Nqwenela umnqweno
Namhlanje, indlela enenzuzo kakhulu yokuthengisa umkhiqizo ukubopha ngesondo ngesini kunye nomnqweno, ukunyanzelisa imifanekiso kunye nemifanekiso kumthengi, ukufanekisela umfanekiso womntu ofuna, othanda, othandayo kwaye ukhetha kuphela okulungileyo kakhulu. Imodeli yezocansi, iifoto ezinemifanekiso kunye nemifanekiso, abalinganiswa beemiboniso zeTV kunye neengoma zakho ezizithandayo. Iqala ukubonisa ukuba zonke iingubo eziphezulu kunye ne "super libido". Imifanekiso ethi nasokruzhayut isisondeza ngcamango yesimo esifanelekileyo sokuziphatha, kunye neendlela ezithandwayo kunye neemfuno ezifunyenweyo zenza ukuba siqale ukungaqiniseki. Enyanisweni, kungekudala okanye kamva, siyaqonda ukuba asihlangani nabo. Kwaye, enyanisweni, ngamnye wethu ngumntu nje, kungeyena uluhlu lweqhawe. Akunomlilo onomdla ovela encwadini, kungekhona umkhohlisi wokuthetha obulalayo. Kwaye emva koko, enye yezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokubonakala kweengxaki zesini zobuxoki zifumana ingxaki "yokungayifuni".
Namhlanje kubonakala ngathi kufuneka sihlale sinqwenela. Kwaye ukuba le "nto" into enhle kakhulu, ke ngoko sonke sifanele sifune okwethutyana. Yaye ungayeki. Isondo kufuneka sibe yonke imihla, kakuhle, okanye ubuncinane kathathu ngeveki. Yaye ukuba ngokukhawuleza siva malunga nayo kanye ngeveki okanye ezimbini, siqala ukungaqiniseki, siza neengxaki. Kodwa yonke into kukuba xa sifuna ukulala ngesini - ngoko ngu-usinzhen. Okuqhelekileyo. Naluphi na umlinganiselo wesifiso esenza sivuyiswe ngumlinganiselo ofanelekileyo. Yaye ukuba ihambelane nomlingane wethu, ukuba sinokuzithemba kuthi ngokwethu, akukho mifanekiso kunye neengcamango ezinokuthi zingasenza sibe ngenye indlela.
Akunjalo?
Isifo somfundi wezonyango
Kwininzi yabantu abanomntu oxhalabileyo okanye ukuthambekela kwe-cyposochrism bafumana iingxaki zabo zolwazi olubonakalayo. Kwaye nantsi zonke iinyaniso zibilisa phantsi kwelokuba ukuba into isitshekishwe kakuhle, kwaye iya kufumaneka. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza sicinga "Nokuba ndinento engalunganga ...", kungekudala okanye kamva siya kufumana iimpawu ezikude zesi sifo, ngenxa yokuba sifumana. Kwaye ugule. Ngokukrakra, umntu akafanele angayithinteli amandla omntu kunye nokusola kwakhe. Kwisithunzi somgca, ukuba ufuna, ungabona lonke i-tiger. Ngokukhethekileyo ngesondo - isihloko esincinci kakhulu kwaye sinomdla, ngokuqinisekileyo abaninzi abantu abanokuzithemba kwabo ngokwabo nangamakhono abo. Ngoko bazama ukundinceda ... ukuba into ephosakeleyo kubo.
Iimbono eziPhambili
Nangona ngosuku olunye kubonakala ngathi sineengxaki, kutheni ungaqinisekisi ngokukhawuleza oku okuvela kumlingane? Kwakhona ufuna ukuba ujabule, ujabule kwaye ube nethemba kwimpilo yakho. Emva koko, isondo sinomba kubini, oku kuthetha ukuba kuwo onke amava akho kufuneka ube ngumntu othe tye. Ukuba kukho into ekuphazamisayo, qhagamshelana naye, yabelane ngeengcamango zakho kunye nokwesaba. Xa kwenzeka ukuba ukwesaba kwakho akusilize, inkxaso yomntu onothando, amandla okusebenzisana kunye neziphene, yenza izigqibo ezinzima, uncedo kumlingane-ubaluleke kakhulu ngamnye. Kukho iingxaki ezincinci zobume obusondeleyo ukuba isibini sinokuzixazulula ngokwazo, ngaphandle koluncedo lugqirha. Into ephambili kukuqonda kunye nomonde, umnqweno wokunceda iqabane kunye nokusombulula ingxaki kunye.
I-sexologist isoloko icebise iimbini zeendlela ezifuna ukuthembela, umsebenzi odibeneyo kwiiphoso, nokuphinda ucingisise kwakhona. Ngokomzekelo, isenzo esinjenge-"Ukuqinisa ubulunga". Sebenza ekuqondeni, ukuhlonipha, ukunyamekela kuyafumaneka kuwo onke amabini. Kukho nawuphi na, impazamo enkulu umntu angayenza kule meko kukugcina yonke into kwaye ukuhlangabezana neengxaki zodwa. Umntu omthandayo okanye osemva uya kuphawula uxhalaba lwakho, kungcono ukuxelela ngokukhawuleza - kuya kuba mnandi kuye ukuba uthembele iimvakalelo ezithe xaxa kunye neemvakalelo.
Ngaba oku kuqhelekileyo?
Ngamnye wethu ngamaxesha athatha umbuzo: ngaba oku kuqhelekileyo? Omnye uhlala exhalaba malunga nokuba uyaqhelekileyo ngesondo, kukulungile ukunyanzelwa oko sifuna. Kwaye, ngokungabandakanyeki, ininzi kuthi kule mfanelo kuthile ezinye ii-quirks. Omnye ukwesaba ukungafani nomntu wonke, ulahlekelwe ukulawula, ungaphambuki okanye wazi nje ukuba unokwenza "ukuphambuka", ngelixa abanye bathenyiswa ukuba bahluke, njengento yonke, inomdla, engaqhelekanga.
Ngokuqhelekileyo lo mbuzo esizibuza wona sele sinobudlelwane obungunaphakade. Sinoyikeka loo nto, kodwa ngokukhawuleza iqabane lifumanisa i-nasenormalnym, ayithandi imibono yethu okanye iminqweno kwaye asihlanganisani kuyo? Ukwesaba ukugatywa kusenqaba ngakumbi nangakumbi kumntu esimthandayo kunye nathi. Silahlekelwa yithemba kuthi ngokwezenzo zethu, sinokuzixhalabisa kwaye sinoxhala. Ngaba siyayifuna le nto?
Ezinye izibini ziza zihluke ngokupheleleyo. Into ephambili, cinga ukuba, ukuseka uqhagamshelwano. Nangona unendlela ethile engavamile, uthanda izinto ezingezizo eziqhelekileyo kunye nezingaqhelekanga kwisondo, nokuba ngaba "unxaxha" ukusuka kuluntu jikelele luluntu ... akunto konke ukuba wonke umntu ayithande. Into ephambili kukuba oku kuvuyisa kwaye akulimazi ubudlelwane. Ukuba unabantwana abane-penguin inxaxheba ekhokelayo, kwaye kwezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi, uziziva ugula ... yintoni umehluko owanelisayo? Indlela oyithandayo, yedwa owaziyo kuphela.
Ndakhele i-disorder entsha ye-psyche yami
Nangona uqonda ukuba akukho nto ebalulekileyo malunga nokwesaba kwakho, usadingeka uqonde ukuba kutheni uqala ukuxhalabisa nokuva. Yintoni eyenza uzive ungakhululekile? Zibuze: Yintoni eyenza ucinge ngako? Kwaqala nini? Mhlawumbi uza kufumana unxibelelwano phakathi kokuxhalaba kunye neziganeko ezinokubakhokelela. Iingxaki zesini-zesini zintlupheko xa kuthelekiswa neengxaki ezinzulu, kodwa azikwazi ukunyanzelwa, kuba zisabangela ukhathazeka nokuxhalabisa. Ngoko ke, nangona ingxaki ingenaso isiseko esingundoqo senzululwazi, kuyimfuneko ukuba ubuyisele intle. Ngenxa yokuba ukungathandabuzeki, ukuxhalaba nokukhathazeka ngokuqhelekileyo kukhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu, njengeentlobo ezincinci ezikhokelela emlilweni omkhulu. Musa ukudala iingxaki ezingadingekile, ukuhlonela umntu kunye nokuthanda umzimba wakho.