Okokuqala, ngokweengxelo, inani elingaphezulu kwesigama sabasetyhini bafumana iingxaki eziqhelekileyo okanye ngezikhathi ezithile nge-orgasm. Kwaye, ukungabikho kwesondo akubi kakhulu indoda, njengabaninzi babo abangaqhelekanga ukwenza oku ngaphandle kokonwaba. Okwesibini, ibhinqa linokulala ngesinye ixesha xa engathandi. Kodwa indlela yokwenza amadoda enze uthando yinto engeyona nto. Emva koko, amadoda amaninzi akakwazi ukwenza uthando xa engafuni.
Okokuqala kufuneka ufumane isizathu sokungabikho kwesondo kwintsapho. Uninzi lwezifo zesondo zihlukanisa iintlobo ezintathu zezizathu ezinjalo.
Isizathu sokuqala sisekudakaleni kokukhangwa ngesondo. Amadoda angafuni ukulala ngesondo anokunyamekela ukuba loo ntokazi iyabuza. Kodwa abanqwenela ukuba banqwenela ukuthatha inyathelo. Kule meko, ukwenza umntu enze uthando luyinyani. Ngokukodwa ukuba akanalo uhlobo lwesibini lwe-disorder-disorder disorder, ebizwa ngokuba engenamandla kubantu. Nangona kunjalo, siya kuthetha ngale nto ngezantsi. Okwangoku, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele oko kufuneka ukuyiqwalasela, ukuba umntu wakho unokukwazi, kodwa akafuni. Ngokuqhelekileyo imbangela yokunciphisa (libido) ibangelwa ukugula kunye nokutya kwezidakamizwa zamachiza. Yiya kudibana nendoda, ukuba ithe yafumana unyango, kwaye iyeza zonyango ziyanciphisa umnqweno wesondo. Emva koko, le yinto yesikhashana. Ukunciphisa umnqweno kuphazamiseka kakubi ngongcinezelo, ukungaphili kwamandla, ukulamba, ukunyamezela. Indlela yokujongana nazo zonke ezi ngxaki - mhlawumbi unokuziqiqa. Kukho nawuphi na, abafunanga iingcebiso ezikhethekileyo kwi-sexologist.
Kunzima kakhulu ukwenza indoda ifune wena ukuba izizathu aziyiyo yezinto eziphilayo, kodwa zengqondo. Ukunciphisa umnqweno kungabonakali kwaye kuyasebenza. Kwimeko yokuqala, indoda iya kukhetha ukubukela iTV ngocansi, kodwa ukuba uyamenywa ukuba enze uthando, akayi kunqaba. Kwimeko yesibini, ukuphepha ukukhusela ngokwesini kwindoda kunokungabi mnandi kumfazi. Umyeni unako ukuhlala emsebenzini kude kube phakathi kobusuku, uzame ukubuyela ekhaya ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, uphukise ingxabano, emva koko uya kulala kwi-sofa, njl. Ngokuqhelekileyo iintsapho, apho umbuzo wendlela yokwenza umntu wenze uthando, yinto epheleleyo yeengxabano ezingaphendulwanga ezicatshulwa ngokucophelela okanye zixutywe. Ukuza kumgangatho oqhelekileyo wezenzo zesondo, akunakwenzeka ukwenza ngaphandle kokuxazulula le ngxabano.
Isizathu sesibini sokunqongophala kwesondo siyi-disorder disorder. Kule meko, ukulungiswa komntu kunokungabikho okanye kungabikho kancinci, ngamanye amaxesha akwanele ukuphelisa isenzo sesondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo i-harbinger yale ngxaki yinto yokuba indoda ayikwazi ukuqala ngesondo ngaphandle kwe-caresses yokuqala yomlomo. Kuya kuba kuhle kwiimeko ezinjalo ukuba ungamphoqeleli umntu ukuba enze uthando, kodwa ukuya kumgqirha olungileyo. Izizathu zokungabikho kokulungiswa kwendawo zingakwazi nokuba ngumzimba kunye nengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxilongwa kweengxaki ngokuqhelekileyo kuqalile ngokufunda ngempilo yomntu. Kukholelwa ukuba ubulili besini buthathaka, kwaye buphulwe ngenxa yongquzulwano encinane. Enyanisweni, oku kusebenza nakwamadoda. Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda awanakho ukulungiswa ngamabhinqa amaninzi, okanye ngabafazi abesabayo. Kwaye ngexesha elifanayo, bonke baqhuba ngokugqibeleleyo "kwicala" okanye ngokwaneliseka. Ukuze uqonde ukuba wenzeni kwimeko ethile, kufuneka uxoxe nendoda ngale ngxaki. Yaye ufumanisa ukuba unako ukulungiswa ngelixa ukhangele uonografi okanye uhlazo lomzimba. Ukuba ngaba kunjalo, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka ujongane neengxaki zengqondo kulwalamano.
Isizathu sesithathu sokupholisa owesilisa kukuphulwa kwesigaba se-orgasm. Inokuthi ibonakaliswe ngokubambezeleka okanye ukukhawuleza ukunyuka. Kule meko, indoda inokufuna umfazi, inokulungiswa kakuhle, kodwa inokuphepha isondo kuphela ngenxa yokuba ukwesaba ukubonakala njengomthandi obi. I-orgasm yomntu isicatshulwa, ehambelana ne-reflex of urination or defecation. Ukuba umntu wakho akayi kulala embhedeni ebusuku kwaye akahluphekanga ngenxa yokuzibetha, ngoko ngokubanzi unokukwazi ukulawula iingcamango zakhe. Ngoko ke, izizathu zokulawula okanye ukulawulwa okwaneleyo kwe-orgasm kufuneka zifunwe kummandla weemvakalelo. Mhlawumbi, i-orgasm ngokukhawuleza kwindoda-le ngenye yeentlobo ezimbalwa zokuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo, xa umntu enyanzelekile ukuba enze uthando. Emva koko, esinye sezizathu zaso-ukhenketho okwenyuka kumfazi wakhe. Uyamnceda umntu onothando kangangokuthi akakwazi ukubamba iimvakalelo zakhe. Emva koko unokwesaba ukuba akayena umthandi kakhulu kwaye uqala ukuphepha isondo. Ngenxa yoko, ulala kwakhona u-chesusur ujabule. Kwaye uyabuhlungu kwakhona. Ngokudlulileyo, ngokukhawuleza kwe-orgasm, kuhle ukuba umntu abe nesondo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukwenzela ukuba ngexesha lokushisa komnqweno luyehla kwaye unokuzilawula ngcono.
Xa amadoda anesigaba esiqinileyo sokufikelela kwi-orgasm, izizathu zinokuthi zifakwe kwi-control over control. Ukuba nomnqweno ogqithiseleyo wokulawula yonke into emalunga nomntu kunokusukela ebuntwaneni. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuvela njengempendulo yokuzivikela ekugatheni iimpawu zakhe zomntu ngumfazi. Ukuba umntu onjalo evakalelwa kukuba umfazi wakhe akayithandi, ubona umntu olahlekileyo okanye engaqinisekanga ngothando lwakhe lomntu, unokuba ngumsindo kangangokuthi akakwazi ukufumana i-orgasm. Okanye uya kufuna ixesha elide lokufikelela kwi-detente.
Njengoko kunokubonwa ukusuka ngasentla, nayiphi na indlela yokupholisa ubudlelwane bezesondo kufuna ukuhlalutya izinto ezimbini - isimo somzimba somntu kunye nenqanaba lokuthuthuzela kwengqondo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, mhlawumbi umfazi ngokwakhe uvuselela iingxaki ngesini somyeni wakhe. Ngaphambi kokuba umfazi ethathe isigqibo sokwenza umntu enze uthando, kufuneka ulungele ukuba inyaniso yezinto ezimbi ziza kuvuleka kwinkqubo.