Ukuba izalamane zacetyiswa
Okokuqala, kufuneka ukhethe izinga lokubaluleka komcebisi omtsha kuwe nakwintsapho yakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, bobabini umama noninazala baya kufuna ukuthatha inxaxheba ekukhulisweni komntwana. Kubo, uyindlalifa yamagazi. Ngoko ke, abazukulu bafuna ukutyalombela into engatyalwanga kubantwana ngenxa yokungabikho kwexesha kunye namava. Ngoko, kulungile ukuphulaphula iingcebiso kubagogo! Enyanisweni, ukuba ziphikisana ngokubanzi, iingxaki ziya kuvela ngokuqinisekileyo. Uya kufuneka ukhuthazele ngokumalunga nokungenani omnye wamaqela. Ngaphandle koko, uya kugxininiswa, cwina umntwana wakho kuzo, kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuqubuka ngokufanelekileyo kokudakumba okukhulu.
Abameli abaninzi abanesizukulwana esidala abanamathemba oogqirha banamhlanje kunye namaziko okunakekela abantwana (umzekelo, i-diapers). Kodwa uphulaphula ngokucophelela iingxabano zabo kwaye uthembisa ukuxoxa ngale ngogqirha wakho. Njengomthetho, aba bakhulu bafuna ukuphulaphulwa. Ngoko ubonise indlela oxabisa ngayo uluvo lwabo, kangakanani na ukuba uyabahlonela. Ukuba awuhlali ndawonye, awuyi kulungela ngendlela yakho. Zama ukuzithoba ngokukhawuleza kwiingcebiso, kwaye ke umzabalazo uza kuhlaziywa, ungabi naso ixesha lokuhlaziya.
Ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe usoloko ephatha nawe ngeemvakalelo ngesihloko esithi "Xa ndibe ngumama osemncinci, yonke into yayisesikhathini, kodwa endlwini yakho ayihlambulukanga kwaye indoda ayondli" - musa ukubeka ingxaki kuwe yodwa, sebenzisane. Umzekelo, cela umamazala ukuba ahambe kunye nomntwana ukuze ubeke indlu yakho ngokufanelekileyo uze wenze isidlo sakusihlwa. Okanye wenze okuchaseneyo - baphathe umama-mkhwenkwe ngento enandi, xa ebuya ehamba nomzukulu wakhe.
AmaMommies ebhentshini
Lungisa ukuba uqale uphathe uxolo kwaye uhlasele ngokucacileyo kwiingcamango ezingathandekiyo zabahlobo kunye nabaziwayo malunga nosana lwakho. Kubonakala ngathi intombi yakho yayingathethi nto, kodwa yodwa: "Kwaye i-Pavlusha yam isithuba seenyanga ezilisithoba sele idla ngemfoloko kunye nommese, kwaye isasaza, idonsa kwaye idansa!" Uze uqhathanise umntwana wakhe naye, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, funyanwa kumntwana wakho ofanayo. Ngenxa yoko, ngokukhawuleza unesisombululo sezinto ezinzima, uhlala uthuthukiswa ngcamango: "Umntwana uphahla emva kwentuthuko, kwaye ndingumama ongenamsebenzi."
Dlulisa zonke iindawo eziyinkimbinkimbi, ngakumbi ukuba iimvakalelo ezingekho mfuneko kuwe nantoni na! Kungcono ukucinga ngento yokuba, okokuqala, umntwana ngamnye ukhula ngokwexesha lakhe. Okwesibini, ungumama onobuhle, nje ukuphuhliswa kukaPavlushi kuthathwa ngokukhawuleza ngababakhulu ababili, utata kunye nomntwana, kwaye wena wedwa kunye nomntwana uphathwa, kwaye uhola indlu. Okwesithathu, khumbula i-anecdote endala malunga nabanikazi bemihlala-phantsi ababethetha ngokuzithemba omnye nomnye malunga nenani leentlanga ezithandekayo. Ngaba nawe: uthetha ngokukhuliswa komntwana, malunga nophuhliso lwakhe, impumelelo. Emva kwakho konke, awuqambi amanga! Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko umntwana wakho uyona mhle kwaye uyimfuneko, nangona engayazi ukudlala isigubhu kwiinyanga ezisibhozo.
Ukwahlukana kakhulu
Umfazi omdala, ephumla ebhentshini ecaleni kwakho, uyabubula ukuba ngexesha lakhe ingca yatsho, kwaye abantwana - abafundileyo? Musa ukwenza amagama akhe abaluleke kakhulu. Ingxaki nje yobudala, oko kuthetha ukuba ngelinye ilanga kuya kukuchaphazela. Emva koko, abantu bezizukulwana ezahlukileyo banokukhululwa okungafaniyo. Ibhinqa elidala, elikhutshwe ngamaxesha "enkundla zenkundla", liqinisekile ukuba ufuna nje ukuthatha icebiso lakhe malunga nokukhuliswa kwengane yakho. Ukuba uyamdinga kakhulu iimpendulo ezisebenzayo-nokuba uyibona yokuqala kunye neyokugqibela. Akaqondi isizathu sokuba ungafuni ukunika umntwana wakho i-cookie okanye ushokoledi anikwe yona, kuba unikela ubuncwane beenjongo ezilungileyo! Inyaniso yokuba umntwana unesidingo sokutya, ukuba unobungozi obunokwenzeka, kwaye ekugqibeleni, kungenxa yezizathu zokuphepha, awukwazi ukuthatha into kubantu abangabaziyo - oku akusikho "umcebisi" ocinga ngayo. Emva koko, eqinisweni, akanandaba nomntwana wakho! Yiloo ndlela ufanele uqhube ngayo kule nkcazelo yokuziphatha kwakhe.
Kuphela akukho mfuneko ukuba ufune ukucaphukisa umfazi omdala kwaye nangakumbi unokuba nehlazo kuye. Ulunge ukuphulaphula ngenyameko icebiso lakhe kwaye uphazamise ngokuzenzekelayo: "Uxolo, kufuneka sihambe ekhaya, sihle." Ungesabi ukukhubekisa umhlobo ongamkelwayo. Okokuqala, ukuba unomoya ohloniphekileyo, akayi kuba nesizathu sokukhubekisa "kulutsha olusandula ukugula". Okwesibini, kunokwenzeka ukuba awuyi kuphinda uyibone kwakhona. Ngoko musa ukuchitha iimbilini zakho ngeze!
Phambili
Into ephambili - khumbula ukuba kuzo zonke iimeko ezintathu, abacebisi abangavunywanga ukusuka kwinqanaba lakho lokujonga baqhutyelwa kuphela kwiinkomfa zabo. Ugogo, othanda umzukulu wakhe, akayi kudibanisa abazali bakhe abatsha. Umama othembekileyo akayi kuqala ukunika umntwana wakhe ulwazi nolwazi engabonakaliyo ngenxa yobudala obunjalo. Umhlala-phantsi onentsapho yakhe eyonwabileyo akayi kuphazamisana nomnye umntu.
Ngoko cinga ngezinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi: laphula umcebisi omtsha, uze udibanise naye kwingxoxo engenamsebenzi kwaye ngoko uthabathe kakubi zonke izihlobo kunye nabantu abangaziwayo - okanye uzikhusele wena kunye nosapho lwakho kulo. Yaye ukuba ukhetha ukhetho lwesibini, ngoko nje xelele ngokuthethekileyo intsapho, abahlobo kunye nabahlobo obutsha ukuba uyayixabisa ngokwenene umnqweno wokunceda, kodwa ufuna ukuthetha nabo ngokulula nangokuthokoza, ngaphandle kokuqalisa ukuxoxisana ngezihloko malunga nokukhulisa umntwana.