Mhlawumbi ubomi bakho bentsapho babenothando lokuqala, nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo ziyaziwa zizinzile. Kwaye kufika umzuzu xa uqala ukuzibuza imibuzo, kutheni kwenzeka yonke into. Kwaye akuzange yini uzibonele isizathu sokunciphisa umdla womntu kuwe? Omnye umfuphi wesigcawu saseFransi kunye nomfilosofi uPeter Boast wathi " abafazi abazange baqine njengokuba baxhobile ngamandla abo."
Ubugcisa bokuthabatha
Unako ukudibana nabaninzi babasetyhini abanobuso babo obuhle kunye neenhle abakwazi ukubizwa kunye namanani abo aqhelekileyo, nangona ... Ubufazi babo bubenza bafuneke kwaye bakhangele emehlweni abo. Kwiintsuku zethu, ubufazi buyingqayizivele. Umfazi wesimanje uthatha isikhundla esichukumisayo sokuphila kwaye unenkani ekufezekiseni iinjongo zakhe, nokuba kuqeqesho okanye ukuqhuba inkqubela kwinqanaba lomsebenzi. Oku, akunjalo, akunjalo, kodwa, ngaba uqaphele ukuba imbeko yakho, i-gait, kwaye ikhangeleka yatshintsha? Masibuyele kubo abo imifanekiso yabo namhlanje ikhuthaza abaninzi ukuba baxelise.
Khumbula ukumkanikazi waseYiputa, uCleopatra. Unina wabantwana abane kunye nomlawuli welizwe lonke - ingumzekelo wokuxelisa umfazi wesimanje? Ngelo xesha, uyaziwa ngokuba ngumnqobi weentliziyo zabantu, kwaye ubuchule bakhe bokugcina ubuhle bakhe buye lwasinda nanamhlanje, khumbula ubuncinane iMicopatra kunye nokuhlamba kweCleopatra. Kodwa ngaba wayemhle? Kule akhawunti, kukho imibono eyahlukileyo. Abanye bafaka ukubonakala kwayo ngempumlo ende kunye ne-strong desire-chin. Imithombo emininzi eyehlile kuthi ukususela kumaxesha amandulo ithi ukumkanikazi wayeneengqondo ezibukhali, enomdla, wayengumdiplomate omkhulu, kwaye ilizwi eliphantsi lokuthabatha liyakunqumla umntu. Ngamawaka amabini amawaka igama lakhe alizange liye laphazamisa iingcinga zabaculi abaninzi bamaxesha ahlukeneyo, njengoShakespeare, uPushkin, uBernard Shaw nabanye abaninzi. Imifanekiso ka-ukumkanikazi, igcinwe kwizithombe kunye neengqekembe - zihlukeneyo kwaye ayinikezi ngcamango enye yedatha yangaphandle. Ukuba ngumgangatho wobuntombi. ICleopatra iyahlala iyimfihlelo, ifihla kuthi ukuba iyiphi na into phantsi kwembole leminyaka.
Kwaye zingaphi iingcamango ngeNdlovukazi yaseShebha? Kwenye yeencwadi zeTalmud, i-Midrash, ingqondo yakhe nobuhle bakhe badunyiswa. Bamnqoba noKumkani uSolomon. Wathandwa gqitha ngumfazikazi waseShebha kangangokuthi wayecinga ukuba uMtyholi ngokwakhe wayekulo. Ngoko ke, weza ngobuqhetseba bokuvavanya ukuqiqa kwakhe, ecinga ukuba esikhundleni seenyawo zendlovukazi phantsi kweengubo kufuneka zibe yizinkunzi zeebhokhwe. Ngethuba lokufika kwe-tsarina, uSolomon wayakhe indlu yokubeka ingilazi ngaphantsi kweentlanzi ezazityhutyha waza wabuza ubuhle ukuba buye kwiholo. Wamangaliswa xa ukumkanikazi ephakamisa ingubo yakhe phezu kwamanzi, njengokuba nayiphi na enye intombazana yayingayenza, kwaye ngaphantsi kwayo yayiyiqela leemilenze zentliziyo, kodwa iindlovu kunye neenwele, kungekuyo yonke into ekhangayo. Ucinga ukuba emva koko uSolomon walahlekelwa ngumdla kuye? Ukubonakala kwindlovukazi, ehamba kunye ne-large retinue, ezimbini i-panther kunye ne-nice div-naked naked, zamshaya kuloo ndawo. Ewe, ukwenzela ukuba isiqhamo sothando lwabo sasingunyana wabo.
Yintoni ubufazi?
Ubuninzi bubambiswano lobubele, ukulungiswa kunye neeplastiki. Ubuntwini buyabonwa ngokukhawuleza, kubonisa ukuhlukelela kwiimpawu ezinamandla zokulwa zomntu. Ngenxa yowesifazane omnene nowesithambileyo, indoda yentaba ilungele ukuguquka, iqiniseke ngobungangamsha bayo. Emva koko, into ephambili yindoda kukubona amandla akhe. UCharles Baudelaire waphinda wathi "umfazi uyisimemo sokonwaba."
Ukujonga njani umfazi?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukugxininisa umahluko phakathi kwakho nomntu. Nika iingubo zendoda kunye nemibala emnyama, kunye nayo yonke into eyenza isitayela sakho sabantu, kubandakanywa izibophelelo, iintambo kunye nezinye izixhobo zempahla yabantu. Kuhle ukuzama ukuba uyazi ukuba ungayenza njani, kodwa kungcono ukusebenzisa i-feminine eyaziwayo-iiflethi, iinqanawa, i-berets, i-flowing silhouettes.
Ngaba ungeyonto eninzi? Uhleka njani? Ngaba uyayifumanisa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngobuchule ukusebenzisa i-makeup? Ngamaxesha amaninzi ukwenza ukuncoma? Ngaba bayamxabisa ububele bakho kunye neendlela? Ukuba akunjalo, kukufanele uzijonge ngaphandle kwaye ucinge. Abafazi abancinci nabanyanisekileyo abangekho bodwa. Emva koko, okokuqala, amadoda ayaxabisa kwiinkwenkwezi zesini.