Ukuba uphumelela ukwenza umsebenzi, kwaye uhlala udunyiswa ngabasemagunyeni, andinakukukhwele. Asiyithandi abantu abanenhlanhla. Kwaye nangona ukuba unomsebenzi osebenzayo, awuyi kuthanda. Ngokukodwa akulula kulula ukufumana ngokukhawuleza ukufika. "Ixesha elidala" lomsebenzi wakho owandisiweyo uya kuhlala usabela kakubi. Uya kubaqonda kwakhona - basebenze bonke ubomi babo kwisikimu esithile, becinga ukuba yedwa kunye nelungileyo. Kwaye ulapha unobunzima bakho bobudala, amaphupha ukuguqula konke ukuphucula kunye neqela leengcamango ezintsha. Into yokuqala okufuneka ubhekane nayo ngumona omnyama. Ifihlakele kwaye iqondise, kodwa ihlala ihlelelekile. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Indlela yokujongana nomona wabalingane kunye nabo? Yiloo nto kwaye uthetha.
UBernard Shaw unamazwi athi: "Ubuninzi babantu abakhweleyo bubethusa, ukungabikho kwabakhoyokisayo." Ngokukhawuleza xa unesifiso sokugula kunye nabantu abanobukhwele, yazi: uya ngendlela efanelekileyo. Abantu abanobukhwele bayisilathisi sempumelelo. Impumelelo ephezulu - ngakumbi uya kuba nomona. Nangona umntu ophumelela ngempumelelo ufuna ukuba asebenze kwaye akazange acinge "ukutshisa imisila yakhe" kunoma ubani, oogxa bakhe baya kuqhathanisa naye. Kuyo nayiphi na iqoqo ikhona imithetho engaqinisekanga, kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa umntu ephumelela ngakumbi kunabanye, yena, eqinisweni, uyaphula le mithetho. Yaye njengoko impendulo ithola ukumelana nokuzola kweqela lonke. Awuyi kugxinwa evulekile. Ukuba ubuza oogxa bakho ukuba 'bakugubungele' kwaye ushiye emsebenzini, qiniseka ukuba uya kuba "ukhangela" umphathi. Ukuba wenza iphutha, le mpazamo iya kuhlonyelwa ukuba ayinakwenzeka. Yaye i-oblique imibala, i-whisper ngemuva kwakho, "izigulane" kunye nenjongo yokukhupha ukuba ungakuqapheli - ayikho into enhle kakhulu. Ukulahla abantu abanomona kulula. Ngenxa yoko, akudingeki wenze nantoni na. Ngokwenene ngqiqo. Yeka "ukucaphukisa" umphathi ukuba adumise. Thepha kwindawo. Ungabonakali. Yiba yimpunga. Ngaphantsi kwenyanga, uthando olupheleleyo lwabahlobo bakho luqinisekiswa kuwe. Unelisekile ngeli khetho? Ndicinga. Ngako oko, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuphumelela kunye nokulahlekelwa okuncinci kwimivo yakho.
YINTONI UKUBA WENZA UKUBA UTHUNA?
• Musa ukuziqhayisa kwaye ungabhengezi iimpumelelo zakho. Nangona uthanda umphathi kwaye uye wandisa kathathu umvuzo wakho (ngelixa bonke abasebenzi behlala befana), cwaka kwaye ungabonakali nabani na ukuba uyinto eyahlukileyo kwabanye. Vumela abasebenzi bakho bathukuthele xa uphakanyiswa uze udluliselwe kwelinye isebe, kodwa ngelixa uhlala kwiqela - zama ukuba yinxalenye yalo.
• Ungaqapheli, ukuba kunokwenzeka, "i-hairpin" kwidilesi yakho - zenziwe ngokukodwa ukukukhupha kwi-rut. Ukuba uvumela ukuba imeko ihambe kuwe, uya kuxhalabisa kwaye uphazamiseke ngokufunyanwa kwephulo lomntu - uya kulahla.
• Musa ukuba "ihashe elimnyama" leqela. Valiwe asiyithandi. Khumbula iGrbachev, owawubonisa ngokucacileyo abantu kuphela umfazi wakhe, aze amthelekise kunye noYeltsin, owawuthanda uthando oluthandwayo ngokudansa "i-polka-butterfly" eneenkwenkwezi. Kodwa musa ukulahla zonke iimfihlo zentendelezo yaseMadrid - ayinangqiqo. Phawula umyeni, abantwana, umkhwekazi ... Kwanele ukudala ukukhohlisa kokuvuleka.
• Ungazichasani nangokuba akhathaleli umsebenzi. Ukuba phakathi kwabaqeshwa kukho iintombi ezindala, akufaneleki ukuxelela ukuba unamanveli amathathu ngexesha elinye. Yongeza ezinye izinto ezingalunganga ngaphambili, kwaye abantu abakhweleyo abanakukuchaphazela.
• "Yiba lula kuwe." Ukuba ukwenza oku njalo, ngoko xa uphakanyiswa, akukho mntu uya kucinga ngokukukhanda, ngokuchaseneyo, baya kuthi: "Hayi, ubuncinane into enhle kuye."
• Yazi ukuba ukuzisola kuhlale kulula kunokunyamekela omnye. Sebenzisa oku. Kodwa apha into eyona nto ayiyikuyidlulisa - ukuba uyasitsho ukuba uyasuswa, kodwa ngokwenene uya kunikwa imoto esemthethweni, unokucinga ukuba unobunyulu. Ngendlela, ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngaphambi kokukhuthazwa uqala "ukukhala" kungekhona kubasebenzi, kodwa abantu abangahambelani nomsebenzi wakho, kufuneka uqikelele. Kukho abantu abaphumeleleyo abangabonakaliyo xa befaniswa nokulahleka, abazigxilile enqabeni, kodwa ekugwemeni ukungaphumeleli. Imiba engqongileyo inokukuqonda oku njengobuzenzisi noloyiko lomona. Enyanisweni, umntu akayicingi ngento yokuba umntu uya kumkhwele, uhlala nje ehlangabezana nokukhathazeka kwakhe. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umntu onjalo akaphumelelanga nakwezinye iinkalo zobomi bakhe, ngoko ke ubambelela kakhulu kwiimeko zengqesho.
• Ukuba ulwalamano nomnye umntu osebenza naye lucacile, kukulungele ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo naye ubuso nobuso. Buza umqeshwa-ukuba kukucaphukisa kakhulu. Ukuba uqhutywe kakuhle, le ngxoxo ingabonakala kakuhle. Ekugqibeleni, mhlawumbi wenza into eningayenziyo - umzekelo, ziqhayisa ngobuhlobo bakho nabaphathi bakho?
• Njengokuba ngaba ngethuba, xelela osebenza naye ukuba uhloniphe igunya lakhe namava. Cela uncedo, unomdla kwimbono yakho ngomsebenzi wakho, cela uncedo. Kungenzeka ukuba umntu onomona uya kuqala ukukhawuleza - izicwangciso zakhe akunakwenzeka ukuba nobuhlobo obuhle nawe.
• Kubalulekile ukuba uzame ukusekwa nomqeshwa ngamnye olobuhlobo, ukuba umsebenzi kunye nomsebenzi uya kugxeka kwimvelaphi. Ngomnye uza kuxubusha imbonakalo yeenja, ukuba ngaba bobabini ababelethi bezinja, omnye umntu osebenza naye uya kuthi: "Nantsi sinyanzeliswa ukulima njengamahashe, kuba sinamadoda alucebile (izidakwa, njl.)." Yibandezeleke njengokuba kunjalo. Ukukhokelwa ngumgaqo: "Siyigazi elifanayo."
• Ukuthanda izithethe zendibano. Ukuba ngehora lesine abasebenzi bakho basele itiye, ngoko ke, nangona xa usondla, yidla iqatha lekheke elibhakwa ngumqeshwa.
Kwaye ingcebiso ebaluleke kakhulu:
• Musa "ukucotha" nangayiphi na indlela, ukuze ungabhubhisi kwakhona abantu ababi. Uyakwenza ube nzima kakhulu. Ngethuba nje xa kunomdla kunye namandla-qhubeka phambili! Njengoko bathetha, inja iyabetha, kwaye i-caravan iya.
INDLELA YOKWENZA KANJANI IIKOLOLEJI?
Kungenzeka ukuba awudingi zonke ezi zicwangciso ngesizathu esilula sokuba ... unomona, kungekhona wena. Kwaye uye nezizathu ezininzi zokuthi kungani ungayithandi umlingane wakho, kodwa ngokwenene uyamhlonela nje ngolu khuphiswano. Ukuba sibona iimvakalelo ezilungileyo ngathi, kulula, njengokuba umthetho, siphika. Ukuqaphela ukuba umona umntu uyavuma ukuba uloyiko lokuba lo mntu uya kukushiya emva. Kufuneka wenze umsebenzi othile ukuze uqonde ukuba unomona, kuba umona awunakwenzeka. Ukuba umntu uyavuma ukuba unomona, oku kuyinyathelo elikhulu ekupheliseni le mpono. Ngoko, cinga:
• Ukunyanzelana nomntu ophumelelayo ngumqondiso ocacileyo wokungenzi inzuzo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, sinciphisa isidima kwabanye abantu size sicinge ngempumelelo engafanelekanga. Khangela ngokukhawuleza, uthini wakho osebenza naye ukuze enze ukukhuthazwa okunjalo? Thatha amava.
• Umona uyisitha esibi kunazo zonke. Omnye ulungele kuphela ukuba ngubani kunye nabaphathi abanikezelweyo, kwaye ekupheleni komsebenzi oza kuziva ukhululekile kwaye unyanzelekile. Kwaye ungeke ukhumbule ukuba unyaka odlulileyo umphathi omnye wakunika imali mboleko ukuthenga indlu? Balekela ezi ngcamango ukuba ukulinganisela kwakho kukuthandekile kuwe kwaye ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa into ebomini.
• Umona ungabonakalisa ukuba ungayenzi ngokusemgangathweni: "Ukubambisa ngaphambi kokuba ubalekele kwaye uwele emhlabathini." Yikhokelela kwisigxina samaxesha aseSoviet: "Ukubamba nokufumana".