Amatye angaphantsi kwamanzi enomathotholo

Abaninzi abafazi, behamba eholide, bafuna uthando emphefumlweni: ngokungathi udibana nomntu oyedwa kunye noyingqayizivele ojikeleze nge-caress kunye nokunyamekela nokuqwalasela. Kwaye ndinqwenela ukuba olo thando lube lunqamle intloko yam kungekuphela kweholide, kodwa luhlala ngonaphakade.


Ngoko njani ukuba nexesha elihle kwaye ungayi ekhaya ngehliziyo ephukile?

Into yokuqala ongayikwenzayo isetya injongo: phantsi kweyiphi na imeko, fumana iveli. Yonke into iya kwenzeka ngendlela emele ukuba yenzeke ngayo, ngokubanzi, ujabulele ulwandle, ulwandle, ukuphumla.

Khumbula ukuba okokuqala nangakumbi, abantu abaya kwi-resort yokuthabatha amabali, kufuneka baqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba olu lamano kunye nexesha elichithwa yi-resort yiyona nto ikhethileyo.

Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ulwalamano lwenkcazo yowesifazane wesilisa luhluke kakhulu.

Njengomthetho, amadoda adinga kuphela iintsasa ixesha elithile, afuna ukuphazamisa, ukusinda ebomini. Iinkemba zabo zilula, zivumele ukuba ziphuhlise ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwanoma luphi na uxanduva.

Umfazi ucinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ngombono wakhe, ufanelekile nantoni encinci yolonwabo, kwaye ufuna ukubonisa ubungqina bendoda eninzi kakhulu. Unokuhlwa ngobusuku obuhle bukhule ekhanda lakhe yonke inqaku kwaye ukhumbule iminyaka emininzi.

Indoda iyindawo yonke kwaye yonke indawo ngumzingeli, injongo yakhe kukunqoba ibhinqa, ufuna ukubonisa ubungqina bakhe. Ngoko ke, makhe sizinakekele, sibonise ukuba sinikwe ithuba lokuba sizithande, ngokuzilinda.

Kodwa akukho nto ibhetele kumfazi ngaphezu kwexesha apho ekhwaza, ekhangelele kwaye ebamba iimbono zabantu, ekhangela izibopho zesikhashana. La mabhinqa agijimela echibini kunye neentloko zawo, kuphela emva kokuva ukuncoma kokuqala kwivenkile yokutyela.

Kule nqanaba, sifuna ukuvavanya zonke izinto ezintle kunye neempembelelo zobudlelwane obunjalo ukuze sihlolisise amandla ethu engqondo, kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, mququzelele iminqweno.

Ziziphi iinkalo ezintle zokuthandana kweeholide kwabafazi?

Masibhale uluhlu lwezinto ezintle zobudlelwane:
Indlela yokuthabatha indoda?

Unokugqiba njani ulwalamano olutsha?

Ukuba awukwazi ukugqiba isigqibo sokuqhubeka, ngoko kufuneka unqume ulwalamano oluqalise xa useholide. Tshela intsapho yakho entsha ukuba uchithe ixesha le-chic kunye naye, kodwa uthando lwakho lugqityiwe kunye nokuphela kokunye, akukho nethemba lokuqhubeka. Izizathu akudingeki zichazwe, kwaye akufanele ube neentlungu zecala.

Kodwa ukuba uthe wathandana kakhulu kwaye awuyikushiya umvakalelo wokuthi ngaphandle kwalowo mntu awukwazi ukuphefumula, ngoko ungaphila njani ukuhlukana kule meko?

Ingxaki kuphela yileyo ndawo ukusuka kwintsuku yakho yokuthandana kwiholide kuya kufuneka uhambe kwiidolophu ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye uhlupheke ukuba le nto ikunike inwaba evela kude.

Yaye yinto ehamba ngayo kwiplatifti, ubusuku bothando kunye nezithembiso. Kwaphelile, kwaye ushiywe wedwa. Ufuna ukuhlala ukhala, kwaye ukhumbule njalo imemori, khumbula ubuso bomdabu. Wonke umfazi okwangomzuzu ufuna ukwazi ukuba ubona ntoni, kunzima yena kunye nawe, okanye "Kuthe ukuba uthe wandilibala?"

Ukuze ungalokothi ulahlekelwe ithemba, kufuneka ulandele imigaqo:

Kodwa nangona kunjalo, musa ukuzisola ngesithandabuzo sothando, ungaziveki unetyala okanye unobungozi, obunokutshatyalaliswa kwisilingo. Ukukhangela uthando ngumpazamo oqhubekayo kunye novavanyo.