Unyana wam oneminyaka emithathu uhlala ndicela ukuba ndidlale ifowuni yam. Xa ngenxa yeemeko mna, ngamanye amaxesha, ndimele ndimkhanye, uphakamisa ukukhala. Indlela yokujongana nale nto?
Kunzima ukuba umntwana aqonde ukuba kutheni umdlalo othile uvunyelwe ukuba udlale, ngoko awuvumelekile. Ukuziphatha okungahambelani kwabazali akukho nto efanelekileyo. Asifanele sivumele ezo zimo. Ungalokothi uvumele umntwana ukuba adlale nento ongayi kulahla kamva. Kule meko, phikelela. Ikhetho - ukutshintsha ifowuni yakho ngecebo elidala.
Umama undihlamba ngenxa yokunika abantwana abaninzi abantwana amathoyizi. Ukholelwa ukuba kufuneka banikwe kuphela ngeeholide. Yaye yintoni umbono weengcali malunga noku?
Unyoko awulungile ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba unaloo thuba, kufuneka unikeze umntwana wakho uvuyo kungekuNyaka omtsha kunye nosuku lokuzalwa, kodwa ngenxa yokuba unesidingo sokukholisa umntwana. Ewe, kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, musa ukusebenzisa ukuthengwa kwamathoyizi ngokuziphatha komntwana. Akukho mfuneko yokubeka imeko yentsana: "Ukuba wenza ..., ke mna ..." Kungcono ukuvuza umntwana ngokungalindelekanga kuye ngamazwi: "Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu! Ulunge namhlanje! Yibambe! ".
Indodana yam ayifuni ukulala ngaphandle kwebheyi le-teddy. Unqabileyo ngokungafuni ukuya ngaphandle kwakhe emotweni. Ngaba kulungele ukuphazamiseka kwakhe? Ubuntwaneni bam bekunamathoyizi, kodwa ukuba ndiziphatha njengoko yena ...
Le meko akufanele ibangele uxolo. Kulungile nokuba umntwana wakho unalo ithoyizi apho eziva ekhuselekile. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ubukho bemidlalo yokudlala "isilwanyana" inceda umntwana ukuba anqobe ukwesaba kobuhlwempu, alele. Unokumnika iingcamango zakhe ezingaphakathi. Iingcali zize zicebise ukuba zifumane i-toy, ikakhulukazi ukuba umntwana uye wandisa uxhalaba kwaye akhupheke. Ngendlela, "abahlobo-intombazana-abahlobo" badla ngohlobo lweebhere ezithambileyo, zaek, izinja - ukuboniswa kwezidalwa eziphilileyo. Jonga, kodwa ungakwazi ukuthetha njengomntu. Ngoko kaninzi ayinodoli. Kwaye, ke, akunqabile xa beba-robot, abaguquli kunye nezinto ezifana.
Musa ukulibala ukuba imidlalo enobudlova ayikwazi ukunyanzelwa, kufuneka uhlolisise umxholo kunye nokhuseleko lwabantwana. Ulwaphulo lwabantwana ngokubhekiselele "kwihlabathi elimbi".
Kungcono kangakanani ukujongana neemidlalo ezindala, eziphukileyo kunye nezo zinto umntwana "sele akhule"?
Ukulahla iimfuno ezingadingekile ozidingayo ukugcina imithetho emibini. Okokuqala, ungaze umphoqele umntwana ukuba alahle amathoyizi, nokuba aphukile. Ngomnye wabo, umntwana unemvakalelo emihle kunye namava. Le miboniso yayingabangane bakhe, amaqabane emidlalo. Indlela enjalo inokulimaza umntwana. Ukuba kusekho isidingo sokudibanisa, kulungile ukukopela, xelela oko uqokelelayo, uthathe kuqala kumphathi oya kubalungisa, aze abanike abantwana abangenawo amathoyizi nonke. Ngoko baya kunikwa "ubomi besibini" - wonke umntu uya kuvuya. Okwesibini, musa ukulahla amathoyizi ngokwengqiqo yakho. Ngethuba unako ukumnciphisa umntwana wamathoyizi ozithandayo. Ukuba wayenjalo, mhlawumbi unganakucinga - unokubonakala engathandekiyo aze aphule.
Umntwana ubonisa kuphela "umlwa-mkhosi", odlala kuphela kwimidlalo yamatyala - kungcono ukubuyela kumntwana wengqondo yengqondo. Uya kunceda ukuqonda imbangela yale mpu kunye nokujongana nayo.
Umhlobo wam wanditshutshisa ngokuthenga indlovu ye-violet (iminyaka emine) ngentombi yam. Kodwa yintoni ephosakeleyo naleyo? Emva koko, abantwana bathanda into ekhanyayo?
Ukuba umntwana akaphunduli ukuqonda kwehlabathi, zama ukungazithengi umntwana onentsundu kunye neebhere eziluhlaza, ubuncinci abalinganiswa "abangaqhelekanga"; Cinga ngokucacileyo ukuba le nto yokudlala iyakuba yintsana yakho. Abantwana bakhetha abo babonakalisa inyaniso eyaziwayo kubo. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ushukunyiswa njani ingcamango yakho "I-Doll-fashionista", equka iikopi zeempahla zokubonisa ishishini, intombi yakho eneminyaka emine iya kuba yinto edlalayo yokudlala kunye nenamba yokuhlamba. Siyabulela iingcebiso zethu kubazali ekukhethweni kwamathoyizi kubantwana onokuyiqonda nokuqonda okukhulu.
Ndiye ndichasene namathoyizi empi, oko kukuthi, umkhosi. Indoda iyayithenga ngokuzithandela kwonyana wayo. Iimbono zethu azifani nje ngekhadi. Senze izikhundla ezingahambelaniyo. Kancinci kwaye kuza kuqhawula umtshato. Ngubani o lungile?
Ngamnye wenu unelungelo lokujonga ngombono wakhe ngokubhekiselele kumathoyizi e-paramilitary kunye neentlanzi. Ngokomntu, kufuneka ucinge ukuba idlawutsha ye-paramilitary inempembelelo entle yengqondo yengane - inika ithuba lokusabela kwifomu "yomthetho" kwintshukumo engokwemvelo ekhoyo kunoma yimuphi umntwana. Umntwana wakho ubhekene nobuninzi beminqophiso imihla ngemihla: awukwazi ukucaphukisa ikati ekhaya, nangona ihlatywe, kunye neentlobo zontanga - intombazana eye, ngokukhawuleza, ibetha, esitrato ... phi ukuchitha zonke ezi zikhalazo? Imidlalo "Ukudubula" - indlela ephumelelayo.
Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, ukuvakalelwa kukuba "uyinqobe" kuya kuba nempembelelo enokuzimela.
Kodwa imidlalo yezobudlova kunye neepalilitary ihanjiswe ngokukhawuleza kwisiteshi esamkelekileyo esentlalweni. Injongo 'ye-tra-ta-ta-ta-ta' kufuneka ibe kukukhusela abathandekayo, gcina i-princess emangalisayo, ikhusele izilwanyana kubaculi. Kule meko, imidlalo "enobudlova", ngombono wakho, iya kuba nefuthe elihle. Ingane ifunda ukuba kufuneka ube ngumkhuseli kwaye, xa ukhula, uya kuba nako ukukhusela abathandekayo kunye nabuthathaka. Ngokungafaniyo nalabo babenqatshelwe ngokupheleleyo loo midlalo ebuntwaneni babo.
Umntwana wam uhlala ecwangcisa "ikhonsathi" kwisitokethi sokudlala. Icela ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba uphume ngaphandle ngaphandle kokuthenga. Ukukhanyela ngokukhawuleza, akunakwenzeka, kwaye ngakwesinye icala, ndiloyiko ukuyiphanga.
Ukwesaba kwakho kuchanekile. Kwiingqungquthela, ezigqityiwe ngabantwana abathile ezitolo, abazali, okokuqala, bayakugweba. Hhayi zonke iintsana zikwazi ukulawula iminqweno nemizwelo yabo njengabantu abadala, ingakumbi kakhulu. Kwaye ukuvavanya olu buchule akufanelekanga. Ukuthenga ithoyilo rhoqo, awuyi kuphazamisa umntwana kuphela, kodwa ulungise indlela yokuziphatha engalunganga. Yaye ukuba yonke ixesha uthabatha kwisitore ngaphandle kwidlali yokudlala, ungakhothaza i-psyche. Indlela efanelekileyo kukuzama ukuqhubela umntwana ukuya apho kukho izilingo ezininzi. Xa ulungele ukuthenga umntwana wakho isipho, mkhokele esitolo uze umnike ieholide.
Intombi yam eneminyaka emibini inqabileyo iyanqabela ukwabelana ngamathoyizi akhe nabanye abantwana. Unokumfundisa njani oku?
Kwiminyaka emibini ixesha lokubelana, alikafiki. I-egocentrism yabantwana ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu yinto eqhelekileyo. Intsana inelungelo lokunika umdlalo wakhe uze udlale ngokwaneleyo. Oku, kwindlela, kuya kunceda ukuqonda ukuba kutheni abanye abantwana bengamniki amathoyizi abo. I-crumb iyayiqonda into yakhe njengengxenye yayo. Ngomntwana, yena ngokwakhe kunye nemidlalo yakhe yinye. Umntwana okhulile uyazi nje ukuba izinto azinayo aziyi kuyeka ukuba umntu uthatha isandla sakhe. Kodwa emva kweminyaka emithathu, umntwana uqala ukuhlakulela iimpawu ezinjengezobubele, umnqweno wokwenza umntu abe mnandi, kwaye umsebenzi wakho kukukhuthaza. Unyaka we-3-4, abantwana baqala ukuba nomnqweno wokuba babelane kuphela, kodwa nokuba benze izipho. Kwaye kunengqiqo ukuthetha nomntwana malunga nezinto ozithandayo, kunye naziphi na - kungekhona. Emva kwakho konke, akunakwenzeka ukuba uyonwabe ukuba intombi yakho inika umngane kwindawo yokudlala yakhe i scooter.
Ngoku kukho ezininzi iifythi ezifanayo kwiivenkile, ngelo xesha ixabiso lawo lihluke kakhulu. Mhlawumbi oku kuxhomekeke ekubeni imveliso ingakanani? Nceda ubhale uluhlu oluphambili lokukhuselwa kwamathoyizi.
Ukhuseleko yinto yokuqala abazali kufuneka bayayiqwalasele xa bethenga ithoyilo. Oko kukuthi, okokuqala uvavanya ithoyilo ngokubhekiselele kokukhuseleko kwayo kuphela, ke ucinge ngeminye imiba.
Fumana kuphela imveliso eqinisekisiweyo.
Yithobela umenzi. Ewe, ukuba umenzi wale teyibhile odibeneyo kwiivenkile ezahlukeneyo, kwaye akukho nyaka owodwa. Kunengqiqo ukuqhelana namagama eempawu ezikhokelayo zamathoyizi.
Khumbula ngeziganeko zeminyaka (umzekelo, abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu ubudala abanakuzithengela amathoyizi anamaqela amancinci).
Gcina umdlalo ezandleni zakho, uzuze amandla ayo, qaphela ubungakanani beetayipi, ngokukodwa.
Nika ingqalelo kwizinto ezifakwe kwiitokisi ezithambileyo. Inketho efanelekileyo - i-sintepon (i-foam ezinyangeni ezintandathu ingaqalisa ukukhupha izinto eziyingozi). Ukuba umdlalo unobhola abancinci, uvavanye amandla alo mbandela apho ithoyiyi ikhontshwe khona. Phawula indlela enokumisa ngayo amehlo akho, impumlo.
Ukutshiza iiplastiki kunye neetayibhiyiki (ungesabi ukwenza abanye bahlekise), unokuzizama zamazinyo (ukuba uyavuma). Ukuvumba kunye nenkolelo yakho yinto eyoyikisayo - kungcono ukushiya ukuthenga kwabo, ingaba yingozi.
Kuzo zonke iifayili eziqinisekisiweyo eRashiya, ibheji eRostest iqhotyoshelwe kwaye umyalelo wesiRashiya uqhotyoshelweyo. Thatha umgaqo wokubhala amalebula!
Intombi yam ayifuni ukudlala imidlalo yokuphuhlisa (umzekelo, kunye nomklami, iipuzzle, ukuphoqa). Ngeentsuku ezidlala ngamathoyizi athambileyo-ke i-kindergarten iya kulungiswa, uze uyondle. Ungayenza njani umdlalo weemidlalo ezisebenzayo?
Intombi yakho akufanele iphoqelelwe ukudlala imidlalo efanelekileyo. Oku ungawuphelisa umdla kubo. Thatha ikhefu. Kananjalo ukhumbule ukuba indawo yokudlala yomntwana akufanele ifane negumbi lesikole. Yaye nangona ixesha eliyiminyaka emi-5 lincomekayo kakhulu ekuphuhliseni ulwaphulo-mbuzo, imemori, ukuqonda, oku akuthethi ukuba ngoku kufuneke ukuba "kuphela amathoyizi ezemfundo" akhethekileyo. Enyanisweni, abantwana bafumana amaninzi amava kwinkqubo yemidlalo kunye nokuhlola okukhululekileyo kwehlabathi elibangqongileyo. Le ndlela yothando ngayo ulwazi. Umdlalo ngamnye obonakala ngathi "ungenalutho" unentsingiselo ebanzi.
Njengoncedo lophuhliso, ungasebenzisa nayiphi na incwadi eneemifanekiso.
Intombi yam eneminyaka emithandathu iyandicenga ukuba ndiyithenge inja. Akukho zichaso zonyango. Kodwa ndinokubakholelwa ukuba uya kumphatha njengemidlalo yokudlala. Ukucebisa indlela yokuphepha oku?
Ukwesaba kwakho kunyanisekileyo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awudingi ukuthenga isilwanyana. Thetha nentombazana malunga neemfuno zokuphila-eneminyaka emithandathu ubudala ukwazi ukuyiqonda. Nyalela intombi yakho ngemisebenzi elula ukunyamekela isilwanyana, umzekelo, ukubeka esweni ukufumaneka kwamanzi kwisitya. Yaye bonke baya kuvuya.
Inyana yam eneminyaka engama-4 ithanda ukudlala i-toys girly. Umyeni usengozini. Andiboni nantoni na embi apha. Ngubani o lungile?
Gcoba umyeni wakho. Kwiminyaka emi-4 akukho nto ibangela ukuxhalabisa. Abantwana bathambekele ekubeni banomdla kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zamathoyizi, kubandakanya ezo zidlalwa ngabantwana besini esahlukileyo. Musa ukuhlazisa umntwana okanye ukumnqanda ukuba adlale imidlalo ye "girly". Inokwenzeka ukuba, intsana iya kukwanelisa umdla wayo kwaye iphinde iqale ukudlala imidlalo yeli "macho". Kwixesha elizayo, kuya kubaluleka ukuba lixesha elingakanani elihlawulela imidlalo "ngamadonki" kwaye ingaba uyadlala.
Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ukuba zingayijikeleza umntwana kunye nenani elikhulu lemidlalo. Oku kunqumla ingqwalasela, kwaye ngenxa yoko, inkunzi ayidlala nayo nayiphi na.
Igumbi labantwana labahlobo bethu lithwele iitoni. Kodwa intombi yabo ayidlala nayo. Kwaye bonke bathenga amatsha. Zingaphi iimathoyizi ezifanele zibe zijikeleze imvumba?
Kunzima ukunika impendulo ecacileyo kunye ne-monosyllabic. Inani leemidlalo lixhomekeke kwiminyaka yomntwana, kunye nenjongo yokusebenza. Kwaye kunye nabahlobo bakho, unokucebisa ukuba ulandele uluhlu lwezinto zokudlala kwii-nursery kwaye uguqule ngezikhathi ezithile. "Tshintsha" akuthethi kuphela ukuhlaziya. Abazali abanamava ahlanzekileyo amathoyizi, apho umntwana engathinti iintsuku eziliqela. Ikhishwe kwi-mezzanines emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa, ibangela umdla omtsha kumntwana.
Musa ukuyenza iphutha xa ukhetha umdlalo wakho kumntwana, kuba i-assortment inkulu kakhulu? Kunzima ukucinga ukuba yeyiphi imigaqo ekufuneka ikhokelwe kuqala.
Cinga ngokuphuhliswa kwalo mdlalo wokudlala: ukuqonda kwengqondo, ukuqonda, ukucinga, ukuphuhliswa ngokomzwelo, izakhono zokunxibelelana, ubuchule, iimpawu zomntu, izakhono zokuzithiba ... Emva kokukwazi ukuphendula lo mbuzo, khumbula ukuba ziphi iifayili esele zikhoyo kwi-arsenal yengane?
Mhlawumbi, ukuphuhliswa kwalolu hlobo okanye umgangatho, iimvumba sele sele zineetshizi ezaneleyo, kwaye ngeli xesha kulungile ukuthenga ithoyizi ngenjongo ehlukile.
Khumbula, uluphi uhlobo lokudlala umntwana aphupha ngalo, owaluncedo kwintolongo, oko u-Grandfather Frost abhala ngaye.
Khumbula okokudlala amathoyizi awayewakhumbula kubantwana bakho nabahlobo bakho.
Qinisekisa ukuzibuza, kodwa wena ungathanda ukufumana ithoyizi enjalo ngexesha elifanelekileyo? Ukuba umntwana usemncinci, cinga ngezinto anokuthandayo.