Ngoko ke, qwalasela ezi ndlela kunye nezindlela ezilula, ezinokuthi zibhekise kwii-tempters. Ukuba omnye wabo ubonakala ujwayele, qaphela - mhlawumbi waba yintlanzi yomculi okanye umculi wepopu.
Iinkqubo zempembelelo
1. Izibhambathiso nezithembiso (zonke izinto zisetyenziselwa ukuza kutshata, qhelana nabazali).
2. Sebenzisa igama elithi "uthando". Umfana ubeka intombazana esondelene naye, athi kuye "Ndibonakalise uthando lwakho, luya kunceda uthando lwethu lukhule, luqhakaze" njl.
3. Umntu uqinisekisa ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuhlolisana ngokuvisisana ngesondo. Emva kokuphumelelana nobudlelwane obusondelene naye, uyalala.
4. Isibheno sobubele. "Ndiba nobubele kum, awukhathaleli, kodwa ndiza kuhamba kakuhle, ndiyayeka ukuvavanya ngenxa yokunganeliseki ngokwesondo." Okokuqala, qiniseka ukuba awukhathaleli!
5. Ingozi: "Awuyi kuyeka - ndiza kufumana omnye."
6. Umdlalo wokuzithemba: "Ukuba awuhambanga oko, awufani nomntu wonke, kungekhona namhlanje, akuqhelekanga."
Phendula imibuzo yakho
Xa udibana nendoda eselula eqhubekayo kukunyanzela ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, ngaba, mantombazana, buza imibuzo enjalo:
Undiphatha njani?
Ukwazi kangakanani ukuzilawula?
Yintoni ayaziyo nokwenzayo kwintsibano yobudlelwane bezesondo?
Ngaba unyanzelekile ukunyaniseka kwaye unzulu kangakanani injongo zakhe?
Ngaba uyathetha oko akucingayo?
Ngaba uya kunqanda ubuhlobo kunye nam ukuba ndithi ndikulungele ulwalamano?
Yintoni eya kuyenza xa ndikhulelwa?
Ziziphi iindlela kunye nezindlela zokukhusela, ukuba ndithe, ziya kusebenzisa kwaye ziya kusetyenziswa nonke?
Ngaba ngokwenene ndifuna oku kwaye zizinjongo zam ezinzulu ngaye?
Ngaba siqondana, ngaba silungile omnye nomnye, ngaphandle kwesondo?
Yazi indlela yokuthi "hayi"
Ukuba ulahlekelwe ukuphendula le mibuzo, ke ungesabi ukutsho "akukho" nzima. Ngokuthi "hayi", ngokuqinisekileyo nangokuqinisekileyo, ngaphandle kokungabaza nokuxolisa.
"Andifuni, kwaye oku kwanele ukuba akukho buhlobo."
"Hayi, ndiyayinqabela xa bandinyanzela ukuba ndenze into ethile."
"Hayi, andizivumi ukulungele oku."
"Hayi, ndiyesaba kakhulu." (Yilungiselelwe kulolu hlobo ngale ndlela: "Musa ukwesaba, yonke into iya kulungiswa", "Masiphuze ukuphumula" okanye ukucaphukisa njenge: "Little", "Kindergarten - ibhulukwe kwiintambo"),
"Hayi" Ngaba unako ukulala ngesondo nomntu ongafuni? "
"Hayi, uyandikhawuleza, andazi mna xa ndikulungele." (Musa ukutshutshiswa njengokuba: "Ndiza kudala, ndidiniwe, andithandi")
"Hayi, andinakho ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo kuwe." (Ukuphendula, ulungele ukuphendula okunjalo: "Hayi, yinto enjalo ngayo!" Ewe, kuphelile phakathi kwethu. "Oku kungumdlalo ngethemba lokuba le ntombazana ayiyi kumela kwaye iyavuma.) Musa ukwesaba ukuhlukana nomntu onjalo.
"Hayi, ndicinga ukuba ndimele ndilinde ndize nditshatile." (Ukuphendula, unokuva "Unjengomntwana, awunjalo namhlanje", "Simele sihlolisane embhedeni")
"Hayi, andifuni, kwaye ukuba unyanzela ukuba wenze oku, kuya kuba nogonyamelo."
"Hayi" Kubonakala ngathi andinandaba. " "Hayi, uyandenza ndicinge ukuba uya kundishiya ukuba ndiyinqabe."
"Hayi, ungenzi ukuba ndicinga kakubi kuwe."
"Hayi, izenzo zakho zindiqinisekisa ukuba andikuzi kakuhle."
Ukwazi ukuzimela kwaye ungazivumeli ukuba zikhohliswe ukwenzela ukuba le msila kunye nomsila oqhayisayo awuyi kuhamba phambili ezintliziyweni zamantombazana amancinci kunye namantombazana!