwana ukuba ahlale phambi kweTV okanye kwigumbi apho kukho ukuphazamiseka okukhulu.
- Kufuneka kuqinisekiswe ukuba zonke izinto zokwabiwa komntwana zifumaneka: ipen, iphepha, ipensela, iincwadi zezifundo, izichazi-magama. Kufanelekile ukubuza, mhlawumbi umntwana ufuna enye into.
- Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba acwangcise. Umzekelo, kubalulekile ukucacisa ixesha elithile apho umntwana eya kwenza umsebenzi wesikolo. Ngomzuzu wokugqibela, akufanele ushiye ukusebenza. Ukuba umsebenzi ukhulu ngokuvakalayo, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ukwenze kwisahlulo sokuqala sosuku, kwaye ungayishiyi ngokuhlwa kwimihla ehamba phambi kweso sifundo.
- Umoya ojikeleze umsebenzi wesikolo kufuneka ube ne-positive. Kufanelekile ukuxelela umntwana ukuba isikolo sibalulekile. Umntwana uthatha isimo sengqondo kwizinto, ebheka abazali bakhe.
- Unokuzama ukwenza umsebenzi ofana nomntwana. Ngaloo ndlela, abazali baya kubonisa ukuba oko akufundayo kusetyenziswa njani. Ukuba umntwana ufunda, ngoko unokufunda kwakhona iphephandaba. Ukuba umntwana wenza izibalo, ngoko unako ukubala (umzekelo, iibhidi zomsebenzi).
- Ukuba umntwana ucela uncedo, wandincede, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele uzalise umsebenzi kumntwana. Ukuba utsho impendulo efanelekileyo, ngoko umntwana akayi kufunda nantoni na. Ngoko umntwana angasetyenziselwa loo nto kwiimeko ezilukhuni, rhoqo umntu oya kwenza wonke umsebenzi kuye.
- Ukuba utitshala uye wazisa ukuba umsebenzi kufuneka wenziwe ngokubambisana nabazali, ngoko akufuneki ukuba unqabe. Ngoko umntwana angaboniswa ukuba isikolo kunye nobomi basekhaya baxhunyiwe.
- Ukuba umntwana kufuneka enze umsebenzi ngokuzimeleyo, ngoko akukho mfuneko yokunceda. Ukuba ngaba abazali banikela uncedo oluninzi kwizifundo zabo, umntwana akafundi ukuzimela, uyafunda ngaphantsi. Yaye izakhono ezinjalo ziya kuba yimfuneko kuye kamva ebomini bakhe abadala.
- Ngokufanelekileyo kukufanelekile ukuthetha nootitshala. Gcina umkhondo wemisebenzi yasekhaya, njengoko abazali befuna ukuqonda injongo yesabelo, kwaye umntwana ufunde izakhono ezifunekayo ukuba zityalwe.
- Kufuneka ukuba ufunde ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kwemisebenzi enzima kwaye elula. Kungcono ukuqala ngemisebenzi enzima. Ngethuba eli xesha umntwana ukhangele phambili. Emva koko, xa umntwana sele esele akhathele, uya kwenza imisebenzi elula kwaye ibe nako ukuhamba eholide.
- Kuyafaneleka ukuthobela ingqalelo kwimeko yomntwana. Ukuba ubona ukuba unobunzima, uyathukuthela kwaye uyicasula, ngoko umele umnikeze ikhefu, uze uqale imisebenzi ngemibutho emitsha.
- Iziphumo ezilungileyo kufuneka zikhuthazwe. Ukuba umntwana usebenza ngokusebenzayo, kufuneka ukuba akhuthazwe. Umzekelo, ungathenga intando oyithandayo okanye uye kwisiganeko sokuzonwabisa.