Indlela yokuba yindoda engcono kumfana wakho? Ngenxa yoko, kukho imigaqo emininzi okanye iindlela eza kukunceda ukuba ube ngowona nto ilungileyo kwaye ugcine ubuhle bobudlelwane kwiminyaka emininzi ezayo.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba nabani na oya kuthi umfazi onomdla unamathuba amaninzi okwenqwenelekayo kunokuba "log-log" ebhedini. Okokuqala, ukungahambi kakuhle kwebhinqa ngexesha lokutshutshisa kubangela ukuba ungeva phantsi komntu. Bacinga ukuba benza into engalunganga, musa ukubangela ukuba iqabane likwazi ukuthanda, kodwa nqwenela "ukuhamba." Ngoko ke, isiluleko sokuqala: inkosikazi engcono-enye enye into yokuba uthando luhlangane nomdla. Kule meko, "ukuthulula ioli kumlilweni" kuya kuvelisa imizwa yakho kwaye ungenzi nzakalo kule nkqubo.
Musa ukukhathala ngokuphinda aphandle i-therapists emhlabeni jikelele, ukuba iimvavanyo zesondo zishisa umlilo kwaye ziphinde zicebise ukuba ungayinqumli ngendlela encinane ukuba uzame into entsha. Kuyafaneleka ukuphulaphula iingcebiso zala oogqirha abanezilumko, ingakumbi ukuba sifuna indlela yokuba yinkosikazi engcono kumfana wakho. Umntu uya kuthinteka kakhulu ngokuzimisela kwakho ukuzama, kuba akukho nto intombazana inako ukwenza izinto ezithandanayo ezithintela imida yezithethe zendabuko. Ngoko, isicatshulwa sesibini: uzive nje njengososayensi - uvavanyo, uhlola bonke ubuso obutsha behlabathi elikhulu elibizwa ngokuthi "uthando."
Endleleni eya kwindawo ephakamileyo yokuzonwabisa, inkwenkwe yakho iya kuvuyisa kwaye ibulele ngokukodwa xa "uyibonisa" indlela. Inyaniso kukuba umntu ngamnye uyingqayizivele kunye neengcamango eziphazamisayo kwi "imephu" yomzimba inokufumaneka ngokuthe ngqo. Iziganeko eziqhelekileyo xa umntu engayiqondi ukuba umfazi uyakuthanda oko akwenzayo, ngoko unomdla wakho "o, ewe, ndoda, kulungile apha!" okanye "omncinane, othandekayo" okanye "ukundibamba apha" kuya kumnceda ahambe "nezinto" ezifunekayo eziza kubetha amaziko amnandi ngakumbi. Isicatshulwa sesithathu: inkosikazi enhle isebenzisa ngokugqithiseleyo isiqulatho sezwi kunye neengcamango ezifanelekileyo ukuze uqondise umthandi wakhe "kwicala elifanelekileyo".
Into enye kufuneka icace: amadoda angabonakali. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka babone umfazi wabo bonke ubuqaqawuli kunye namaxesha athile ekukhanyeni, kungekhona phantsi kwengubo ebumnyameni ngaphandle kokubona. Ukuba ufuna ukuba yinkosikazi yakho enomlingane, makhe acinge yonke into emzimbeni wakhe. Ukuhlutha okufutshane (kunye neenxalenye ze-striptease), ukuchithwa ngokulandelanayo kweendawo ezithakazelisayo kwifom yokudlala - ukususela kuyo yonke into, intloko yakhe iya kuhamba. Kwaye xa uhlala "kwiingubo zikaEva", uya kulahleka konke ukungathandabuzeki ukuba ungumfazi ongcono kunazo zonke owake waphila ebomini bakhe. Ngoko, isicatshulwa sesine: musa ukufihla umzimba wakho kwaye uzibonakalise ukuba ungokazikazi kwaye ungaphantsi!
Ukongeza kwimbonakalo yangaphandle yothando nomdla, inkosikazi engcono kakhulu iyayazi indlela yokusebenza kumntu wayo nangaphakathi. Isidlo sakusasa kwizilwanyana zasemanzini, i sandwiches ne caviar, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ulungiselele i-cocktail kunye neziqhamo ezintsha, inyama kunye ne-garlic sauce (kuya kuba mnandi ukuyidla), i-tshotile, iwayini edibeneyo, iglasi yewayini ephezulu, izitya apho kukho ama-nut ezakhayo. Inombolo yesihlanu yeBhunga: isidlo esihle sesilungelelaniso sokuqala ngesondo, ngoko ungayeki ekwenzeni ukuba usuku lwakho luhle kwaye lube luthando.
Kwaye okokugqibela. Musa ukuzama iqabane lakho ukuba uyakuthanda. Ukuba ufuna i nyaniso, kuya kuba kuphela ukuba loo mntu ngokwakhe uzimisele ukuthetha, ngaphandle kwenkcazelo. Emva koko uya kuqonda ngaphandle kwemibandela enoba ungumthandi ofanelekileyo kumfana wakho.